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Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by graderjs »

graderjs wrote: post #19

Meditation; checking in with myself; drink lots of water; focus on personal development; self-debriefs via voice memo; physical fitness; yoga; self-expression, communication and assertiveness; good diet; avoiding too many toxins: alcohol/caffeine/tobacco/processed foods; do stuff I like; always find a way; win from any position; focus on choices and responsibility not playing the fake-victim; celebrate wins, enjoy mo…

Also want to add: follow my heart; use my intuition and instinct--these ones are so transparent and at-home and familiar to me I sometimes forget to say them! :) -- ask for help from friendlies; you're never really alone, help's always available if you ask, especially from unexpected sources. :)

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by chegra »

A_Venom_Roll wrote: post #126
chegra wrote: post #54

Stuff that boost my mental health: 1. Friends... Typically, when I am around friends, my happiness can increase by 1.5(measured out of 5). This is enough to put me back in the normal range. I used the term friends here loosely. Just being around people provides a lift. Easiest way to gain friends is to join a club (may I suggest chess). Being lonely is as painful as being wildly hungry or thirsty [1] 2. Exercise...Ty…

I checked your websit and it tooks like you have read a lot of interesting books. Could you recommend a few that made the most impact for you?

Health

  1. Dopamine Nation - https://www.chestergrant.com/summary-dopamine-nation-by-dr-anna-lembke

  2. Obesity Code - https://www.chestergrant.com/summary-obesity-code-by-dr-jason-fung

  3. Breath - https://www.chestergrant.com/summary-breath-by-james-nestor

  4. Willpower Instinct - https://www.chestergrant.com/notes-the-willpower-instinct-by-kelly-mcgonigal

  5. Sleep Smarter - https://www.chestergrant.com/highlights-from-sleep-smarter-by-shawn-stevenson
Productivity

  1. Mini-Habit - https://www.chestergrant.com/26-highlights-from-mini-habits-by-stephen-guise

  2. Checklist Manifesto - https://www.chestergrant.com/highlights-from-the-checklist-manifesto-by-atul-gawande

  3. The rise of superman - https://www.chestergrant.com/summary-the-rise-of-superman-by-steven-kotler
Business

  1. Traction - https://www.chestergrant.com/summary-traction-by-gabriel-weinberg-and-justin-mares

  2. Contagious - https://www.chestergrant.com/contagious-by-jonah-berger

  3. How to be a power connector - https://www.chestergrant.com/summary-how-to-be-a-power-connector-the-5-plus-50-plus-100-rule-by-judy-robinett

  4. The mom test - https://www.chestergrant.com/summary-the-mom-test-by-rob-fitzpatrick

  5. Never eat alone - https://www.chestergrant.com/never-eat-alone-by-keith-ferrazzi-with-tahl-raz

  6. Hooked - https://www.chestergrant.com/summary-hooked-how-to-build-habit-forming-products-by-nir-eyal

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by alexvoda »

hprotagonist wrote: post #112
marcojx wrote: post #109

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Good advice, however I find myself quite struggling with the third point. I recentyl turned fifty, with a decent career up to now: software engineer, sold a company I co-owned some time ago. My daughter spent years figthing cancer, so that was also a big part of my life in the last ten years. Now things are better and I cannot seem to find decent interest in anything. I still love to code from time to time, but I am…

> Clearly I need some peace-bringing meaning, but it is very hard to find, and I do not even know how to start looking for it. there is almost no way to say this without sounding preachy, at least to my american english ear. But. it’s true nonetheless. that meaning? it’s in your neighbors, and you find it in direct, human service to them. There are many, many ways to serve, and one of them fits you. It doesn’t have t…

I would like to argue that this painful state of seeking meaning is a good thing.

For most of human history we have been stuck in a Stockholm syndrome, a cozy state of delusion, that has been perpetuated by each generation.

