Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

Post by groffee » Tue, Jan 31, 2023, 3:42 AM UTC

GlenTheMachine wrote: post #89

JuniorBalleg wrote: post #60

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Why would you think that? Young women aren't oblivious to their own charms. They know what they're doing. They're getting free 1-on-1 tuition from a nerd, and the nerd gets to be within 3 feet of an attractive young woman - maybe even more than that, let's not be naive about college campuses - which might otherwise be impossible. Everybody wins. You might even upset the women most of all! When the quiet part is said…

Because I have an attractive daughter studying engineering, and she tells me that her single biggest problem is that she constantly has to reject, avoid, or otherwise fend off male advances nearly every day. It's exhausting, it makes her never feel at ease in her classes, and she is constantly being distracted when what she really wants is quiet time to figure out integration by parts or whatever. As a male, this is…

Post by MuffinFlavored » Tue, Jan 31, 2023, 3:42 AM UTC

toomuchtodo wrote: post #83

personjerry wrote: post #66

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THE DEFAULT IS "please don't hit on me right now"

What can be accepted as “it’s okay to hit on me right now”? I don’t disagree with your assertion btw. Determining collective social etiquette can be challenging, and I’m always interested in other perspectives to better understand other humans in general.

Post by xupybd » Tue, Jan 31, 2023, 3:42 AM UTC

I-love-india wrote: post #93

nhchris wrote: post #43

> This might be hard, as no unwanted advances are taking place. We simply have students excelling at the course, and drawing-in a crowd. I should've been more clear with my "leching" comment. Still, it seems harassing in nature. It seems increasingly that society demands a world where dating only happens during designated and approved dating times and venues, and outside those strictly delimited places, men are to be…

No, you just to treat women with respect. The issue here is intention. The intention here is not about teaching or learning in the class. But its using that pretence in fact distrupting the intention of the class and people there. How do you like your intention distrupted? How about by unattractive slobs who are objectifying you and trying to be "helpful" and trying tricks they found on internet If someone is trying…

Post by troupe » Tue, Jan 31, 2023, 3:43 AM UTC

throwntoday wrote: post #65

tiahura wrote: post #33

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Girls must be protected from being asked out at all costs because they are strong and independent future girl-bosses.

The real issue was pointed out by the professor herself, that only attractive women were being offered tutoring and getting attention. The ones complaining were jaded by the competition. I don't see how there is any issue with this if the men were respectful and didn't actually make unwanted advances. Why does the professor (a woman) feel like women are stupid, or need to be coddled? I can't think of anything more di…

Post by rektide » Tue, Jan 31, 2023, 3:44 AM UTC

6510 wrote: post #87

rektide wrote: post #56

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I lament to say it but I tend to agree. "Sunlight is the best disinfectant" was my first reaction, and I felt awful & loss hearing your comment (because I simultaenously also agree!), but I'm also back to some transparency in the end, if less hopeful (that this would turn out/cleans us of what feel like thin actions). It's up to people to decide, hopefully from an informed place! Simply posting about this & hopefully…

> "Sunlight is the best disinfectant" A showboat youtube channel?