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Re: Ask HN: I'm disabled and out of money. Now what?

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I'm not sure what the cause of your chronic pain is, but I would highly recommend reading John Sarno's "The Mindbody Prescription." I've dealt with chronic pain for years and it's the only thing that's had any effect. Please, please , don't write it off until you've read the book. Note that Sarno's work focuses on back pain, but it applies to all types of chronic pain (including migraines, which he discusses in the b…

When my grandmother was in her 20's, her hair turned white and she started losing weight. Convinced it was psychosomatic, the doctors at the time gave her 10 rounds of electroshock therapy. Later it was discovered that she had Addison's disease, an autoimmune condition. All she needed was some medication.

So, let's say I'm skeptical when it comes to the "mind body connection".

Re: Ask HN: I'm disabled and out of money. Now what?

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Same, disabled. Luckily I paid into insurance and got disability coverage but even still it isn't enough to make ends meet in Los Angeles. I haven't found a solution. It sounds like you're doing better in some regards. I would say do what you can to improve your situation like the claim and what not as early as possible and say fuck you to the negative self talk that might be holding you back from getting help. Talk…

First: I have become an evangelist for disability insurance. I know it sucks but total award amounts seem to be higher and more sustainable. LA would be hard, I feel for you. Any suggestion on advocacy programs? I am in the Midwest if that helps. I know that this depends on specific impairments, but have you found ways to do things you enjoy? This is the hardest thing for me right now: I don’t want to spend the rest…

Prior to my last surgery, I got a high energy puppy. Total PITA. Saved my life. Hard to stay in bed when the doggo needs another walk.

Re: Ask HN: I'm disabled and out of money. Now what?

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This is brainstorming for what I might try if I were in your situation:

- try contracting! There are a lot of people who need a basic MVP written and do not have the skills themselves. Not everyone has a tight deadline, either, and if you're paid hourly, if you are too tired to work one day, no problem, they just don't pay you. Just set good expectations ("I can only commit to 20 hrs/wk, but may be able to do more", no need to mention why). Between skills, availability, and rate, there is a lot of room to maneuver: a very skilled US developer who can only work 10 hrs/wk but who charges a low rate might be quite worth it. (But choose clients carefully) I know Toptal has had a lot of these kind of jobs, and I expect the other agencies also have a lot.

- look for companies with lower expectations. From what I've heard (i.e. HN comments :), often small, non-tech companies might find even basic stuff really helpful. Also, big companies have a lot of time spent not-coding.

- you could specialize in understanding code to fix bugs. Fixing problems in million line code-bases involves a lot of reading and experiments, not banging out code. This pairs well with contracting, but this is also an asset to big companies.

- if your pain is physical (e.g. wrists), you might try voice input. My brother knows a blind developer (who uses Linux [!]), he presumably isn't typing 100 WPM, but is reliably employed.

- consider leveraging your technical abilities in other fields that don't involve typing/standing/sitting. As I understand it, technical sales (e.g. selling devices to engineers) requires understanding how the products benefit the customers and visiting customers, not cranking out code. "Applications engineering" is sort of like high-level tech support and consulting, and some engineering companies have a group like this.

- consulting to fellow founders. I'm sure you have something to offer.

- management or PM, and I assume you have experience with at least one of these as a founder. You can also do this as contract work; I've seen contract work for PMs, small team managers, and even CTO. (Presumably the CTO contract position was for a rather small company which was either too small to need a FT CTO, or bridging the gap until they found someone permanent.)

- tutoring HS math/science/programming. From what I've heard, tutoring rates can be quite good, especially if you target the market that can pay.

- if you need money right now, $1500/month at part time (80 hrs/month) is $19/hr, which is fairly achievable. This isn't fun or glamorous, but I know second-hand that doing phone support for AT&T, Verizon, etc. is paying about this; I expect they are always looking for people. My friend, who took the job (half-time) because of some physical limitations, went through a month of frustration, but came to an understanding of what the business goals/limitations are. He also quickly got promoted to trainer, so he enjoyed his role more. Not something you'd want to make a career out of, but it would stabilize the situation, and you'd still have 80 hrs to explore alternatives.

Also, this probably isn't a popular HN approach, but if your pain is physical, you could try divine healing. Find a charismatic church and ask for prayer for healing; if it doesn't work, at least it'll probably be a new experience. If you're near Redding, CA, the Bethel Healing Rooms has hundreds of people that come every Saturday, and I personally know a number of people that have been healed. (Don't read too much on the web, though, there are a lot of opposition to Charismatics that are opposed because of doctrine and take stuff all out of context. All the naysayers are really motivated to make websites going into depth about all the failings, but all the people that have a great experience don't have a burning desire to create websites about it, so search results are really skewed.)

