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Many of us share your distaste for the issues your mentioned. The challenge is finding better alternatives. Do you have any recommendations?
I suggest Bosch. Especially for dishwashers. My old apartment had one: 7 years with zero issues. My new house has one: zero issues, the design is a real pleasure to use, and it also happens to be the quietest dishwasher sold in the US, at least according to the Googling I did when I first ran it and could barely even tell it was on.
But dishwashers it was almost unanimous, Bosch is best.
I couldn't afford new ones, so I found good deals on second hand 500 series ones and they're both still going fine for myself and my rental suite (only a year and a half so far though).
Crazy quiet too, I suggest people opt for the one that shines a light on the floor cause otherwise you can't hear it running (or finish).
There's also a fancier model that projects a timer.