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pożyczyć is both borrow and lend :) In English there's a difference of direction. "Kuba pożyczył moj długopis" - Jakub borrowed my pen "Kuba pożyczył mi jego długopos" - Jakub lent me his pen I'm learning Polish slowly, living in Warsaw...
> "Kuba pożyczył moj długopis" Surely a true Pole would say "kurwa Kuba pożyczył moj pierdolic długopis" ? ;-)
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There's a difference. As the quote goes: "don't loan something you can't afford to lose". Carmack, it seems, was comfortable with not being paid back.
> Carmack, it seems, was comfortable with not being paid back. That's not how I read the tweet, at all. > It was a learning experience for me, calibrating some general people behavior. I don’t think anyone intended to not pay me back, but things often just don’t work out the way you plan
Decades of practice and I feel like my reading comprehension just gets worse :(
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This thread is full of native English speakers using "loan" to mean "lend", so "borrow" isn't any worse.
The word "lend" is a synonym (same meaning) for "loan" (as a verb) while "borrow" is an antonym (opposite meaning). "I will lend you money" or "I will loan you money." "I need to borrow money until I get back on my feet." It is not grammatically correct to say "I will borrow you money."
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pożyczyć is both borrow and lend :) In English there's a difference of direction. "Kuba pożyczył moj długopis" - Jakub borrowed my pen "Kuba pożyczył mi jego długopos" - Jakub lent me his pen I'm learning Polish slowly, living in Warsaw...
Hindi has same word for yesterday and tomorrow, so you have to figure out from the tense and context which it is.
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The word "lend" is a synonym (same meaning) for "loan" (as a verb) while "borrow" is an antonym (opposite meaning). "I will lend you money" or "I will loan you money." "I need to borrow money until I get back on my feet." It is not grammatically correct to say "I will borrow you money."
Sure it is if you’re borrowing for somebody/on their behalf
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> It seems you have been lucky enough to be living a sheltered life, without any acquaintance having tried to chat you up to their advantage. I'm sorry good sir or madam, I stopped reading here. In my personal life experience with abusive people, I find it makes me want to be more in favor of unconditional help for others, not less. Though I have experienced the urge to want to help people less, which you seem stuck…
> In my personal life experience with abusive people, I find it makes me want to be more in favor of unconditional help for others, not less. This has nothing to do with conditional or conditional help, or help at all. You feel compelled to fool yourself into believing you're not being exploited, but you're the only one believing that nonsense. You're dealt with like the mark in a con, and not exercising any common s…
It's ok to be yourself around those people, to let down your proverbial guard, while having appropriate boundaries and not being exploited ... But over focus on who exploits and who is exploited blah blah blah ... All of that is quite toxic. It can make you just as miserable as the people you're accusing, if not more. And if you see every interaction this way, it's only a matter of time before you start seeing potential exploitation where it doesn't exist.
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The risk of them not being able to pay you back and thus destroying the friendship is so high that I wouldn’t recommend this unless you are ok with losing that person as a friend OR you just give them the money without expectation of it being paid back.
When "loaning" money to family and friends as the "lender" assuming it's a gift from the get-go is crucial. Or you just mutually agree it's a gift and move on. 1) If you are going to be financially impacted in any way by not having the loan repaid you should't "loan" (gift) it. Like gambling don't do it if you can't afford to lose it. 2) Assuming #1, the overall psychological stress and potential impact on the relati…
An additional mechanic is that you tell them that you are not going to remind them to pay you back, that it is not your job to nag them.
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The GP is unclear as to whether the loan happened before or after the friend obtained a job offer. Loaning moving expenses money to someone who just got a high-paying job offer and needs the moving money to start the job does not sound that risky.
Agreed, though you have to wonder why the company involved couldn't do this more formally?
I loaned a close college friend $7000 last year. Due to life circumstances and lack of family resources, he was stuck in a rural area with no developer jobs. He was having trouble landing a remote job and I ignorantly asked why he wasn’t applying to in-person jobs on the west coast. He told me that he certainly wouldn’t be able to afford to move and I told him “don’t let that stop you”. Fronting him moving expenses w…
This highlights 2 things: 1. Why poor stay poor (you need money to make money) 2. Why successful startup founders skew being from well-to-do families (they can afford to take the risk). Really applaud you for helping your friend. You truly change their life. America is definitely the "land of opportunity", more so than most countries, but it's really difficult to bootstrap when you don't have the means.
You have to aim a couple rungs up, not all the way up.
Starting from literally zero you can probably retire modestly but comfortably the owner of a respectable tax dodging container storage and dumpster rental business assuming a little luck and work in your formative years (maybe the local street gang will install the love of hustling for a buck into you) to set you down the right path.
Going from zero to C-suite manager type, not so tractable.
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> "Kuba pożyczył moj długopis" Surely a true Pole would say "kurwa Kuba pożyczył moj pierdolic długopis" ? ;-)
Lolz. I don't know Polish, but Google Translate renders these as "Kuba borrowed my pen" and "fucking Kuba borrowed my fucking pen" respectively.
Yes, that's kind of the point.
Sort of a Polish in-joke I guess.
For an English language background on the power of "kurwa" and "pierdolic", I recommend these YouTube videos:
Kurwa: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sdWlspF3B2M
Pierdolic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTgT-IU--zM