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> The dog has a lot of false positives from the cameras being triggered by car headlights or small animals. My real dog has the same feature, so you’re at least doing a good job mimicking nature, heh.
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I don't think anything in my mention of it blew it out of proportion. FWIW, my wife is in the IT department of a school district and this was a major issue for them, nearly every one of their 60-some-odd campuses had at least one incident caused by this trend. Sure, it was short-lived, but it was also very widespread and affected even private/charter schools in well-to-do areas like what my wife works at, not just pu…
First, obviously I agree that crime can be influenced by social media trends. Second, I'm sorry for sounding dismissive of something that most likely directly affected you. I'm trying to argue that I believe your larger point is wrong. I'm contributing to your additive that goes farther than "Facebook causes burglaries." You're blaming the people equally or more than the organizations. You're saying that children's b…
> Second, I'm not being dismissive
Agreed, I was referring to the response up thread by @dymk.
> If TikTok was, for example, invented in the 70's, and your theory of a shift in self-reliance is correct, it's incredibly likely the same thing would have happened anyway regardless of how much self-respect children had back then in comparison.
This is possibly true. I'll allow for the fact I am probably over emphasizing one aspect of a larger social shift that is probably driven by something multi-faceted. My basic hypothesis for this sub-discussion, is that someone with self-respect wouldn't put themselves on social media the way people do with TikTok in the first place. The people I interact with (regardless of age) who spend most of their time creating, producing, and doing, and have high levels of self-esteem don't spend very much time on social media pandering for imaginary points and validation from strangers, because they have no need of any such validation from strangers due to their self-esteem and self-respect.
> That being said, I think talking about a shift in self-respect is in interesting conversation, albeit crotchety. I will say that I believe every generation feels this way about younger generations. It's also incredibly easy to have self-respect driven by pride which is it's own problem.
Yes, I'd like to delve into this deeper. I want to clarify that I don't think this is necessarily generational. I'm an older Millennial / Xennial, and I've definitely seen the lack of self-respect in people in Gen X, as well as folks in my age cohort. This is not me saying "those damn kids and their TikTok", it's me saying that we have a widespread problem within our society, which is not caused by social media, but is greatly exacerbated by it and likely to some degree spread/communicated by it.
The lack of self-respect and self-esteem began before social media rose to popularity, it's simply that social media has provided broad interconnection between people and a way to create and drive trends, as well as the most likely effects it has on mental health itself. If you think of lacking self-esteem or self-respect as a piece of mental health, this is most likely inter-related to the larger trend towards worsening mental health in the Western world. This effect cuts across age groups, class, wealth, and other demographics, so it's definitely not something generationally restricted, nor is it something that only happens to poor people. To no small degree, that's kind of the thrust of my original comment, which is that crime is on the rise in wealthier parts of communities/cities/country, when historically those were areas nearly fully insulated from criminality. Crime is a symptom, in my mind, of a shift in social mores, self-respect, and mental health.
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By this logic nobody should be allowed to own a pool. Instead we require pools to be fenced, which is the same thing people do with guard dogs.
Pools don't jump over fences, though.
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100% not true here and not in Eastern Europe. People in villages don't have guns everywhere. Also, the one subgroup of villages who do have guns are actual mafia members. But their power is mainly in organization and in having bought cops. You having own gun will in no way help you if you are targetted. The rest of people have them generally only if they need them for job, very rarely otherwise. Villagers don't have…
The implied gun ownership rate given by the firearm suicide rate in Hungary, for example, is rather high. It is also surprisingly high in Austria. Neither are like the US of course, but unless the primary reason people own firearms in those countries is for suicide, more people own guns than you may imagine. Granted, I did research on proxy gun rate estimators many years ago, using even older data, so it is possible…
Lots of people in the police or other security forces have access to guns. Often people who have done military service have an issued gun at home (eg Switzerland I think). Military service generally overlaps with a time in life when males are more vulnerable to suicide.
