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Uhm, the lower birthrates in developed countries is because of better access to birth control, and because it's hard to raise a gaggle of kids when both parents work full-time.
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> Get of these apps. I think many men who use apps, do so because they are too afraid to approach a woman they find attractive if the situation is appropriate. Yes. I couldn't agree more. Spent 2-3 frustrating years on Tinder without much success. At the start of the pandemic, I was done with being alone in my apartment and decided to try to approach women on the street. My takeaways: 1. Heart rate goes over 130 (acc…
>decided to try to approach women on the street Yeah no. Creepiest advice in the whole thread. idk where you live but this is the easiest way to get cop called on.
If you follow her around, especially after being asked to leave her alone, then we're getting into harassment territory. But if she calls the cops because you talked to her, she's 100x more crazy than you are creepy.
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I'm not surprised when you look at the quality of 20ish year old males. They expect sex to just fall in their laps without doing anything like learning to socialize or being interesting.
Have you ever questioned if 20 years old females are as desirable as they think they are? Because they are not. Pretty handy to make all the fault of "males" while never ask them what desires they have, what they want in the other person while constantly emphasize females' desires. Have we ever question women about their own standard? Are they too high? Are they what men want? Do they bring something on the table or…
There are so many incel type comments in this thread and anytime this subject comes up. Online dating definitely isn’t fun but it’s not the shit show people here seem to make out. All of my friends met their long terms partners on dating apps. None of these men are particularly attractive. All are average looking at best. Personally I went from never dating to going on dates with a handful of people over a 6 month pe…
I will second this. I am a late-30s recently divorced man, that got back on the dating 'market' about a year and a half ago after nearly two decades into a frustrating sexless marriage. I have a history of shyness/social anxiety, am very nerdy, balding, and struggle with weight issues- I am probably average or below average realistically. Yet I had a great time on Tinder- I was able to have sex with different women s…
Generally, if you're not willing to date down - you will have a bad time as a man on these apps. It also depends on what you're looking for - as you're late 30's, you might not be looking for women in their 20's anymore. If you're looking for a childless relationship with a woman in their 30's and 40's - it's not as difficult. The difficulty rises exponentially when you want kids and the woman is in her 20's (even if it's 29.9). This bracket only gets more difficult as you age, not easier.
> Be willing to lower standards really low at first- have sex with whoever is interested, even if they are older or a bit overweight. As I built confidence and experience, I gradually was able to date more and more attractive women over time.
Also this literally has no effect on your ability to date online. Fucking ugly women isn't going to help you with online dating. It's all about your profile and that's it.
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We're nineteen years into the project of digitally reifying human relationships - one that's snowballing into an unmitigated catastrophe. Social media circa 2003 began as a codification of existing human relationships. One's first digital friends records generally were a product of social relations, but as the marginal cost of digital reproduction tends toward zero, so did the cost of digital records of friendship un…
"The digitization of friendship as a signifier of the friendship replaced the latter forming a simulacrum - the signifier replaced the signified". We've moved our lives onchain and exchanged real connections for a social media nft.
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Have you ever questioned if 20 years old females are as desirable as they think they are? Because they are not. Pretty handy to make all the fault of "males" while never ask them what desires they have, what they want in the other person while constantly emphasize females' desires. Have we ever question women about their own standard? Are they too high? Are they what men want? Do they bring something on the table or…
Let's not insult the intelligence of literally anyone by suggesting that most women have high standards. Some do. Most just want a warm, presentable body with a steady job and decent hygiene... and most still end up married by age 35. Not dating. Married. And the focus is on men because it's men who are complaining about not being able to find a date while sequestered behind their phone screen.
Go on Tinder and see what you get.
I think more of thoughtful physical intimacy ( not porn ) in relationships would be a massive treatment for the depression epidemic modern world seems to suffer from. A contemporary poet and philosopher from my country considered eroticism the key to what he calls "ecological asceticism": physical intimacy and tenderness requires "no more energy than digging in your planting bed", but it forces us to attune to anothe…
We're still at the feudalism stage sprinkled with iPhones/Technology.
I am just not understanding how that choice means I am dooming myself with less.. intimacy? I don't follow. Explain please - (Genuinely curious not trying to argue)
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You can't just dismiss global events with long term consequences because they don't appear to have an immediate and direct impact on your life.
Disagree. I've found living this way is actually quite nice. What am I going to do about these "global events" anyway? I can't impact them so I don't see why I should worry about them. I'll just deal with their downstream impact and let others worry about the events themselves.
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> Also, with the wars, global warming and everything else that's happening right now, My thinking is there will always be something. Our parents could have said the same thing about Vietnam and the Cold War. My litmus test is: "is this issue affecting you". Global warming and wars may make you anxious when reading the news, but does it _actually_ affect your life.
Global warming will eventually effect everyone, which is the point. It's already effecting many people and people they know... That's a weird one to pick considering how much it already effect people and will definitely effect people in the future. The war in Ukraine is also massively effecting us when it comes to energy prices and a large component of the remainder of the inflation (partly hard scarcity in many comm…
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Let's not insult the intelligence of literally anyone by suggesting that most women have high standards. Some do. Most just want a warm, presentable body with a steady job and decent hygiene... and most still end up married by age 35. Not dating. Married. And the focus is on men because it's men who are complaining about not being able to find a date while sequestered behind their phone screen.
That's exactly what the studies suggest. Go on Tinder and see what you get.
Not just dating.
Not just sex.
Marriage.