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Re: Ask HN: How to find what I am really good at?

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ADHD is the inability to regulate attention. There are a couple ways this presents: 1) Hyperfocus for hours at a time, often forgetting about physical needs like food/drink/bathroom. 2) Extreme trouble getting started on a task (inability to overcome inertia) and constant distraction once started. 3) Switching hobbies, jobs, roles, spouses, etc because the initial stimulation of something new is more rewarding than o…

The first two sound like ADHD but the third doesn’t at all. That sounds like most people in the world. Everyone complains of the mundane, the same things, day in day out. We don’t hear “I love how nothing has ever changed in my life”. I’ve yet to hear someone describe ADHD in the third way and this thread is the only time I’ve seen folks ever mention it.

It's a bit different because it's more like a obsession to find something rewarding.

My school grades as a kid were fine, but I was studying at least 2 different books at same time because after a single paragraph it was already "boring as hell", even being genuinely intrigued by the problem and the possible outcomes. So to study simple math, multiplication for instance, I had a science magazine open beside to constantly remember the outcomes of studying math (understand astrophysics that apparently is cool), at same time I was studying history with a history book and the cover of Red Alert 2 to remember what can happen if don't understand the outcomes of a possible domination by a authoritarian leader.

So 4 fucking things at same time. All of that to just get a C or B- grade.

I was amazed recently to be able to do just few tasks properly done and managing to rest and remember to eat. Few properly done tasks was usually a result of super/hyperfocus where the toll later was extremely high, like eating lots of garbage food to compensate the lack of food during the previous hours, sometimes as high as 20 straight hours.

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Surely there are other treatments for ADHD beyond the simple pharmaceutical cures, and it would be salutary to diagnose people so they can try those strategies and get the help they need.

There are. Heaps. And you try them all Talk therapy is incredibly important. People with ADHD can often suffer from rejection dysphoria and depending on how long until they realise, or how self aware they are, they end up internalising a lot of negative opinions and shame about themselves that needs to be unwound. There are a lot of issues around the pain of "never fitting in" or being understood. Some of these are a…

I think ADHD could be related to overconsumption of sugar.

Re: Ask HN: How to find what I am really good at?

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Yes, by definition the difference is only in the sense that it affects your life negatively. Of course, negatively will be relative but logically if the individual is okay with it (and the people in their life agree) they will not seek treatment or a diagnosis. To be more precise the cliché idea that society is insane and the individual is sane is not really helpful because dysfunction relative to the society is the…

Perhaps that is why adhd diagnosis is on the up because we see so many people suffering in the construct that does not work well for those that have such sensitivities?

I think there is too much information in general and it's affecting us in unpredictable ways!

Re: Ask HN: How to find what I am really good at?

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This may be relevant: To find work you love, don’t (always) follow your passion https://80000hours.org/articles/dont-follow-your-passion/ 80,000 Hours is a nonprofit organization providing free resources to people to find best opportunities to have a positive impact on the world. I think that if one's occupation has a clear positive impact on others, it is easier to get excited about doing it (and doing it well). One…

"To find work you love, don’t (always) follow your passion."

Agree. Work could, and mostly will, get your passion away. Work, for me is about sense. If work doesn't make sense to you, don't do it.

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Quick questions, apologies if they're too sensitive: - Regarding your co-morbidity, how did you know/decide to seek ADHD treatment and diagnosis? Was it before or after your bipolar diagnosis? - Was there any concern about med interactions? I live with my sister, who's bipolar and we think she MAY have ADHD, hence my curiosity.

Always happy to talk, but I’m not sure how helpful I can be. I was diagnosed ADD as a child (~6 years old) but I wasn’t correctly diagnosed with bipolar until I was 33 after voluntarily seeking treatment on the recommendation of my primary care doctor. As far as treating the ADHD, my psychiatrist didn’t bother with a formal diagnosis. She just decided to treat the executive function issues I reported. Medication is t…

Thanks for the reply! This was helpful. I'm glad that you were able to get the diagnosis and treatment you needed.

And yes, very concerned about giving her any stimulants/mania inducing things. I'm glad to hear that Wellbutrin/NDRIs don't seem to have the same impact on bipolar people as SSRIs do, we'll look into that a bit. (Ironically, I had a terrible Wellbutrin experience. Bodies are weird.)

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Agree with sibling commenters here critiquing this for being an oversimplification- nature vs nurture is not a binary. But even aside from the core of the argument, I find your phraseology oddly formulaic. It's ironic you're accusing the OP of having a "fixed mindset" when so much of your contributed "opinion" is clearly copypasted from books. I'd suggest opening your own mindset to forming a worldview of your own ra…

Thanks for the patented HN contrarian view! :) It's true, comment boards reward the "oddly formulaic" - cliches and well-worn passages carry extra weight. They also lead to weird leaps of illogic, like your assumption I follow any growth gurus at all! Happy to have a longer conversation offline if you'd rather address a man instead of a strawman.

I found your comment condescending: the tone assumes you have absolute knowledge and that the OP is immediately "wrong" in their approach. It's an extremely dismissive way to respond to someone asking for pretty specific advice.

So I addressed that. I didn't intend it as ad hominem against your character - I only intended to address the specific contents of your comment, so apologies for the guru comment (I just assumed you followed them since you were recommending their handbooks).

Re: Ask HN: How to find what I am really good at?

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What it’s the period when it becomes a disease as what you describe is basically how humans generally work?

It’s not a disease. It is the way some people are wired. Just like some people are really boring

Well that doesn’t seem to describe a disorder (the word i meant to use)

Re: Ask HN: How to find what I am really good at?

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I myself went for what I enjoy / makes me happy / balanced / serene. I am not “good” at anything myself either, but I realized that being “good” is heterodirectional criteria i.e. it’s judgment from the outside and I don’t think I want to let the “outside” chose for me. Not claiming social influence is not important, just that it should be 2nd-3rd in importance. Try to do what makes you happy, whatever it is, and try to surround yourself with good relationships. I use this criteria and it works on my machine… :D

Re: Ask HN: How to find what I am really good at?

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I think an interesting exercise which may or may not be relevant to you is to decouple what you want to be really good at with what you are interested in. I find it a common scenario where people want to get into different fields either because of the perks of the hobby/career or they want to see themselves as good at it. An interesting exercise is to take breaks from certain areas (probably more feasible with hobbie…

this is nice advice, thanks for posting it. Resonates a lot with me, i will try thinking about this in the coming days:)
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