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Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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Not sure what your point is exactly? Feminism and LGBTQ rights did not start in the 80s either.

They did, but no where as powerful as now. At least you wouldn’t lose your job for saying things that the woke don’t like.

Have you ever heard of McCarthyism?

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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Then why are there so many women on dating apps, in bars and in classes?

Men far outnumber women on dating apps.

There are still hundreds of millions of women on dating apps, so I'm not sure your generalization holds.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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It's one thing to become familiar and make friends with people around you, that's just the natural order of society. It's completely another to pork yourself out in environments and situations unfit or not intended for such purposes. You ostensibly go to class to learn, not (eventually) fuck.

The problem about that is the exact opposite is happening. There is a teacher who wants to interject herself into the private lives of her adult students, have full control over how they meet, control their sexual interactions, and exert excessive influence outside of her classroom. She is attempting to force her beliefs on how people should form personal or sexual relationships, by taking advantage of her position a…

I admit I didn't bother to read the link because this whole subject is stupid. If the porking isn't adversely affecting the class nor other students during class nor faculty thereof, then whatever the students are doing is of no concern to the teacher.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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Men far outnumber women on dating apps.

There are still hundreds of millions of women on dating apps, so I'm not sure your generalization holds.

There are not hundreds of millons of unique, real women on dating apps, because there would be billions of men on dating apps given the statistical gender ratios of mainstream apps.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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My wife and I are having a very hard time convincing ourselves to have kids for exactly this reason. We're wealthy, free to pursue our hobbies, and advance in our careers. Nobody's body is getting wrecked, nobody's free time and sleep is getting upended, and it's generally a Very Good Time. Both having kids and not having kids feels selfish for different reasons. It's hard to really feel like there's a right answer h…

What argument is there for "not having kids" being selfish? I guess by the strictest definition, it means you're taking time for yourself over some hypothetical child? But to me, selfishness requires someone you're harming by doing so, and that child doesn't exist, so there is no harm. For what it's worth, my partner and I have made the same decision. We're not having children. It's already too difficult to buy a hom…

It's a tragedy of the commons issue; if everyone decides as you do, the species stops existing, so not having kids is a luxury decision you get to make on the backs of the rest of the species.

Of course having kids is also selfish, as it's bringing someone into this world just to fulfil your biological imperative to reproduce; you create a human being that will (if you don't screw it up) love you for the rest of your life, and your gift to them is this fucked up world, forced to consume scarce resources that may already be gone by the time they're old enough to actually enjoy being a human.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

#576

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There are still hundreds of millions of women on dating apps, so I'm not sure your generalization holds.

There are not hundreds of millons of unique, real women on dating apps, because there would be billions of men on dating apps given the statistical gender ratios of mainstream apps.

https://www.datingadvice.com/online-dating/dating-site-male-...

With over 512 million users, Badoo is easily among the most popular dating apps in the world.

This is like someone who walks to work claiming that no one drives cars.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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Birth rates are tanking because of increased access to contraceptives and people having the wealth and freedom to enjoy their 20s and 30s unburdened by children

> people having the wealth and freedom to enjoy their 20s and 30s unburdened by children and people *not* having the wealth and freedom to have children, being burdened by 80+ hour work weeks to pay rent on a place they'll never own or have capital in. Listen to the millenials and gen z'ers before you make bold accusations.

Go look at some graphs, when wealth and education go up, birth rates go down.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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My wife told me when we started dating that she picked math in university to find a STEM boy (who was expected to get a high paying job. No math grad school for me). And yes, I helped her with her homework and with studying only because I was attracted to her and dating her. We're both happy with how that turned out. Honestly assuming we send our kids to college (it's looking like a house and a trust fund will be che…

So your wife copped to seeking out someone based on expected lifetime earnings? I'd be pretty pissed, personally.

As opposed to what? A great jawline or a minimum height level? If anything it's probably relatively mature at that age to even consider what your long term life trajectory would look like with someone.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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post #486

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"guys being guys", "people find their partners in college so it's ok!", "men are the real victims so they're justified / understandable", "nothing is wrong so long as it's not sexual assault". grossest comment section i've seen on this site in forever

Citing article: > there are no unwanted advances Could you explain, what exactly is wrong with it?

nothing strikes you as creepy or off putting about a non-insignificant number of people entering a class for the sole purpose of trying to find a partner? not incidental flirting or relationship that might occur from taking a class to learn or because of a requirement, but only to find a partner

>there are no unwanted advances

considering how underreported sexual harassment and assault is in America (for all genders), especially at the college level, I'm not inclined to believe this

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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There are not hundreds of millons of unique, real women on dating apps, because there would be billions of men on dating apps given the statistical gender ratios of mainstream apps.

https://www.datingadvice.com/online-dating/dating-site-male-... With over 512 million users, Badoo is easily among the most popular dating apps in the world. This is like someone who walks to work claiming that no one drives cars.

I stand corrected. Thanks.
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