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Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by andrewclunn »

Obesity epidemic. I mean, when so many people are that unattractive, it's not exactly rocket science why we're having less sex.

EDIT -

The number of replies by people in denial that being horribly out of shape and having excessive body fat isn't related to attractiveness and sexual enjoyment is... well not surprising. Though it is indicative of how in denial our infantilizing culture is and how effectively it enables people to live out slothful, narcissistic, and self-destructive lifestyles, while blaming others for not accepting them.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by pknopf »

jbrun wrote: post #21

Population implosion is going to be the biggest problem of our lives. It is one of those issues that creeps up progressively (like Global Warming), but will have cataclysmic impacts. Sex is a precursor to relationships and kids, if people don't have sex... Imagine 80% of the population is elderly and retired (or want to be retired) - that is where the world is heading by the end of the century. From 2018: https://www…

7% of all humans that ever existed, are alive today.

We can afford a contraction.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by justinpowers »

bko wrote: post #25
ChuckNorris89 wrote: post #3

I don't think tech or porn is the main culprit. It's that people now have way more entertainment options other than sex. Of course, a lot for those entertainment options are being driven by tech. Back in my dad's days, they were poor so the only entertainment options in their free time was drinking cheap home made alcohol, dancing and sex, while now we have gaming, Netflix, tic-tok, porn, traveling to the infinite In…

Entertainment has entered a tyranny of choice. I see it personally. I can watch nearly every show and movie that was ever created but I still flip through Netflix and RT endlessly, often times choosing not to watch anything. When I was younger I would just watch Seinfeld re-runs, with commercials and all. Am I more "entertained" today than I was when I was growing up? I'm not convinced. The weirdest thing is I don't…

If you became that fly, you’d soon wish to be squashed rather than listen to adolescent chitchat.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by yobbo »

mercy_dude wrote: post #7

The real culprit isn’t porn, it is mainly the change in societal expectations and the ease of changing your baseline expectations. Our relationships have become extremely disposable. You are one Instagram DM away from moving onto the next one. Dating websites and apps largely have the same problems.

> You are one Instagram DM away from moving onto the next one.

Is this reality for the HN audience?

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by ianai »

jbrun wrote: post #21

Population implosion is going to be the biggest problem of our lives. It is one of those issues that creeps up progressively (like Global Warming), but will have cataclysmic impacts. Sex is a precursor to relationships and kids, if people don't have sex... Imagine 80% of the population is elderly and retired (or want to be retired) - that is where the world is heading by the end of the century. From 2018: https://www…

Isn’t this a large portion of what happened to Japan? They’ve been facing declining gdp for something like 4 decades, too.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by vidanay »

usrn wrote: post #5
ChuckNorris89 wrote: post #3

I don't think tech or porn is the main culprit. It's that people now have way more entertainment options other than sex. Of course, a lot for those entertainment options are being driven by tech. Back in my dad's days, they were poor so the only entertainment options in their free time was drinking cheap home made alcohol, dancing and sex, while now we have gaming, Netflix, tic-tok, porn, traveling to the infinite In…

It's because people in their 20s are living with their parents and don't want to have sex in the park. When I was younger I wanted it badly enough that I did stupid things like that but I can understand why people like me are in a tiny minority.

Because now you get a lifetime label as a registered sex offender if you get caught.

Additionally, those of us who grew up in the 80's had the absolute fear of AIDS drilled into us. IMO, the AIDS epidemic blunted the libido of at least one generation.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by usrn »

BlargMcLarg wrote: post #30
usrn wrote: post #18

Earlier quoted context omitted.

"People" meaning banks really. The games with credit are effectively driving the housing shortage by making buying the small number of already built homes effectively more affordable than building new ones in the massive amount of permissibly zoned empty space we have. We're only exacerbating it by bringing in tons of legal and illegal immigrants and having the government pay for their housing. It's not surprising th…

I actually meant the people, not banks. Banks exacerbate the problem, but you don't need to hold everyone to the same standards as 30 years ago. People in family homes in Southern Europe date, too. Many Japanese people get married before they leave the parental home. This was pretty standard in most of Europe and America a little less than a century ago. >The awful part of all this is that young people blame women. I…

The Japanese buy and large aren't having sex, so I'd disagree with you that they're a good example of women having lower standards. Their desire for men to have things and a stable life is probably biological and immutable.

You can see their role as messengers of the truth pretty often. I saw this one video that I thought was pretty great where a group of three women were out. The videographer/interviewer had the two friends call up the first's boyfriend and ask to "hang out" behind her back as a sort of joke. The first woman then freaked out, not at her boyfriend for wanting to cheat but at her friends for showing it. If you watch carefully this sort of thing happens pretty often.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by ptero »

BlargMcLarg wrote: post #13
usrn wrote: post #5

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It's because people in their 20s are living with their parents and don't want to have sex in the park. When I was younger I wanted it badly enough that I did stupid things like that but I can understand why people like me are in a tiny minority.

That, and most are still holding people in their 20s to the same standards as generations able to start a family with the credentials of Homer Simpson.

People in their 20s having their own digs is, I think, a decidedly American phenomenon. In most of the poorer parts of the world (including, for example, Central and Eastern Europe), 30+ years ago younger crowd managed to have sex just fine, using dorm rooms, snatching time while parents were away, etc. My 2c.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by pirate787 »

andrewclunn wrote: post #31

Obesity epidemic. I mean, when so many people are that unattractive, it's not exactly rocket science why we're having less sex. EDIT - The number of replies by people in denial that being horribly out of shape and having excessive body fat isn't related to attractiveness and sexual enjoyment is... well not surprising. Though it is indicative of how in denial our infantilizing culture is and how effectively it enables…

Not unattractive, per se, just fat and out of shape leading to anxiety and low energy and little sex drive.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by pknopf »

yobbo wrote: post #34
mercy_dude wrote: post #7

The real culprit isn’t porn, it is mainly the change in societal expectations and the ease of changing your baseline expectations. Our relationships have become extremely disposable. You are one Instagram DM away from moving onto the next one. Dating websites and apps largely have the same problems.

> You are one Instagram DM away from moving onto the next one. Is this reality for the HN audience?

Hyperbolic, but yeah.
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