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>Car-break ins and bike thefts in particular in cities like San Francisco are associated strongly to the refusal of the law enforcement in the area to actually enforce the law. Police in poor cities have never had enough enforcement resources to do anything other than write a report for petty crime yet you don't see the nearly amount of videos of brazen "petty crime in broad daylight while witnesses film" coming out…
You're correct in your first paragraph and probably a quarter correct in your second paragraph. Just to be a bit more deliberate: poor communities have experienced high rates of crime throughout human history, it's a newly recurring phenomenon that high rates of crime are now happening in communities which are not poor, and it's a problematic sign for society. Without trying to crack open the entirety of human psycho…
What about those who want wealth but can't acquire it but also do good in a community to prevent crime? What if we were forced to make communal change instead of buying our way out?
Children across all spectrums of wealth have engaged in vandalization or theft for the entirety of humanity, whether for social media points or other variations of clout.
When I bought a house I picked up a dog dish and put it by my walkout basement sliding door. Also the pond next to my house has old tennis balls show up in it now and then so I put them next to the dish. According to the local cops break ins in my area are mostly just kids going into open garage / garage side doors / back doors that are left open and stuff to steal is out and obvious and so on. I figure just the sens…
After living in a dangerous city my whole life, I think living in a place where break ins are consequences of owners being lazy would be awesome.
Sat in bed for a minute pondering my sad and mostly likely odorous fate. Finally walked on furniture to the bedroom door while the skunk was apparently chewing my leather shoes, set a trail of cheese leading out the sliding door and sat in silence and darkness on the stairs overlooking the cheese trail.
Eventually it came sniffling out methodically gobbling cheese right back out to where it belonged.
Got a locking screen door after that...and a new pair of loafers.
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I doubt it. A dog and a sign send different messages, and the message of the sign is “the resident is afraid of being robbed”. EDIT: I want to make explicit that I am comparing something that gives the impression of a dog without a sign vs a sign with no other evidence of a dog. I am explicitly not commenting on the message sent by a sign combined with other evidence of a dog, just “fake (but, for the sake of argumen…
Interesting. I put up such a sign to try to reduce my liability if someone tried to get into my yard and encountered my 150 lb dog.
>...A Beware of Dog sign may or may not count as protection against lawsuits. In Alabama, the court is likely to consider that if you need a sign telling people to beware of your dog, then you already know that the animal is dangerous. This can still apply even if your dog has a lack of violent history.
https://www.drakeinjurylawyers.com/do-beware-of-dog-signs-le...
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First, obviously I agree that crime can be influenced by social media trends. Second, I'm sorry for sounding dismissive of something that most likely directly affected you. I'm trying to argue that I believe your larger point is wrong. I'm contributing to your additive that goes farther than "Facebook causes burglaries." You're blaming the people equally or more than the organizations. You're saying that children's b…
A few things to unpack and respond to here. > Second, I'm not being dismissive Agreed, I was referring to the response up thread by @dymk. > If TikTok was, for example, invented in the 70's, and your theory of a shift in self-reliance is correct, it's incredibly likely the same thing would have happened anyway regardless of how much self-respect children had back then in comparison. This is possibly true. I'll allow…
Crime on the rise in insulated communities could be a statement from those fed up. It could be a deterioration of mental health conditions. It could also be that we're growing and growing in population and getting ever closer in proximity to each other making it impossible to insulate physically. It's probably all of those things and more but I'm on your side now.
>I'm an older Millennial / Xennial, and I've definitely seen the lack of self-respect in people in Gen X, as well as folks in my age cohort. This is not me saying "those damn kids and their TikTok",
Yes and I don't think pointing out a shift in "fuck you behavior" is crotchety, I just thought that the specific example was not up to par because it didn't show a reflection of that shift. I've had poor and wealthy classmates do all of those things in the past and have heard stories from grandparents exhibiting the same behavior in that age group.
>The people I interact with (regardless of age) who spend most of their time creating, producing, and doing, and have high levels of self-esteem don't spend very much time on social media pandering for imaginary points and validation from strangers, because they have no need of any such validation from strangers due to their self-esteem and self-respect.
That is your microcosm, and it sounds like a good one. Most creators, producers, doers that exist, live for attention and validation.