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Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by CodeSgt » Tue, Jun 21, 2022, 12:59 PM UTC

ChuckNorris89 wrote: post #3

I don't think tech or porn is the main culprit. It's that people now have way more entertainment options other than sex. Of course, a lot for those entertainment options are being driven by tech. Back in my dad's days, they were poor so the only entertainment options in their free time was drinking cheap home made alcohol, dancing and sex, while now we have gaming, Netflix, tic-tok, porn, traveling to the infinite In…

I think that all the things you listed are definitely culprits, but I wouldn't be so quick to discount porn.

Anecdotally, I myself and many otherwise healthy, sociable young men I know have pretty serious porn addictions. I really wish there would be more research done on the negative impacts of pornography, especially on young men and teens/pre-teens.

I know typically any anti-porn sentiment is met with "Oh you're just being a puritan", but the reality couldn't be further from the truth.

On social issues, I'm very liberal. Yet so much porn during my developmental years has done so much damage that as an adult I'm just now really understanding the full extent of it, and breaking that addiction is incredibly difficult

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by throwaway98797 » Tue, Jun 21, 2022, 1:00 PM UTC

janmarsal wrote: post #10

I'd have sex everyday if women wanted me :D

good sex is like two hour affair with new people with related warm up and and cool down phase. Even if act is only 15 minutes.

14 hours a week a lot of time

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by agent008t » Tue, Jun 21, 2022, 1:00 PM UTC

KronisLV wrote: post #74

jbrun wrote: post #21

Population implosion is going to be the biggest problem of our lives. It is one of those issues that creeps up progressively (like Global Warming), but will have cataclysmic impacts. Sex is a precursor to relationships and kids, if people don't have sex... Imagine 80% of the population is elderly and retired (or want to be retired) - that is where the world is heading by the end of the century. From 2018: https://www…

But surely as societies enter the later parts of the demographic transition phases ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographic_transition ) something like that is bound to happen - you cannot have infinitely growing populations and eventually mortality will decrease (due to healthcare improvements and increased living standards) to a point where a non-insignificant part of your population will be of an advanced age.…

It does not matter how much money a generation has saved, if the next generation is not there to provide the goods and services for them.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by nnoitra » Tue, Jun 21, 2022, 1:01 PM UTC

orangepurple wrote: post #75

95% of Tinder swipes by women are passes compared to 47% for men. Women tend to date up. Online dating apps are rigged for men. These apps are search engines optimized to match women with the top 5% of men. These apps are designed for women. Being average or even above average will almost never result in a date. Tinder was designed like a slot machine which will ruin your self-esteem from constant rejection but your…

Yup.

In the Western world if you aren't a >= 7 in the looks department you will definitely struggle.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by dpz » Tue, Jun 21, 2022, 1:01 PM UTC

lumost wrote: post #20

ChuckNorris89 wrote: post #3

I don't think tech or porn is the main culprit. It's that people now have way more entertainment options other than sex. Of course, a lot for those entertainment options are being driven by tech. Back in my dad's days, they were poor so the only entertainment options in their free time was drinking cheap home made alcohol, dancing and sex, while now we have gaming, Netflix, tic-tok, porn, traveling to the infinite In…

I do wonder if the act of dating has gotten substantially less fun than it was in the past. At least if you go to a bar/concert/activity you may have fun and make plutonic friends, messaging random people on a dating site seems much more depressing.

It is very un fun, one of the big things I've noticed is online dating is very different experience for men and women. Both have their negatives and positives, but it create a weird dynamic of how people date.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by michaelbrooks » Tue, Jun 21, 2022, 1:01 PM UTC

I'd say the explosion of mental health and anxiety is playing a huge part in it as well. My wife and I would have a child if we knew we were stable and able to look after them properly. Also, with the wars, global warming and everything else that's happening right now, why would you want to bring a child into this?

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by [deleted] » Tue, Jun 21, 2022, 1:01 PM UTC

ls15 wrote: post #68

blodkorv wrote: post #24

Sex is becoming a thing only the upper class will have access to. The rest are either too unattractive or poor to be wanted.

Then why is birth rate inversely correlated with income?

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Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by maximus-decimus » Tue, Jun 21, 2022, 1:01 PM UTC

Markoff wrote: post #26

first sentence: "With every fetish having a dedicated subreddit and every vagina a Gwyneth Paltrow candle scent, it's hard to believe sex isn't the most popular of all the cardinal sins..." TIL sex is cardinal sin.

It's the Lust one.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by _trampeltier » Tue, Jun 21, 2022, 1:02 PM UTC

andrewclunn wrote: post #31

Obesity epidemic. I mean, when so many people are that unattractive, it's not exactly rocket science why we're having less sex. EDIT - The number of replies by people in denial that being horribly out of shape and having excessive body fat isn't related to attractiveness and sexual enjoyment is... well not surprising. Though it is indicative of how in denial our infantilizing culture is and how effectively it enables…

Let me tell you: a person with a perfect body != good sex.

Sex, even soft and slowly sex, is a bit like sport. It is body work, you have to train it a bit, you have get the other persons feeling.

Finally you need time, even for a quicky somewhere.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by jacknews » Tue, Jun 21, 2022, 1:02 PM UTC

Market homogenization (because of the apps) leads to a larger scale of 'winner takes all' dynamics, ie increasing inequality.

The top players in the market are probably getting way more offers than they can, um, service, and for anyone in the lower ranks, the effort/reward is uneconomic.