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Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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I don't think tech or porn is the main culprit. It's that people now have way more entertainment options other than sex. Of course, a lot for those entertainment options are being driven by tech.

Back in my dad's days, they were poor so the only entertainment options in their free time was drinking cheap home made alcohol, dancing and sex, while now we have gaming, Netflix, tic-tok, porn, traveling to the infinite Instagramable places around the world, plus the grind of keeping up with spiraling living and real estate costs, which IMHO, is the real bummer here.

Also, adult dating and meeting people for the post-college working professionals, has largely moved from clubs/bars/the office to online dating apps, or lonely depression in your apartment, eating or drinking your feelings away, for those without success in the WFH, remote-everything, online dating world. Especially with the lockdowns.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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I don't think tech or porn is the main culprit. It's that people now have way more entertainment options other than sex. Of course, a lot for those entertainment options are being driven by tech. Back in my dad's days, they were poor so the only entertainment options in their free time was drinking cheap home made alcohol, dancing and sex, while now we have gaming, Netflix, tic-tok, porn, traveling to the infinite In…

It's because people in their 20s are living with their parents and don't want to have sex in the park.

When I was younger I wanted it badly enough that I did stupid things like that but I can understand why people like me are in a tiny minority.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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a related long read: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/23121356-your-brain-o...

I thought it was a decent book, seemed to cite a good number of sources, but I'm no scientician. But Gary makes a pretty rational argument -- If you're finding yourself in a certain situation[1], without a known underlying medical cause (as ruled out by a doctor), then cutting out porn never killed anyone, and anecdotally has cured many. So why not just give it a try?

[1]: I'll keep it PG here, but the book is clear what this situation is

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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The real culprit isn’t porn, it is mainly the change in societal expectations and the ease of changing your baseline expectations. Our relationships have become extremely disposable. You are one Instagram DM away from moving onto the next one. Dating websites and apps largely have the same problems.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

#8

Puritanism has returned.

Both that and online porn has ruined us. It is an major epidemic that is still under the radar for how massive it is, in my opinion.

And it's sad, because sex is very fun and porn is a very poor approximation of the real thing.

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