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When I was younger I worked at a local supermarket and later at a sports store - turns out customers at the sports store were almost exclusively nice. Not a huge sample size as I only worked at the one store but from talking to others seems like the number of degenerates is waaaay lower when people play sports
Life’s too short to let the few negative people out there bring you down. 1% or 5% whatever lets you realize that and move on
I handle 100% of my indie app's email and telephone (yes, telephone!) support. My app is designing/printing labels. Printers in general, and label printers specifically are awful and inconsiderate robots, unable to perform the simplest printing job when you need it most. Sure, 2-5% of my users are nasty/mean, but let me tell you a little secret: They are immensely frustrated with their life situation and they know ho…
15-20% of women are flakes (non-maliciously unreliable, can't keep commitments), 5-10% (half of those) are actually maliciously bad people--bad/psychotic/abusive/crazy, 1-5% (half again) really bad (like psychopath/sociopath/criminally deranged bad). 80% are good. Stick with the good! Says nothing of actual compatibility in a pair just basic good or not.
That 20% of flakey (including the 10% of bad and 5% really bad) has nothing to do with you, it's not your fault nor your responsibility that they are like that, and their feelings and behavior are not your responsibility no matter how they might try to blame you for that; and there's nothing you can do to "change" them or "help" them or "better" them. And you probably can't "handle" them. If you get involved they're only going to try to hurt you (or in the case of flakes let you down) again and again.
So learn the signs that work for you and filter out the rest as quickly as possible. You don't have to be mean, but you have to be clear and set boundaries. There's no pride or sense or nobility in "handling" or "tolerating" a crazy or bad person. They're just dangerous and unpleasant.
I handle 100% of my indie app's email and telephone (yes, telephone!) support. My app is designing/printing labels. Printers in general, and label printers specifically are awful and inconsiderate robots, unable to perform the simplest printing job when you need it most. Sure, 2-5% of my users are nasty/mean, but let me tell you a little secret: They are immensely frustrated with their life situation and they know ho…
Fwiw, printers bring out the worst in me, too.
This applies not only to bad behavior of others, but sometimes even to your own bad behavior. We are 'moist robots' as one cartoonist puts it, and the sane thing is to not beat yourself up for something stupid you did or say, but evaluate the whole stituation later when you are in a better state of mind, learn from your mistake, make amends, and move on.
Many laws, company policies, etc exist to prevent those 5% from causing damage to the rest of the population. So 95% of people have to live with restrictions and bureaucracy that merely exists for those small group.
I'm not following. What are some specific sacrifices we have to make for the sake of the five percent?
This roughly matches my estimate of evil drivers on the road, people cutting lines violently and not using turning lights, pushing to insert on the right when they used the emergency lane to pass everybody in a slowdown...
If you smell shit all day look under your own shoe. You've listed a few really bad behaviors and then used a bunch of weasel word language to imply a bunch of casual minor rule breaking is equivalent to its worst case forms. No wonder you see bad drivers everywhere. The guy who's not using his blinker for a lane change on the freeway in light traffic isn't equivalent to the guy weaving through traffic without blinker…
Ha I'm going to have to remember that one.
I used to get all steamed up about crap other drivers do on the road. Now, I generally just ignore it. I don't know why they might be in a hurry or what kind of day they've had, and it's not like I can actually do anything about it anyway.
Comeuppence