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75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12

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Re: 75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12

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Post by hanoz »

EGreg wrote: post #4
nathanaldensr wrote: post #3

I wish the author had provided a source for their claim.

I don’t.

Quite. It's too depressingly plausible a thought as it is, without digging up evidence that it might actually be true too.

Re: 75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12

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Post by andirk »

Teknoman117 wrote: post #9

Feels odd writing this, but for me, being able to defy this was a positive consequence of the pandemic. I lived alone after I finished college and started working. 3.5 years later this whole pandemic things starts. I ended up moving back home for 2 years because my job went full remote. My siblings and brother-in-law (sister's husband) joined as well. It was surreal living together again as adults.

Who got the top bunk?

I love visiting my family but after a couple weeks, I feel like a kid again and start acting like one. Asking for dinner, sneaking out to smoke, staying up late watching cable TV. Any extended amount of time feels unhealthy.

But now that they're about to start getting actually old, I want to visit constantly because nothing is forever.

Re: 75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12

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Post by gamerDude »

This is also a reminder of the opposite. For those of us on here, we have less than 25% of our time with our parents left.

I lost my father earlier this year. I count myself lucky that I felt very satisfied and complete in our relationship.

Re: 75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12

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Post by etrautmann »

andirk wrote: post #16
Teknoman117 wrote: post #9

Feels odd writing this, but for me, being able to defy this was a positive consequence of the pandemic. I lived alone after I finished college and started working. 3.5 years later this whole pandemic things starts. I ended up moving back home for 2 years because my job went full remote. My siblings and brother-in-law (sister's husband) joined as well. It was surreal living together again as adults.

Who got the top bunk? I love visiting my family but after a couple weeks, I feel like a kid again and start acting like one. Asking for dinner, sneaking out to smoke, staying up late watching cable TV. Any extended amount of time feels unhealthy. But now that they're about to start getting actually old, I want to visit constantly because nothing is forever.

Isn’t it crazy how much context changes behavior? I’ve found the same. Hard not to be my high school self when back with those friends.

Re: 75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12

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Post by wang_li »

While it may be a true statistic, it seems to dramatically miss the boat. Time spent with a newborn, with an infant, with a four year old, with a ten year old, with a sixteen year old, with a twenty year old are not the same. You can have more interaction, more contentment, more sense of continuity, and more sense of family, in a Thanksgiving weekend spent with your adult child and their family than the entirety of your kid's first year.

Re: 75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12

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Post by Arrath »

gamerDude wrote: post #17

This is also a reminder of the opposite. For those of us on here, we have less than 25% of our time with our parents left. I lost my father earlier this year. I count myself lucky that I felt very satisfied and complete in our relationship.

Fuck. I gotta go see my parents.
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