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Post by roland35 »

glenngillen wrote: post #48

Work and career progression: “always take the interview”. I reported direct to the CEO at a startup and I told him our largest customer had headhunted me, and I assumed I wasn’t special and they’re probably targeting many of us. He asked me what the process was like and what the offer was, and when I told him I didn’t take the initial call hand he shook his head. “You always take the interview. Absolute worst case is…

I know it's good advice to keep interviewing skills fresh, but boy is it a time commitment. I had to study for a few months to prepare for my last round of interviews and as the meme goes, I haven't really used leet code in my job!

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Post by roland35 »

imnotreallynew wrote: post #144
glenngillen wrote: post #48

Work and career progression: “always take the interview”. I reported direct to the CEO at a startup and I told him our largest customer had headhunted me, and I assumed I wasn’t special and they’re probably targeting many of us. He asked me what the process was like and what the offer was, and when I told him I didn’t take the initial call hand he shook his head. “You always take the interview. Absolute worst case is…

I would be very interested in learning what that startup was called.

Small company known as General Electric

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imnotreallynew wrote: post #144
glenngillen wrote: post #48

Work and career progression: “always take the interview”. I reported direct to the CEO at a startup and I told him our largest customer had headhunted me, and I assumed I wasn’t special and they’re probably targeting many of us. He asked me what the process was like and what the offer was, and when I told him I didn’t take the initial call hand he shook his head. “You always take the interview. Absolute worst case is…

I would be very interested in learning what that startup was called.

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Re: Ask HN: What is the best advice you got on any aspect of life?

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Post by seventhtiger »

csomar wrote: post #225
bloopernova wrote: post #62

For young, single heterosexual men; cultivate deep platonic friendships with women. Get a hobby, do charity work, find something where you meet and become good friends with multiple women of different ages and backgrounds. Do not ever attempt to date any of these women. Why? Because most men know woefully few women, and your life will be much richer. A lot of men know very little about the experiences, fears, and hop…

A woman will very unlikely give you an honest advice. They are usually not made for that with friends. They usually just re-assure and "support" you. That's been my experience. There are two types of woman who will be-friend you platonically: Woman who are interested in you sexually as a partner and want to be close to your radar, just in case. Woman who are not interested in you but find value in your friendship (ei…

You are somewhat close minded. Don't take this as a quick accusation of some -ism. I just get that you're not at all open to new experiences.

* You think you figured out people. But non of us have figured out people. Being open minded means at least trying to give any person a chance. You already have them divided into types and dismissed.

* You think to be friends you need people with the same hobbies and interests.

* You think your hobbies and interests are already set.

Whether your goal is to find a partner or to find friends, trying to figure out and decide about people in the privacy of your mind, then projecting that on the world will hamper your goals.

Humble yourself, assume you're wrong, and allow people to surprise you.

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Post by seventhtiger »

test1235 wrote: post #57
sebastiansm wrote: post #43

I followed the advice of lifting weights. Before that I was feeling pretty tired of my life, barely played with my little son, was exhasuted in my work as data scientist and my personal relationships with my wife, family and friends were poor. Also I didn't had the energy to pursue my hobbies, was abusing cannabis and alcohol and had poor eating and sleeping habits. Since I started going to the gym and found this sim…

I also started on stronglifts and moved onto greyskull lp shortly after my progression stalled and I stared to lose interest: https://physiqz.com/workout-routines/powerbuilding-programs/...

When the easy gains are over it becomes much less rewarding. But the easy gains themselves are worthwhile. My plan for that is to step back to a minimal strength maintenance program and focus more on sports and outdoors enabled by the strength.

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Post by zelphirkalt »

seventhtiger wrote: post #256
csomar wrote: post #225

Earlier quoted context omitted.

A woman will very unlikely give you an honest advice. They are usually not made for that with friends. They usually just re-assure and "support" you. That's been my experience. There are two types of woman who will be-friend you platonically: Woman who are interested in you sexually as a partner and want to be close to your radar, just in case. Woman who are not interested in you but find value in your friendship (ei…

You are somewhat close minded. Don't take this as a quick accusation of some -ism. I just get that you're not at all open to new experiences. * You think you figured out people. But non of us have figured out people. Being open minded means at least trying to give any person a chance. You already have them divided into types and dismissed. * You think to be friends you need people with the same hobbies and interests.…

> * You think to be friends you need people with the same hobbies and interests.

At least in that point there is some truth to it. What activities will you engage in with people, if you do not share hobbies or interests? Activities will be quite limited, unless you discover some shared interest or hobby. Maybe your shared interest will be once a week sitting in a café and talking about your job. As long as it is a shared interest, you got at least something to do with the other person.

Socialization in many countries around the world is still very much having strong bias for men and women roles and interests. Without high awareness of this, it is also very difficult for parents to do anything about this. Children are usually not 24/7 with their parents either. They spend a lot of time in other institutions like kindergarden and school, where they usually face a mainstream bias.

This means, that quite often there is a trend for men and women to also have different hobbies and interests. There is of course overlap in many areas, but not everywhere. It is slowly changing, but it will still take a long time. Just to give examples:

When I studied CS, only 10% were women. Looking at biology and psychology for example, we have almost the opposite situation.

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