A nice reminder to call your folks more often and encourage different ways of communicating until you find the right way. (calls, letters, emails, etc)
75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12
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Re: 75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12
#32The statistic might be accurate but what a terrible way to explain it. "75% of the time we spend with...." what? You already lost me.
Just say that by the time a child is 12, you have 6 more summers left. The impact is greater even if the premise isn't true. Which it isn't. It's a false premise. Now you have X years as an adult.
Re: 75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12
#33This reminds me of that song I really hate, Cat's in the Cradle. I've long since retired, my son's moved away I called him up just the other day I said, I'd like to see you if you don't mind He said, I'd love to, dad, if I can find the time You see, my new job's a hassle, and the kids have the flu But it's sure nice talking to you, dad It's been sure nice talking to you And as I hung up the phone, it occurred to me H…
Search out Cat's in the Kettle it may help the ear worm.
Re: 75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12
#34While it may be a true statistic, it seems to dramatically miss the boat. Time spent with a newborn, with an infant, with a four year old, with a ten year old, with a sixteen year old, with a twenty year old are not the same. You can have more interaction, more contentment, more sense of continuity, and more sense of family, in a Thanksgiving weekend spent with your adult child and their family than the entirety of y…
What percent of statistics are made up again? 75% maybe?
Re: 75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12
#35Feels odd writing this, but for me, being able to defy this was a positive consequence of the pandemic. I lived alone after I finished college and started working. 3.5 years later this whole pandemic things starts. I ended up moving back home for 2 years because my job went full remote. My siblings and brother-in-law (sister's husband) joined as well. It was surreal living together again as adults.
Who got the top bunk? I love visiting my family but after a couple weeks, I feel like a kid again and start acting like one. Asking for dinner, sneaking out to smoke, staying up late watching cable TV. Any extended amount of time feels unhealthy. But now that they're about to start getting actually old, I want to visit constantly because nothing is forever.
> Who got the top bunk?
If I'm being honest, my parents had an enormous house, so we all got our own rooms and there was still an office space available. They sold it after we all moved out again.
We all made a tremendous effort to stay adults regarding keeping the place in order and cooking. We'd cycle dinner prep through all of us based on work schedules. It was interesting, and since all of our collective friends took lockdown extra seriously, there really was no one to go see.
My parents are in their early 50s, so they're definitely not young anymore, but they're still some time away from something I'd consider "actually old", but my definition may be a bit skewed because 3 of 4 of my grandparents are still with us and 2 of them have a clean bill of outside of being in their late 70s.
Re: 75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12
#36As a stepfather who came into my stepdaughter's life when she had just turned 10, I'm not sure how this makes me feel.....
If it makes you feel better, her memories will mostly be from the post-ten year old era. Think how much of your elementary life you can remember, and then your high school.
As CATS famously said, "You have no chance to survive make your time."
We're not going to get out of life alive, and how we spend the time we have is the only real decision we can make.
Re: 75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12
#37on the flip side, a lot of kids experiences before 12 will be forgotten, some will be super memorable for their entire lives, but a lot of their memories of you as a "parent" and who you are as a person will be after the age of 12.
> on the flip side, a lot of kids experiences before 12 will be forgotten,
A lot of children's life experiences before 12 will shape them and their worldview for the rest of their lives, whether they actively remember it or not.
Re: 75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12
#38This reminds me of that song I really hate, Cat's in the Cradle. I've long since retired, my son's moved away I called him up just the other day I said, I'd like to see you if you don't mind He said, I'd love to, dad, if I can find the time You see, my new job's a hassle, and the kids have the flu But it's sure nice talking to you, dad It's been sure nice talking to you And as I hung up the phone, it occurred to me H…
This is a verb between my grown son and I.
"You're cat's cradling me, aren't you!"
Re: 75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12
#39While it may be a true statistic, it seems to dramatically miss the boat. Time spent with a newborn, with an infant, with a four year old, with a ten year old, with a sixteen year old, with a twenty year old are not the same. You can have more interaction, more contentment, more sense of continuity, and more sense of family, in a Thanksgiving weekend spent with your adult child and their family than the entirety of y…
What percent of statistics are made up again? 75% maybe?
75% are made up, 62% are made up on the spot.
Re: 75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12
#40"Spend all the evenings you can with the people who raised you
'Cause all the times they will change, it'll all come around"
-Lorde