The more people find that old mental systems (religions, woo, etc.) are fraudulent and are confronted with this issue the higher the chances someone discovers/creates a paradigm shifting philosophy.

Many people got excited in the past two decades for something like this, yet I feel the wave has dissipated without achieving much, and many have fallen prey to charismatic charlatans.

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by graderjs »

Sakos wrote: post #130
A_Venom_Roll wrote: post #124

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Not OP, but you can find out more about self-debriefing here: https://oxfordmedicalsimulation.com/resources/debriefing/sel...

Is it just me or does it feel like a robot wrote that for other robots?

Maybe you're the robot

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by hprotagonist »

alexvoda wrote: post #133
hprotagonist wrote: post #112

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> Clearly I need some peace-bringing meaning, but it is very hard to find, and I do not even know how to start looking for it. there is almost no way to say this without sounding preachy, at least to my american english ear. But. it’s true nonetheless. that meaning? it’s in your neighbors, and you find it in direct, human service to them. There are many, many ways to serve, and one of them fits you. It doesn’t have t…

I would like to argue that this painful state of seeking meaning is a good thing. For most of human history we have been stuck in a Stockholm syndrome, a cozy state of delusion, that has been perpetuated by each generation. The more people find that old mental systems (religions, woo, etc.) are fraudulent and are confronted with this issue the higher the chances someone discovers/creates a paradigm shifting philosoph…

The (and i mean this seriously) delightful part of your response is that it’s as old as written history.

Personally, I choose to find that reassuring.

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by alexvoda »

hprotagonist wrote: post #135
alexvoda wrote: post #133

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I would like to argue that this painful state of seeking meaning is a good thing. For most of human history we have been stuck in a Stockholm syndrome, a cozy state of delusion, that has been perpetuated by each generation. The more people find that old mental systems (religions, woo, etc.) are fraudulent and are confronted with this issue the higher the chances someone discovers/creates a paradigm shifting philosoph…

The (and i mean this seriously) delightful part of your response is that it’s as old as written history. Personally, I choose to find that reassuring.

Maybe. That is how many of humanities advancements have been realized. People being unsatisfied and believing there can be a better way, believing there can be a better explanation, etc..

Even so, I do worry about the future. I fear, for multiple reasons, that we risk entering a new kind of dark age.

The combination of the power of the internet to propagate disinformation and quackery at greater speed and scale than it is debunked. The development of language model AI's which enable at scale the hallucination of meaningless content masquerading as legitimate content.

The article here captures some of my thoughts: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=34126450

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by A_Venom_Roll »

chegra wrote: post #132
A_Venom_Roll wrote: post #126

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I checked your websit and it tooks like you have read a lot of interesting books. Could you recommend a few that made the most impact for you?

Health 1. Dopamine Nation - https://www.chestergrant.com/summary-dopamine-nation-by-dr-anna-lembke 2. Obesity Code - https://www.chestergrant.com/summary-obesity-code-by-dr-jason-fung 3. Breath - https://www.chestergrant.com/summary-breath-by-james-nestor 4. Willpower Instinct - https://www.chestergrant.com/notes-the-willpower-instinct-by-kelly-mcgonigal 5. Sleep Smarter - https://www.chestergrant.com/highlights-from…

Thank you so much!

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by melx »

marniewebb wrote: post #34

My teenage daughter and I talk a lot about mental hygiene. We compare it to dental hygiene: you do stuff everyday to reduce the need to see a dentist and improve your experience when you do. The big things on the mental hygiene list are: - Morning pages - https://juliacameronlive.com/basic-tools/morning-pages/ - walking - intense exercise - keeping a daily/weekly/monthly planner - cooking good food that you like - ea…

+1 The shutdown evening routine is amazing! I usually read a book and fall asleep after just few pages and sleep through the night very deeply. Some evenings I would go back to old habit of browsing on the phone, and then the sleep quality is terrible.

BTW If you like writing and time-block planning then check out https://planist.app/ (I'm the founder)

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