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This has guided (and possibly also saved) me numerous times, in terms of both everyday decisions and long-term plans. Great heuristic for a youngster, because it makes every decision one's own. Thanks dad!
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> Platonic friendship between men and women is a myth This is a not unusual opinion amongst Americans, and one I questioned myself, but I can assure you after moving to Europe its a cultural issue(especially in the south).
Europe also has much higher infidelity rates, with France reporting over 37% of women (using women as an example since the data came up more easily) having had affairs compared to 13% in the usa.
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You are somewhat close minded. Don't take this as a quick accusation of some -ism. I just get that you're not at all open to new experiences. * You think you figured out people. But non of us have figured out people. Being open minded means at least trying to give any person a chance. You already have them divided into types and dismissed. * You think to be friends you need people with the same hobbies and interests.…
> * You think to be friends you need people with the same hobbies and interests. At least in that point there is some truth to it. What activities will you engage in with people, if you do not share hobbies or interests? Activities will be quite limited, unless you discover some shared interest or hobby. Maybe your shared interest will be once a week sitting in a café and talking about your job. As long as it is a sh…
I disagree with the prescription that it shouldn't/couldn't. Saying something is unlikely is different to closing that door.
People and society are complex, and the long tail is really long. That's why being open minded and really giving the person in front of you some consideration is really important.
I followed the advice of lifting weights. Before that I was feeling pretty tired of my life, barely played with my little son, was exhasuted in my work as data scientist and my personal relationships with my wife, family and friends were poor. Also I didn't had the energy to pursue my hobbies, was abusing cannabis and alcohol and had poor eating and sleeping habits. Since I started going to the gym and found this sim…
Would it be terrible to mostly use weight machines? That’s all my gym has?
Having tight positive feedback loops is great for motivation. For example when writing code, seeing immediately if it works. Either by hot reloading, automated testing or at least building it. I try to find the same in other mundane topics.
This resonates with me, and is what I always try to drum into less experienced engineers when we're pairing. You'd be surprised how often someone who doesn't know programming that well will sit down and code for a whole hour before checking if any of it works. I'm checking every line to see if it works before moving on!
From a girlfriend who was my intellectually superior (which I had a hard time dealing with) You are responsible for your actions - no one else. "But I did it because...". No. You chose to do it. You are responsible. Other people are responsible for their actions. Not you. She was/is right.
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Would it be terrible to mostly use weight machines? That’s all my gym has?
Machines trick you into thinking you're progressing. The first time I went from Smith machine squats to free weight squats, I couldn't walk the next day (went from 150kg on the machine to 80kg free weight).
This is a mix of Buddhist, Hindu, and Stoic philosophy: Ask yourself this, why do you do anything? For the sake of Profit? Recognition? Love? Or return of any kind? Any deed done with reward in mind creates an expectation which, if not met, causes suffering. Similarly, you will end up focusing more on the reward than the task itself and will unable to be loyal to the task. The only reason you must do a task is becaus…
I prefer the Japanese concept that, and I'm paraphrasing here, "every action has a purpose." Putting value on the actions themselves adds an appreciation for the moment you are in, and the process you are doing. It then becomes a sign of respect for you to do everything in your life to the best of your ability. There's a whole philosophy about this, but the name of it escapes me.
A few things I've found that are related: "The was of the peaceful warrior" - Book
This is water - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eC7xzavzEKY
Sorry if this is a little rambly, I have ADHD and my adderoll is doing its thing.
Long time ago a friend copied some albums onto minidisk for me. When I played them I saw that he had named each album and track fully. This would have been done by manually choosing each letter using the arrow keys on the remote. It would have taken many hours to do this very tedious task. When I expressed my amazement and thanks, he shrugged and said something that stuck with me ever since: "If a job is worth doing,…
There's a better version of that last sentence: "If it's worth doing, it's word doing poorly" In other words, if it's worth doing, it's worth struggling through the many frustrating failures until you can do it well. Otherwise, you might get put off by not being able to do it "well"
It has helped a lot with my hesitation to start projects.
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Machines trick you into thinking you're progressing. The first time I went from Smith machine squats to free weight squats, I couldn't walk the next day (went from 150kg on the machine to 80kg free weight).
I just don’t think my knees could handle squats. I was thinking to do a leg press with lower weight. Like 20 reps.