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What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Post by thombat »

bigDinosaur wrote: post #55
chaps wrote: post #51

Earlier quoted context omitted.

At some point in your life, somebody's undoubtedly thought the same thing about you. Probably even a bunch of people over many years.

Although you may be right, and they may be wrong. Not that I advocate going around thinking like this as it'll only lead to unhappiness and poor relationships (and you'll also very possibly be wrong).

Shades of the old joke: A man driving on the autobahn hears a newsflash on the radio "Warning for drivers on the A7 northbound! A car is going the wrong way!" "The hell ya say!", snorts the man , "It ain't just one car. It's hundreds of them!"

Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

#82

Post by bigbluedots »

hatsunearu wrote: post #39
cercatrova wrote: post #13

Sonder: n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra…

maybe I'm just an asshole but I've felt whatever is the opposite of sonder these days when I come across people that are so clueless and inattentive they might as well be zombies.

It's ok, to other people you are like that!

Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Post by cstuder »

hatsunearu wrote: post #39
cercatrova wrote: post #13

Sonder: n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra…

maybe I'm just an asshole but I've felt whatever is the opposite of sonder these days when I come across people that are so clueless and inattentive they might as well be zombies.

As always, there is a relevant XKCD comic available for you: https://xkcd.com/610/

Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

#84

Post by apocadam »

gouda-gouda wrote: post #3

The most important shift I’ve made in my life was when I started approaching conversations with the attitude that the other person could teach me something, no matter who it is. Sometimes it takes some digging, but I’ve found it to be true.

Out of interest, what and when inspired this change?

Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Post by eyelidlessness »

cercatrova wrote: post #13

Sonder: n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra…

This is a concept I’ve wanted a word for, for over 20 years. Thank you for sharing it.

Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Post by dasil003 »

leach wrote: post #20

Hmmm I like the message but I partly disagree with some of what they are saying in regards to narrative tap out. I’ve found some things no one can truly understand some things that people go through unless they went through it themselves. I’ve encountered it both ways, and theres just some things that people seem to only be able to understand on their own through experiences. Opening up to other people is exhausting,…

I’ve felt this way before. But is it the same as your feeling? Probably not exactly, but I bet we could connect on it at some level.

Ultimately I’ve learned that it doesn’t serve me well either way to be too guarded or to expect a lot from others. I strive to be open and vulnerable with people despite past disappointments. It doesn’t always work out, but sometimes something beautiful happens that I could not have anticipated.

Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Post by eyelidlessness »

thombat wrote: post #81
bigDinosaur wrote: post #55

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Although you may be right, and they may be wrong. Not that I advocate going around thinking like this as it'll only lead to unhappiness and poor relationships (and you'll also very possibly be wrong).

Shades of the old joke: A man driving on the autobahn hears a newsflash on the radio "Warning for drivers on the A7 northbound! A car is going the wrong way!" "The hell ya say!", snorts the man , "It ain't just one car. It's hundreds of them!"

This reminded me of another joke. Apologies if I botch it, I’m terrible at joke delivery.

A person is driving with a passenger. The driver goes straight through a red light. The passenger is terrified, “that light was red! Aren’t you afraid we’ll be hit?” The driver says “don’t worry, my brother does it all the time.” After crossing several red lights this way, they come to a green light and come to a complete stop. The passenger says, “why did you stop? The light is green now!” The driver says, “my brother might be out driving.”

Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

#88

Post by eyelidlessness »

tobinfekkes wrote: post #60
hatsunearu wrote: post #39

Earlier quoted context omitted.

maybe I'm just an asshole but I've felt whatever is the opposite of sonder these days when I come across people that are so clueless and inattentive they might as well be zombies.

This is water. https://youtube.com/watch?v=eC7xzavzEKY

That was much much better than I could have expected, and I’m glad I used my annual YouTube visit to watch it.

Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Post by atoav »

routerl wrote: post #21
cercatrova wrote: post #13

Sonder: n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra…

I've always thought of this as another perspective on Shakespeare's "There are more things in heaven and Earth, Horatio, Than are dreamt of in your philosophy." To believe otherwise is to have lost the wonder of discovery.

This is the great thing of having a nerdy side: You know that literally everything will get interesting if you just dive into it deep enough.

Sometimes I feel sad for people who cannot experience that joy.

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