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Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by dsego »

pmarreck wrote: post #58
GMoromisato wrote: post #38

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It gets better! My youngest is now 3 and I'm slowly getting more time for myself (and to be with my wife). She goes potty on her own, she can play on her own for 15 minutes and not demand anything, and we don't worry about her climbing the shelfs or playing with knives. It's still hard, of course, but so much better than 1 year ago. I don't have any advice that you haven't heard a million times already, but: 1. Carve…

Fortunately not a single parent. Fortunately JUST got him into an excellent daycare for the weekdays at least (we had a nanny who was far more expensive and caused us quite a bit of stress). Thanks for the tips, I actually haven't gotten many because my parents either passed or moved away, her parents are far away, and until I had a kid I was surrounded mainly by childless couples. Also, I don't know if every parent…

I think we forget.

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by boopboopbadoop »

yef wrote: post #61

I had a rough 2020-2022 and one thing that made a difference was starting a personal writing habit with two main components: 1. Daily writing which summarizes the day and gets off my chest any minor things that are bothering me. 2. Deep dive writing focused on a particular issue that I struggled with before and is inexplicably still on my mind. (Implying that I haven't fully processed the issue) I also started collec…

Thanks for your honesty with the last paragraph. What was your “x hours” if you don’t mind me asking?

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by A_Venom_Roll »

user-extended wrote: post #39

My mental health problems are chronic, can get worse rapidly, and so far, nothing but escapism seems to fill me up in life, especially when I compare my life with that of others at my own age. I have given up on hope many times over, today I saw a self-text from 5 years ago of me questioning if I would ever make it, and so far, I have not. I have seen a psychologist for many years, a psychiatrist, and have asked peop…

Last night I happened to watch a 'philosophical video' called "How to Be a Happy Loser | A Guide for Modern Day Untouchables" [0] that turned about pretty interesting. One of the things it discusses is that sometimes the situation you're in is partly due to bad luck. So although it's good to take some responsibility for your life, it's not really fair to blame yourself for all of it. There are a lot of other interesting video's on the channel, I would definitively check a couple of them out.

Keep in mind that one thing you have is persistence (you keep trying everyday, and you tried exercising many times).

[0] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LEPUX4eMUSw

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by A_Venom_Roll »

Sakos wrote: post #45
graderjs wrote: post #19

Meditation; checking in with myself; drink lots of water; focus on personal development; self-debriefs via voice memo; physical fitness; yoga; self-expression, communication and assertiveness; good diet; avoiding too many toxins: alcohol/caffeine/tobacco/processed foods; do stuff I like; always find a way; win from any position; focus on choices and responsibility not playing the fake-victim; celebrate wins, enjoy mo…

> self-debriefs via voice memo Can you go into a bit more detail about this? It's not something I've heard of yet.

Not OP, but you can find out more about self-debriefing here: https://oxfordmedicalsimulation.com/resources/debriefing/sel...

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by yef »

irajdeep wrote: post #117
yef wrote: post #61

I had a rough 2020-2022 and one thing that made a difference was starting a personal writing habit with two main components: 1. Daily writing which summarizes the day and gets off my chest any minor things that are bothering me. 2. Deep dive writing focused on a particular issue that I struggled with before and is inexplicably still on my mind. (Implying that I haven't fully processed the issue) I also started collec…

Thanks for sharing. Hope you’re doing well now. Wondering where do you write daily, is it like a physical diary or digitally? I’ve started writing of late, but I like writing on a physical diary. The only problem I’ve with physical diary is searching the entries based on a word - which I often find myself in the need of.

I started with a physical diary because I'm obsessed with Muji pens and enjoyed the ritual of putting pen to paper without distractions. Later on I transcribed all the old entries to a journaling app because I filled the notebook and wanted to throw it away. I still use pen and paper sometimes. It feels more "intentional" somehow.

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by A_Venom_Roll »

chegra wrote: post #54

Stuff that boost my mental health: 1. Friends... Typically, when I am around friends, my happiness can increase by 1.5(measured out of 5). This is enough to put me back in the normal range. I used the term friends here loosely. Just being around people provides a lift. Easiest way to gain friends is to join a club (may I suggest chess). Being lonely is as painful as being wildly hungry or thirsty [1] 2. Exercise...Ty…

I checked your websit and it tooks like you have read a lot of interesting books. Could you recommend a few that made the most impact for you?

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by drcongo »

I've been self-managing depression for decades but finally had to ask for help recently and got put on SSRIs. Nothing happened for about 15 - 20 days, and then suddenly once Saturday afternoon I realised I was "happy" for the first time in many years. I wish I'd asked for help earlier.

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by kristian_io »

user-extended wrote: post #105
barbariangrunge wrote: post #104

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Whatever else is going on in your life, try to get some daily exercise (even if it’s just walking). It won’t solve your problems but it will make them a tiny bit less heavy

I've tried exercising many times, I always give up half-way. I remember reading obesity is pretty much endemic in people (and even if they do lose weight, they most probably than not regain it soon enough), so I have no hopes on that from either.

Go for a walk, just for 20 mins, walk in one direction from your place.

Then, give up and go back home :)

Listen to music, podcast, to your own mind, whatever.

Don't set a rigid schedule, like, I am going to do this every single day for the next year. Just do it today, no expectations. If nothing works you might as well do it, there is nothing you can loose.

Some days you will go and others you will not.

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by yef »

boopboopbadoop wrote: post #122
yef wrote: post #61

I had a rough 2020-2022 and one thing that made a difference was starting a personal writing habit with two main components: 1. Daily writing which summarizes the day and gets off my chest any minor things that are bothering me. 2. Deep dive writing focused on a particular issue that I struggled with before and is inexplicably still on my mind. (Implying that I haven't fully processed the issue) I also started collec…

Thanks for your honesty with the last paragraph. What was your “x hours” if you don’t mind me asking?

It would be a meaningless data point without the necessary calibration, so that's why I left it at x. Some kids can be left alone to play nicely, others require constant supervision, discipline, redirecting of their energy, etc. The folks I talked to already knew my son and had similar kids / challenges of their own.

Re: Ask HN: How do you work on your mental health?

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Post by Sakos »

A_Venom_Roll wrote: post #124
Sakos wrote: post #45

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> self-debriefs via voice memo Can you go into a bit more detail about this? It's not something I've heard of yet.

Not OP, but you can find out more about self-debriefing here: https://oxfordmedicalsimulation.com/resources/debriefing/sel...

Is it just me or does it feel like a robot wrote that for other robots?
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