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Re: Ask HN: Did anyone else lose their marbles?

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Post by edeion »

INTPenis wrote: post #320
idiocrat wrote: post #173

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Please tell me if you find a cure or a way out. I have tried several types of supplements and could fix some of long-lasting energy problems.

I don't think it is an energy problem either. I can find energy for other things, just not my employment. I think people were right that I am stagnating and I feel the need for new challenges. The catch 22 is that my job is so amazing that it gives me the newfound (newly realized) freedom to see the world while working. So I either stay, find some motivation to avoid the shame of not working, and keep travelling to f…

With respect to supplements... I can relate to what you describe and I tend to think it's not just based on chemistry. That being said, on different occasions, I felt a dramatic boost when taking magnesium + zinc + B cocktail. I guess it means I was deficient in those. Who know is you aren't...

Re: Ask HN: Did anyone else lose their marbles?

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Post by itsoktocry »

suranyami wrote: post #100
INTPenis wrote: post #67

I've just become completely lethargic lately. And there's some sort of mental block stopping me from working. It's kinda insane because I can work on other stuff, but as soon as there's a simple task for my employer my mind just wanders off. And when I really try to focus I just go blank in my head. Can't explain shit. I'm trying to slowly get back on the pony just because I'm ashamed of all the salary I've collected…

> It might be rooted in the fact that I don't have kids As a parent: nope, it's definitely not that. Yes, having children is a rich and beautiful experience. It's also a ruthless grind. So, if you think you're feeling lethargic and it's all a bit futile, imagine doing everything you do now, but also arguing with a smaller, more annoying version of yourself for a couple of decades while sleep deprived, and with 1/4 of…

>For instance, one CEO would periodically grab me, walk me a few blocks away from the office and proceed to scream in my face for 20 minutes on the sidewalk.

This would happen to me exactly one time, and never again. I know it happens, but how people put up with such abuse is beyond me.

Re: Ask HN: Did anyone else lose their marbles?

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Post by itsoktocry »

fho wrote: post #194
hobo_mark wrote: post #188

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> For instance, one CEO would periodically grab me, walk me a few blocks away from the office and proceed to scream in my face for 20 minutes on the sidewalk. There are many, many other examples, but honestly, it's all too familiar and boring to recount. Wh..why did you even stay long enough for this to have happened more than once ?

Have you ever walked away from a job? It's really hard to do.

>Have you ever walked away from a job? It's really hard to do

Of course, and of course. But (I presume) the OP works in the same industry most of us do, and that getting another job has been incredibly easy for more than a decade.

Re: Ask HN: Did anyone else lose their marbles?

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Post by everlost »

easeout wrote: post #81
mach1ne wrote: post #64

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Interesting. What condition was this? Its psychology intrigues me.

Here it is. To me it's like a demon you can beat by knowing its name. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence

Fascinating. But is Limerence only when the obsession is targeted towards a person, rather than idea/object?

I've noticed strong feelings of obsession towards an idea/goal, particularly when it's not achievable.

Re: Ask HN: Did anyone else lose their marbles?

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Post by tpoacher »

moffkalast wrote: post #302
tpoacher wrote: post #230

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[inserts gif of homer choking bart]

"This is the worst pet peeve of my life." "The worst pet peeve of your life as far ."

omg, stahp! xD

it's painful as!

ps: apparently the above is legit in new zealand slang

Re: Ask HN: Did anyone else lose their marbles?

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Post by heleninboodler »

giantg2 wrote: post #314
wonderwonder wrote: post #291

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In the long run assuming the age gap is only a year or two it's actually beneficial. First couple years are very hard but after that they are friends and entertain each other. Sure they fight but when they are getting along and helping each other out it's peace on earth. Schedule can get challenging. Kids are all pretty much great by the time they hit 8 years old. It's a bear to get there though. Plus they are paired…

Multiple family medical issues mean if I were to have another kid, there'd be more than 5 years of age gap. Then it means different friend groups, different sports/activities teams, etc. Then add in that one parent works evening hours... Scheduling hell.

And at most ONE YEAR where they actually go to the same school. Ugh.

Re: Ask HN: Did anyone else lose their marbles?

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Post by wonderwonder »

giantg2 wrote: post #314
wonderwonder wrote: post #291

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In the long run assuming the age gap is only a year or two it's actually beneficial. First couple years are very hard but after that they are friends and entertain each other. Sure they fight but when they are getting along and helping each other out it's peace on earth. Schedule can get challenging. Kids are all pretty much great by the time they hit 8 years old. It's a bear to get there though. Plus they are paired…

Multiple family medical issues mean if I were to have another kid, there'd be more than 5 years of age gap. Then it means different friend groups, different sports/activities teams, etc. Then add in that one parent works evening hours... Scheduling hell.

Yeah, that is a tough one; 5 years is trickier.

Re: Ask HN: Did anyone else lose their marbles?

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Post by spikder »

INTPenis wrote: post #67

I've just become completely lethargic lately. And there's some sort of mental block stopping me from working. It's kinda insane because I can work on other stuff, but as soon as there's a simple task for my employer my mind just wanders off. And when I really try to focus I just go blank in my head. Can't explain shit. I'm trying to slowly get back on the pony just because I'm ashamed of all the salary I've collected…

https://www.creativescreenwriting.com/write-vomit-draft-impo...

... once you're using your brain again, all these questions just melt away.

Re: Ask HN: Did anyone else lose their marbles?

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Post by spikder »

avgDev wrote: post #274
wonderwonder wrote: post #265

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This. Kids don't help with burnout. I drive my kids to school each morning at 7:20. This is preceded by 35 minutes of insanity asking them 100 times to get out of bed, eat their breakfast, get dressed, brush their teeth, etc. This morning on the drive in, I got in an argument with my kid over the stupidest thing that is probably my fault but the result was he got out of the car upset and I drove back home irritated,…

I feel this. I am having a really hard time coping with parenting. I am logical person but my toddler is not. I like reading books and just silence which allows me to think. That is completely gone in our house now. It is mostly crying, screaming, followed by more crying. There are some beautiful moments that I will cherish, but I really have a hard time. Other times, we are asking to brush teeth, get ready for bed,…

you wouldn't go insane. you would adjust. it gets easier.

Re: Ask HN: Did anyone else lose their marbles?

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Post by spikder »

INTPenis wrote: post #322
suranyami wrote: post #100

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> It might be rooted in the fact that I don't have kids As a parent: nope, it's definitely not that. Yes, having children is a rich and beautiful experience. It's also a ruthless grind. So, if you think you're feeling lethargic and it's all a bit futile, imagine doing everything you do now, but also arguing with a smaller, more annoying version of yourself for a couple of decades while sleep deprived, and with 1/4 of…

>For me, it's a battle between "if I do something, someone's just gonna fuck it up anyway" and "I used to love this. I can still get excited by this, right?" I constantly find myself in a state of paralysis where I know what to do, I know how to do it, I even know how to do it quickly so it can be over and done, but I still just don't want to START anything. This is a much better explanation of what I was trying to s…

so maybe for you living == achieving? maybe takes this as a golden opportunity to reassess things. do something for you! that has no meaning, or purpose. just to do it. see what happens.
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