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Forces that fuel friendship

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Re: Forces that fuel friendship

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Post by arolihas »

mapcars wrote: post #16
cies wrote: post #13

I learned there are only 2 pillars under friendship: shared interests and trust.

One person whom I consider wise said "Friends are people who support your limitations" if that helps

That's a very cynical perspective that seems to encourage self isolation and an emotionally barren life. Not sure if that's wise.

Re: Forces that fuel friendship

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Post by telesilla »

isaacfrond wrote: post #11

The friend app from the article: https://bumble.com/bff

I understand this is for self-identifying women. I've several friends who have had success. I wonder what the conditions might need to be for platonic male friendships to form, it seems to be harder. Judging from my position as a woman who easily makes acquaintances that occasionally become friendships, and my partner who is very amicable to strangers but doesn't care to make new friends.

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Post by emsy »

MarcelOlsz wrote: post #10
johnchristopher wrote: post #6

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Or "normies" while we are at it. A recent trend I am noticing more often on HN.

Hilarious considering hackernewsians are the normies of the online world.

That’s Reddit. On HN I sometimes find people with niche interests and expertise in all kinds of fields, which I like. It’s also relatively civilized. You don’t need to be a 4-chan edgelord to be not-normie.

Re: Forces that fuel friendship

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Post by 1123581321 »

MarcelOlsz wrote: post #10
johnchristopher wrote: post #6

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Or "normies" while we are at it. A recent trend I am noticing more often on HN.

Hilarious considering hackernewsians are the normies of the online world.

Most people here also belong to other communities and code switch how they write.

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Post by pure_simplicity »

arolihas wrote: post #21
mapcars wrote: post #16

Earlier quoted context omitted.

One person whom I consider wise said "Friends are people who support your limitations" if that helps

That's a very cynical perspective that seems to encourage self isolation and an emotionally barren life. Not sure if that's wise.

I think the OP meant that friend support you in overcoming your limitations. They support you where you are weak, not they perpetuate and grow your weaknesses.

Re: Forces that fuel friendship

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Post by hoseja »

MarcelOlsz wrote: post #10
johnchristopher wrote: post #6

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Or "normies" while we are at it. A recent trend I am noticing more often on HN.

Hilarious considering hackernewsians are the normies of the online world.

What sort of online world are you considering here? Does it include facebook, twitter and reddit? Or do you mean the deep, niche autism-adjacent online world?

Re: Forces that fuel friendship

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Post by em-bee »

pure_simplicity wrote: post #26
arolihas wrote: post #21

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That's a very cynical perspective that seems to encourage self isolation and an emotionally barren life. Not sure if that's wise.

I think the OP meant that friend support you in overcoming your limitations. They support you where you are weak, not they perpetuate and grow your weaknesses.

or they accept your weaknesses and support you despite them.

Re: Forces that fuel friendship

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Post by notacoward »

perlgeek wrote: post #23

yay for listicils! Didn't Hackernews require you to remove that from the title?

I think you're overusing "listicle" here. Yes, the article is structured around six discrete ideas, but it has the general structure of a traditional essay and all fits on one page. That's a far cry from a true listicle which requires you to keep clicking to see single paragraphs interspersed with ads. Just having a number in the title doesn't make it a listicle. Also, read the guideline about shallow dismissals.

Re: Forces that fuel friendship

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Post by swayvil »

johnchristopher wrote: post #6
everdrive wrote: post #4

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Not calling them "NPCs" is probably useful as well.

Or "normies" while we are at it. A recent trend I am noticing more often on HN.

Which is ironic, because hackernewsians are the most conventional people this side of the Pentecostals.
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