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What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Post by routerl »

cercatrova wrote: post #13

Sonder: n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra…

I've always thought of this as another perspective on Shakespeare's

"There are more things in heaven and Earth, Horatio,

Than are dreamt of in your philosophy."

To believe otherwise is to have lost the wonder of discovery.

Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Post by eulgro »

fibonacc wrote: post #11
samtimalsina wrote: post #9

I’m a little drunk and I have not even read the article but I was discussing this very thing with my friends. We have so many stories and we are each going through so much struggle individually. Why can’t we be kind and considerate of each other?

> Why can’t we be kind and considerate of each other? inflation and social media. before we had just inflation. now we have social media that magnifies it.

No. I would rather think its the lack of proper education on how to behave morally, how to have make valid argument, how our choices impact the life of others, and lack of self control training.

Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Post by larve »

abstractbill wrote: post #16

When someone dares to step forward and speak up, listen. Just be. It's one of the most powerful things you can do. Hijacking conversation doesn't create connection, it breaks it. I might be in a minority here but I feel a huge sense of relief when someone shares an anecdote that tells me they understand what I'm going through, because they've been through similar things themself. (I'm probably oversharing, but one of…

Same here. If the person doesn't derail the conversation, but provides context to how they interpret what I might be saying, that's comforting and shared empathy.

Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Post by fibonacc »

sometimeshuman wrote: post #18
fibonacc wrote: post #11

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> Why can’t we be kind and considerate of each other? inflation and social media. before we had just inflation. now we have social media that magnifies it.

And the recent heatwave? The last argument with my brother was so over the top it did permanent damage to our relationship. Upon reflection I do wonder how much heat had to do with it.

heatwave is also caused by global warming caused by co2 levels as energy use rises with inflation.

inflation then widens wealth parity gap and social media reminds individuals to take risks they cannot afford and so on....

inflation causes stock prices to rise and factory outputs, exports to rise leading to more energy consumption.

edit: i think i know why your brother is mad at you

Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Post by fibonacc »

eulgro wrote: post #22
fibonacc wrote: post #11

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> Why can’t we be kind and considerate of each other? inflation and social media. before we had just inflation. now we have social media that magnifies it.

No. I would rather think its the lack of proper education on how to behave morally, how to have make valid argument, how our choices impact the life of others, and lack of self control training.

inflation causes rapid drop in education quality

Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Post by whatshisface »

samtimalsina wrote: post #9

I’m a little drunk and I have not even read the article but I was discussing this very thing with my friends. We have so many stories and we are each going through so much struggle individually. Why can’t we be kind and considerate of each other?

Because going through a struggle tends to turn people inward and makes them see everything, including the harm they do to others, as if they were a victim just doing what they have to do to survive. It is very hard to overcome it because you have to become a kind of martyr, who accepts the reality of their suffering but who's too holy to blame it on everyone else, or even on yourself.

Kids are often nicer than adults because their lives are so easy, but if they don't learn to bear a cross (this is the best metaphor I know) they'll become nasty as they get older, as people reject them and their health starts failing. It's one thing to be a nice young man, another one entirely to be a nice overweight balding 60 year old with joint pain and a skin disease. That's not to say it's about age. It's about how good you feel, and age is just the big conveyor belt that everyone goes down whether they're ahead or behind their demographic.

You can watch this play out in you next time someone says or does something annoying when you're still smarting from a minor injury, like a stubbed toe. You'll tend to act as if they were the ones who stubbed it because blame wants to earth itself.

Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Post by vlunkr »

fibonacc wrote: post #11
samtimalsina wrote: post #9

I’m a little drunk and I have not even read the article but I was discussing this very thing with my friends. We have so many stories and we are each going through so much struggle individually. Why can’t we be kind and considerate of each other?

> Why can’t we be kind and considerate of each other? inflation and social media. before we had just inflation. now we have social media that magnifies it.

Do you think earth was some kind of paradise before social media?

Re: What will you do with the stories entrusted to you?

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Post by AnimalMuppet »

fibonacc wrote: post #26
eulgro wrote: post #22

Earlier quoted context omitted.

No. I would rather think its the lack of proper education on how to behave morally, how to have make valid argument, how our choices impact the life of others, and lack of self control training.

inflation causes rapid drop in education quality

Non sequitur. Inflation and education quality are unrelated.

(Perhaps they are related when inflation gets really bad, but we aren't anywhere near that. And, education wasn't great when inflation was very near zero for a decade, and neither was social kindness.)

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