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Re: Ask HN: How to keep my daughter busy while tickling her curiosity

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Let her guide you? I somehow managed to raise three daughters to adulthood with their curiosity and love of learning intact, there is a luck component of course.

An easy, not much equipment needed, activity is drawing. What I like about it is that it incentivizes visualizing things (not everyone can, and that is okay, drawing what you are looking at can be fun too!) and since I generally was not great at drawing nobody felt they were too "bad" at it to participate.

A program the girls took advantage of was Reikes Nature studies. One of the things they do is catalog as many things they can see at a nearby wooded park. When I read Feynman's discussion of how the ants became a source of fascination for him I realized that there are zillions of questions right in front in our eyes if we think about it. Or perhaps more accurately wonder why things are the way they are.

David Macaulay has a great book called "The Way Things Work." (and it has funny illustrations of mammoths figuring things out) Reading it together and talking about how things work led to interesting questions which led to interesting projects to see if we could answer those questions.

And generally "active reading" where you read together and talk about the characters in the story, what they might be feeling, why they might be acting the way they are, and how things might be different if something happened in a different way than it does in the book.

Perhaps the best idea to be genuinely interested in what they are interested in, rather than trying to get them interested in something you are interested in. That may seem obvious but it wasn't to me at first.

My eldest and I started doing piano lessons at that age, in part because the music was interesting and in part because I always wanted something "safe" we could talk about (and music was always a good topic of conversation).

Re: Ask HN: How to keep my daughter busy while tickling her curiosity

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Yes, time with dad. Get outside and walk or hike. Play in dirt. Explore plants and flowers. Splash in a creek. My daughter really enjoyed the affordable bow&arrow with foam target.

All this is making me want to have kids sooner.

Or just be a kid.

Re: Ask HN: How to keep my daughter busy while tickling her curiosity

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In training academic Pedagogist here: It may be worthwhile to take a two or day three reading of Rousseau's classic, "Emile; or On Education." It gives tremendous insight into how it is that adults can have positive relationships with the children that they might be governing. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emile%2C_or_On_Education Rousseau recommends: Night games, obstacle courses, Natural Method (Parkour), but in sh…

Is that the same Rosseau that abandoned his own children to suffer miserable, short lives in an orphanage?

Re: Ask HN: How to keep my daughter busy while tickling her curiosity

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I wonder how teenage alcohol abuse compares across countries, France in particular comes to mind since it's common to introduce wine relatively early (in moderation, and perhaps diluted, of course). I thought there was quite a young supervised with-meal drinking age too, but having searched for it perhaps that's changed (or I was wrong). If it's not some forbidden fruit maybe the run off with a bottle of vodka thing…

In France, diluting your wine will get you the guillotine ;-) The legal drinking age is 16 for low alcohol content beverages (wine, beer, etc) ; 18 for all alcohols and tobacco. At a family gathering or on a special occasion you may get a glass of wine starting around 14 or later I'd say, for most middle class families. Binge drinking is not as much of a problem as in more northern countries, but binge alcohol consum…

Ha, I only meant your children's. Did it not used to be 12y as long as with a meal (and adults) or something?

Otherwise that's pretty much the same as the UK, except the 16/18 distinction is drink/buy rather than low/high ABV. (That's my recollection anyway - I'm almost as far past needing to care for myself as I am away from caring for anyone else!)

Re: Ask HN: How to keep my daughter busy while tickling her curiosity

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We have such a weird culture around how we treat teenagers in this country. We all remember drinking and smoking as teens, but parents tends to rule with an iron fist and convince themselves that they have more control than their parents did, which means we force healthy normal curious kids to go out to a secluded area (probably by car) to get high or drunk or explore in other ways, away from an adult that could help…

I wonder how teenage alcohol abuse compares across countries, France in particular comes to mind since it's common to introduce wine relatively early (in moderation, and perhaps diluted, of course). I thought there was quite a young supervised with-meal drinking age too, but having searched for it perhaps that's changed (or I was wrong). If it's not some forbidden fruit maybe the run off with a bottle of vodka thing…

At the time the legal drinking age in the Netherlands was 16, and I can remember sneaking in drinks a few years early (just not buying any myself). I honestly think it’s for the best to get aquainted with alcohol earlier in your life, so that you don’t go wild later in life when there is much less supervision.

Re: Ask HN: How to keep my daughter busy while tickling her curiosity

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If you have access to a computer, make a super-simple game with her - just an arcanoid. I had a very bright experience with this, and it can be done in browser DevTools.

At first, it’s just a big circle floating in the middle of the screen.

Then you make it move diagonally (x+1,y+1 on each iteration of an infinite cycle).

Then you figure out where the extents of the screen are, together, and make it bounce off, and this is where fun starts!

You add new objects for the circle/ball to bounce from, player-controlled pad at the bottom of the screen, devise new levels where ball moves in amusing patterns, breakable blocks and things like power-ups etc. You can add sound at some point.

All in all, this can be an extremely fun journey for weeks!

Re: Ask HN: How to keep my daughter busy while tickling her curiosity

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The truth is that you can be a successful computer software developer and not need to know much at all about how computers work. Or even how things like compilers work. Some of us never even studied in a CS program - gasp!

i also never studied CS but find it quite odd they didn't even stumble across them in 15 years
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