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Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by Willish42 »

Still not entirely certain this isn't just a really impressive parody, but for my sanity I am hoping it is.

I think this says a lot about the "attention economy" way all the various dating and social apps take up your time to use them, and how we've digitized the process so much that people unironically see the appeal of a CRM system for managing contacts. Classic case of "new tech to solve the problems of all the other tech", where the other tech is actually the source of the problem, and probably shouldn't be relied on in this way.

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by causality0 »

kareemm wrote: post #80

A good left-brained friend of mine was dating heavily in the late 2000s as he was in "wife finding mode". He had a spreadsheet -- called girls.xls -- where he kept track of important details about each woman he went on a date with. We were sitting around musing about how hard it must be to keep track of the key details given all the dates he was going on, and he let drop that he had a spreadsheet. He never showed it…

I was probably 24 years old before I realized dating multiple people was even a thing. I figured you talked to and dated a person until you either decided you weren't having a good time or you married them.

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by count »

scrollaway wrote: post #70
rsstack wrote: post #6

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Not 100% what you describe, but functionally the same: https://github.com/monicahq/monica

Monica is an excellent "Personal CRM" as people are describing. It strives to achieve exactly the goals GP describes. Personally, I would just like to see a contacts app that doesn't suck, and actually supports having both "companies" AND "people" as contact without treating them exactly the same. If I want to call some hotel or something, why does it have to be "First name: Holiday Inn" in order to even show up corr…

MacOS/iOS Contacts supports this, for what it's worth. You can enter a 'Company Name' and leave fname/lname blank, and it'll give it a different default icon, as well as show it as the company name in lists/sorts.

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by conductr »

usbfingers wrote: post #52
conductr wrote: post #48

I clicked the Signup button thinking surely it’s a joke and they would have some witty page > Too many requests, please try again after an hour I’m really out of touch

How do you know that's not a part of the joke?

Good point, I don't. But sure was a missed opportunity if true :)

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by downvoteme1 »

kareemm wrote: post #80

A good left-brained friend of mine was dating heavily in the late 2000s as he was in "wife finding mode". He had a spreadsheet -- called girls.xls -- where he kept track of important details about each woman he went on a date with. We were sitting around musing about how hard it must be to keep track of the key details given all the dates he was going on, and he let drop that he had a spreadsheet. He never showed it…

Is he still married ?

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by gwern »

prettyStandard wrote: post #4

I was thinking about something similar, but less cringy. More like: hey you haven't messaged your friend in 6 months, maybe you should ask them how they are doing. A priority queue but to help keep friendships alive.

I've thought about similar problems like rewatching your favorite movie, and concluded that treating it as a priority queue or trying to watch it every _n_ days is the wrong approach; you want to instead be reminded when you've forgotten about your friend Alex or what _The Leopard_ is about, so you can then ping them & catch up or rewatch that movie with a near-fresh mind. (If you ping Alex while you remember them, then maybe there's another actually-forgotten friend you could've pinged instead who would be more valuable to get back in touch with.)

It is, in other words, the exact opposite of 'spaced repetition', where you want to review right before forgetting to strengthen the memory the most; in this use-case, 'anti-spaced repetition', you want to review only after you've forgotten it. (https://www.gwern.net/Statistical-notes#program-for-non-spac...)

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by applejacks »

darcys22 wrote: post #106
prettyStandard wrote: post #4

I was thinking about something similar, but less cringy. More like: hey you haven't messaged your friend in 6 months, maybe you should ask them how they are doing. A priority queue but to help keep friendships alive.

I've found just setting a recurring TODO in the calendar to "Call XXX" is sufficient.

I signed up for https://infrequent.app/ when it was a Show HN just to try it out and it actually worked (probably about as well as a "non-busy" TODO in my calendar app with an alert). Enough to remind me to call 1 or 2 people that I like to talk to but often leave for too long, anyway.

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by zvr »

count wrote: post #114
scrollaway wrote: post #70

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Monica is an excellent "Personal CRM" as people are describing. It strives to achieve exactly the goals GP describes. Personally, I would just like to see a contacts app that doesn't suck, and actually supports having both "companies" AND "people" as contact without treating them exactly the same. If I want to call some hotel or something, why does it have to be "First name: Holiday Inn" in order to even show up corr…

MacOS/iOS Contacts supports this, for what it's worth. You can enter a 'Company Name' and leave fname/lname blank, and it'll give it a different default icon, as well as show it as the company name in lists/sorts.

The same in Android Contacts and GMail Contacts.
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