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Outside of the bean counters, I’ve never heard anything good about the outcomes of any outsourcing project.
> I’ve never heard anything good about the outcomes of any outsourcing project Cloud computing.
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There was a study, which I can't find right now so I'm hoping another person will help me out with the citation, that showed women were less satisfied with stay-at-home men than vice versa. Anecdotally, once I fully took on the duties of breadwinner our relationship really transformed into the healthiest and most stable it's ever been. She pursues her creative passions and I get the joy of watching her grow. She does…
> Anecdotally, once I fully took on the duties of breadwinner our relationship really transformed into the healthiest and most stable it's ever been. She pursues her creative passions and I get the joy of watching her grow. The problem here is the power imbalance. At least in the US, she has the power to divorce you at any time for no reason and date a different man, and you still have to support her with alimony/chi…
"Netherlands enjoy the highest subjective measure of life satisfaction among all OECD countries. Perhaps one reason is that their mothers are also among the most likely to work part-time." I'm from the Netherlands and can confirm that the 1.5 model is very common. Typically the man has the full-time job and the wife works part-time and combines it with care for the children on the other days. On days where both paren…
> Cynical people may think of it as a semi-old-fashioned model, but I couldn't disagree more. I think it's beautiful for one parent to set aside more time for raising children. The part that's old-fashioned is the assumption that this person will be the mother. Your comment makes it sound like full-time mothers and part-time fathers are still very uncommon.
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> It's easy to forget how much it takes behind the scences to keep the machine humming smoothly. Until your toilet gets clogged.
Somewhat similar to climate crisis. If we shut off AC's globally for two days, we'd figure out the solution.
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> Anecdotally, once I fully took on the duties of breadwinner our relationship really transformed into the healthiest and most stable it's ever been. She pursues her creative passions and I get the joy of watching her grow. The problem here is the power imbalance. At least in the US, she has the power to divorce you at any time for no reason and date a different man, and you still have to support her with alimony/chi…
Well, it's the same in the Netherlands and probably most places as well. It doesn't matter if the spouse cheated on you, the one who earns most ends up paying alimony. But the second part I don't know, why can't one get the less stressful job after divorce, it's not like you're enslaved, or are you?
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Well, it's the same in the Netherlands and probably most places as well. It doesn't matter if the spouse cheated on you, the one who earns most ends up paying alimony. But the second part I don't know, why can't one get the less stressful job after divorce, it's not like you're enslaved, or are you?
You have to pay based on your max earning potential (the more stressful job) so if you take a less stressful, lower paying job you may have no money left to live on at all.
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You have to pay based on your max earning potential (the more stressful job) so if you take a less stressful, lower paying job you may have no money left to live on at all.
How can that work, what if you lose your job. Doesn't make sense
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> It's easy to forget how much it takes behind the scences to keep the machine humming smoothly. Until your toilet gets clogged.
Somewhat similar to climate crisis. If we shut off AC's globally for two days, we'd figure out the solution.
Then again, we have figured out the solution to the climate crisis, it's nuclear power
"Netherlands enjoy the highest subjective measure of life satisfaction among all OECD countries. Perhaps one reason is that their mothers are also among the most likely to work part-time." I'm from the Netherlands and can confirm that the 1.5 model is very common. Typically the man has the full-time job and the wife works part-time and combines it with care for the children on the other days. On days where both paren…
I don't really disagree with the main point of your comment, but I think this distinction is artificial. Perhaps what we're looking for is a way to communicate about the way that different types of work "feel" to the person working, and because we haven't developed our language as well as we'd like, we fall back to reductionistic concepts that perpetuate confusion about the 'goal' of human endeavor; particularly, the idea that "society-oriented" things are somehow intrinsically more valuable/important than "family-oriented" things.
"Netherlands enjoy the highest subjective measure of life satisfaction among all OECD countries. Perhaps one reason is that their mothers are also among the most likely to work part-time." I'm from the Netherlands and can confirm that the 1.5 model is very common. Typically the man has the full-time job and the wife works part-time and combines it with care for the children on the other days. On days where both paren…
What really, really helps is that my employer was obliged to let me come back for anywhere from 15-30 hours/week during the two years after my year out for parental leave. Same hourly rate, same general tasks, and they cannot fire me in that time for anything short of actual malice or criminal actvity, so they can’t do something squirrelly like put me in a position I’m not qualified for to try to get rid of me.
After these two years, I have a decision to make: switch back to my previous full time schedule, or to a permanent part time contract. My employer can choose to let me be more flexible, but they are not required to.
My female friends back in the USA have been bimodal: either they drop out of their serious careers entirely after they have kids (and often end up trying to sell me MLM stuff), or they cludge things together to go back full time after at most 4-6 months of maternity leave, often spending more than they net on childcare and housekeeping for at least a year or two in order to keep their places that they’ve worked really hard for.