Re: Ask HN: I'm disabled and out of money. Now what?

#174

I'm not sure what the cause of your chronic pain is, but I would highly recommend reading John Sarno's "The Mindbody Prescription." I've dealt with chronic pain for years and it's the only thing that's had any effect. Please, please , don't write it off until you've read the book. Note that Sarno's work focuses on back pain, but it applies to all types of chronic pain (including migraines, which he discusses in the b…

When my grandmother was in her 20's, her hair turned white and she started losing weight. Convinced it was psychosomatic, the doctors at the time gave her 10 rounds of electroshock therapy. Later it was discovered that she had Addison's disease, an autoimmune condition. All she needed was some medication. So, let's say I'm skeptical when it comes to the "mind body connection".

Not everything is psychosomatic. It's good to be skeptical!

Re: Ask HN: I'm disabled and out of money. Now what?

#176

Lots of credulity in here. "Worst of all, my life is pretty drab." I'll bet. I wonder what the person who watches him play video games all day thinks about his inability to work due to "chronic pain".

Tell me you've never been depressed without telling me you've never been depressed.

Re: Ask HN: I'm disabled and out of money. Now what?

#178

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Summary linked in the comments: https://web.archive.org/web/20101210060431/http://podolsky.e... > Here is my summary of what I think is most important in Dr. Sarno's theory: > 1. The mind and the body are linked. Classic example: the placebo effect -- your mind thinks it's gotten a pill that's gonna fix your body, and what do you know, believing that leads to your body fixing itself. > 2. Not only can the mind-body c…

I have no opinion on the book or author in question, but I’m not clear on why you are so dismissive. The ability for psychological expectations to cause physical pain and even physical symptoms (like those of an allergic reaction) is relatively well established science.

Doctors are very dismissive of chronic pain patients and regularly make you doubt you have anything, generally with language very similar to Sarno's, in my case I had to fight a lot until they found I had a variation of Parkinson's disease, it was very distressing and a huge part of my unhappiness.

Re: Ask HN: I'm disabled and out of money. Now what?

#179
Here is an interesting news article I saw recently about chronic pain, in case it is useful. It seemed like it could be a balanced look at the field of managing it, now, for what it may be worth: https://www.cnn.com/2022/06/27/health/haider-warraich-chroni...

I became disabled due to chronic fatigue syndrome, and as I progressed until gradually unable to keep a job, I also went through what you are of being denied disability benefits, but a good doctor (specialist) helped me w/ an attorney referral, which along with letters from former coworkers. HR and family as to my condition, some careful record-keeping (hard and draining), and being able to stay with family until things stabilized more, were a big help when I went to the administrative law judge finally about it. My security is church and family, family and church (and given the government's track record, that is where it will stay--maybe states could do better, but I don't think the US fed ever could--long set of experiences there).

So I can sympathize: even though our conditions are different, I think there is some overlap. For my situation at least, graded exercise therapy or the belief it is all in one's head, are very unhelpful ideas (much could be said).

But now things have stabilized, I believe I will get better eventually, and there is hope for me, and there is hope for you. Don't ever give up.

Here is another recent article (related to overcoming depression with a multi-pronged approach, not trying to do everything at once but in thoughtful steps), which I thought was very good (has some religious aspects, which are actually relevant): https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/liahona/2022/07/07...

Again, don't give up. It can really get to where things are OK.

Re: Ask HN: I'm disabled and out of money. Now what?

#180
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Earlier quoted context omitted.

It’s also worth considering whether providing a lower going rate and longer duration of work would be effective. For some projects it may be possible to effectively work half time. I’ve met folks in unusual industries that need ongoing tech work/knowledge but have no desire to have this knowledge and effort in house. Medical device manufacturing was one such field. (work was government compliance, and server patching…

Would you have any suggestions for finding work in fields like this? As a developer (mobile with some web and backend), I would love to have ongoing part-time work to provide enough income and free time to pursue other projects.

These jobs are generally considered full time and may even have anti moonlighting clauses. They just don’t have much pressure associated to them as long as you are moderately competent and can reasonably deal with crushing beuracracy.

The way to find these is to really just look for a job which emphasizes enterprise, a tech you know, and the main focus being upgrade from version X to version Y. Bonus points if this is in a large firm with minimal competition in its sector.

These companies largely need someone to be there in case they might need some job done, but generally they need people to pretend to be busy. With remote work, they probably don’t need you to try particularly hard at that.

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