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Ejaculation frequency and prostate cancer (2022)

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Re: Ejaculation frequency and prostate cancer (2022)

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I don’t need research to listen to my own body and notice that I have a lot more energy, confidence, and enthusiasm for life with nofap. The difference is night and day. I noticed this on my own before ever hearing about nofap, and so have numerous cultures and religions. The dismissive attitude you have is one I have seen a lot, and only makes sense to me if your body works differently from mine. Is there is some sl…

Exactly, research has its place, but sometimes people put way too much importance on it. The research that matters the most is your own personal experience and trial and error. Do it for a few months and see what it's like. That's all there is to it, and this applies to a lot of things too: a new workout regimen, a diet, cold showers, productivity hacks, biohacking, etc. Stop arguing over whether there's scientific e…

Absolutely, this “scientism” attitude that elevates peer reviewed research as the only way of learning anything, and calls everything else “woo” is silly. I mostly see it among non scientists that have made science a sort of religion. As an academic PI, I see how the sausage is made and don’t have so much faith. Moreover, direct observation, personal experimentation, and hunches are how good scientists come up with the ideas for studies in the first place.

With human sexuality in particular there are so many cultural taboos that very little research has been done. Limiting your understanding of your own sexuality to peer reviewed research is just silly, you will miss millions of obvious things, and also miss the fact that people are individuals and experience and respond differently to the same things.

Re: Ejaculation frequency and prostate cancer (2022)

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Hey man good luck! I know some people who have tried and tried before it finally all clicked. One person I can think of now has 4 kids! It can be tough. I'm sure you don't need any advice. Kids are the best, most meaningful thing you will ever do. Its worth it to keep trying.

> most meaningful thing you will ever do. Also by far the hardest. In the best case, it is not all roses.

I have heard that having children expands the upper and lower bounds of happiness and suffering. There are joys pertaining to being a parent that bring you to heights unimaginable, but there are fears and problems that bring you lower. The range is greater.

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> most meaningful thing you will ever do. Also by far the hardest. In the best case, it is not all roses.

I have heard that having children expands the upper and lower bounds of happiness and suffering. There are joys pertaining to being a parent that bring you to heights unimaginable, but there are fears and problems that bring you lower. The range is greater.

"You're only as happy as your saddest child."

Re: Ejaculation frequency and prostate cancer (2022)

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> most meaningful thing you will ever do. Also by far the hardest. In the best case, it is not all roses.

I have heard that having children expands the upper and lower bounds of happiness and suffering. There are joys pertaining to being a parent that bring you to heights unimaginable, but there are fears and problems that bring you lower. The range is greater.

You make it sound like it is a heroin shoot.

Actually unless your child has some terrible accident, you're often tired, sometimes angry, but mostly happy.

If your child has no specific issue and you experience terrible sadness and suffering, then you should consult a doctor.

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My wife and I have been trying for a kid for a while, and though I’m healthy, over the past 9 months I’ve gone down a rabbit hole on the professional literature around men’s health. I don’t know how it compares to anything else, but the variance of the data is what struck me the most. That, and the low-resolution around a lot of the studies that have been run. I get that science is hard, but I would expect a LOT more…

if I may give you a piece of advice, ask yourself whether you can guarantee that your kid will be happy to have been forced to come to life, or if you are selfishly taking a bet at someone else's expense.

If I may ask, would you have preferred to not come to life, if you had the choice?

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I have tried ritalin, vyanse, and adderall in college before. Those drugs scare me because they are in my opinion the greatest drugs in the world. When I am on them I literally become the movie limitless in real life. I feel more amazing than ever and I want to take them all the time. I would like to solve my issues without becoming reliant on medication. It feels like a patch rather than a solution. Lately I have be…

I am not a doctor, but can I suggest a non-medical intervention that probably doesn't have any adverse effects, but may help? Under capitalism, the social networks compete for your attention, by sending you notifications. It's a "tragedy of the commons" where the commons is human attention: if Facebook doesn't get you to click during dinner, then Twitter will, and then it'll grow through those tactics. Thus the marke…

Thanks for your comment. I am slowly adding techniques like this to my routine. I checked out your blog.. absolutely fascinating stuff

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Tim Ferris is a conman who will say anything to sell his worthless books and supplements. I wouldn't take anything he says seriously

And how is he benefiting from particularly saying that? What he says is based on studies and talks with experts in the field. You may not like many things he says, but this doesn't automatically make them wrong.

Its like the people who write all sorts of software engineering processes and procedures books. If you look at them their entire career is writing and selling books. They don’t actually have any industry experience. Tim ferris sells you the idea you can become a superhuman so he can make money on supplements and books. He doesn’t and hasn’t done anything of merit in the first place. Hes like a salesman of adhd. One of his books is ‘the 4 hour work week’. Just absolute garbage.

Re: Ejaculation frequency and prostate cancer (2022)

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My wife and I have been trying for a kid for a while, and though I’m healthy, over the past 9 months I’ve gone down a rabbit hole on the professional literature around men’s health. I don’t know how it compares to anything else, but the variance of the data is what struck me the most. That, and the low-resolution around a lot of the studies that have been run. I get that science is hard, but I would expect a LOT more…

Hey man good luck! I know some people who have tried and tried before it finally all clicked. One person I can think of now has 4 kids! It can be tough. I'm sure you don't need any advice. Kids are the best, most meaningful thing you will ever do. Its worth it to keep trying.

> Kids are the best, most meaningful thing you will ever do.

Heavy dose of "in my opinion..."

Kids are absolutely the last thing I've ever wanted in my lifetime.

Am I supposed to take your statement as I'll never do anything meaningful?

Come on.

Re: Ejaculation frequency and prostate cancer (2022)

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Hey man good luck! I know some people who have tried and tried before it finally all clicked. One person I can think of now has 4 kids! It can be tough. I'm sure you don't need any advice. Kids are the best, most meaningful thing you will ever do. Its worth it to keep trying.

> Kids are the best, most meaningful thing you will ever do. Just coming in from the other side, but this is not universally true. Mine has been an absolute nightmare, and I’m in pretty intense therapy trying to keep it all together. My relationship with my wife has been wonderful before and after, so that wasn’t a factor. I’m not trying to dissuade people from having children, but we were completely unprepared for h…

The language you use is a bit unclear.

Your kid is a nightmare?

Your kid is challenging?

Your relationship with your wife has been wonderful before and after what? The birth?

I am in a challenging marriage. I have young kids. My kids are wonderful. I am trying to work things out with my wife for my children's sake. I would be careful with the language you use to frame the problems in your life. How you describe your problems may influence what you see as the solutions.

Are you sure it's a problem with your child? Maybe it is a problem with you and your relationships?

Anyways, good choice being in therapy. A competent therapist will help you unravel your problems better than some asshole on hn (that's me).

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