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Salesforce, but for Dating

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Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by dvt »

kareemm wrote: post #80

A good left-brained friend of mine was dating heavily in the late 2000s as he was in "wife finding mode". He had a spreadsheet -- called girls.xls -- where he kept track of important details about each woman he went on a date with. We were sitting around musing about how hard it must be to keep track of the key details given all the dates he was going on, and he let drop that he had a spreadsheet. He never showed it…

I don't really consider myself left-brained, but I've always had a hard time remembering names. Partially because I'm not great at empathizing with folks I just meet, and partially because I genuinely don't care that much. Around college, I discovered this is absolutely not a great trait to have (incidentally, also most applicable when meeting women), so I started a Names file in my phone. I have hundreds of names in there now in the format "First Name - small salient description."

People are amazed at how great I am at remembering names and details. It's become almost a super-power, it's weird how writing things down can completely change how people perceive you. It's really cool to scroll through the names and see people I met years ago: the cute barista that moved away right after COVID, an old neighbor's boyfriend, a coworker's dog (I extended the list to also include pets). Brings back good memories and often makes me smile.

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by jxramos »

npunt wrote: post #25
prettyStandard wrote: post #4

I was thinking about something similar, but less cringy. More like: hey you haven't messaged your friend in 6 months, maybe you should ask them how they are doing. A priority queue but to help keep friendships alive.

Lots of attempts over the years at this personal crm problem space but no success to date. I did one on Facebook platform in 2008-09 called Socialfly, our tagline was ‘be twice the friend in half the time’. Problem is there’s a lot of input and upkeep which limits appeal, the most important social data sources (text & phone) are not accessible via api, its a personal tool that you don’t necessarily want to tell other…

Would accompany count? https://www.accompany.com/ not really personal, I believe it's business oriented.

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by MattGaiser »

miguelazo wrote: post #93
MattGaiser wrote: post #86

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I have had a few people I know go on piles of dates, so I could see someone having a use for it if they are rapidly iterating through individuals.

"rapidly iterating through individuals" What a dystopian nightmare. So glad I missed out on this era of dating.

In a world of increased diversity and expectations (you can't assume the 2.5 kids in the suburbs of your local city anymore or that marriage is even a goal) of what a relationship looks like, I am not sure of the alternative. I am happy that I am happy single though, as it does sound exhausting.

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by phoenixreader »

phowat wrote: post #85
kareemm wrote: post #80

A good left-brained friend of mine was dating heavily in the late 2000s as he was in "wife finding mode". He had a spreadsheet -- called girls.xls -- where he kept track of important details about each woman he went on a date with. We were sitting around musing about how hard it must be to keep track of the key details given all the dates he was going on, and he let drop that he had a spreadsheet. He never showed it…

So that's why the answer is 42 !

Even better, in the original novel, the mice's guess for the ultimate question of life, universe, and everything is "how many roads must a man walk down?"

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by darcys22 »

prettyStandard wrote: post #4

I was thinking about something similar, but less cringy. More like: hey you haven't messaged your friend in 6 months, maybe you should ask them how they are doing. A priority queue but to help keep friendships alive.

I've found just setting a recurring TODO in the calendar to "Call XXX" is sufficient.

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by JadoJodo »

vageli wrote: post #59
omarhaneef wrote: post #28

Earlier quoted context omitted.

There have been several iterations of this sort of idea — a personal CRM — and the main issue I have is they should automatically scan my emails, texts and chats to figure out my friends and suggest that I reach out. Also, want it to be 100% local and privacy first.

Something like monica may interest you to scratch the personal CRM itch. https://github.com/monicahq/monica

I loved the idea of this until I realized the amount of PII I was collecting of friends and family in one place that could be hacked.

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by berelig »

kareemm wrote: post #80

A good left-brained friend of mine was dating heavily in the late 2000s as he was in "wife finding mode". He had a spreadsheet -- called girls.xls -- where he kept track of important details about each woman he went on a date with. We were sitting around musing about how hard it must be to keep track of the key details given all the dates he was going on, and he let drop that he had a spreadsheet. He never showed it…

I kept a note on my phone with details about my girlfriend (now wife) that I would otherwise easily forget. Favorite flowers, songs, restaurants, etc. As I got to know her family I briefly had a few lines for her parents and siblings but now that we're married I can just bug her for info instead.

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Post by harryvederci »

kybernetikos wrote: post #12
prettyStandard wrote: post #4

I was thinking about something similar, but less cringy. More like: hey you haven't messaged your friend in 6 months, maybe you should ask them how they are doing. A priority queue but to help keep friendships alive.

I remember moaning about twitter reducing the number of characters people sent, and then yo! came out, and it was down to a single bit of data. That made me think 'what would even lower information content messages look like in a social network, perhaps half a bit or even less?'. I figured that a half bit of data would be where a social network sent some sort of hello message automatically with the same frequency the…

Maybe you could also "reduce" the bit in a different way, where it would be 50/50 if a message would actually be sent upon clicking the submit/reply button.

Like if you'd walk on a noisy street, see someone you know, and greet them half-heartedly and wouldn't really mind if they didn't hear you.

Oh man, the thrill of not knowing if this message will actually be sent when I hit the "reply" button!

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