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Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

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I strongly disagree with "I remained flat" statement. I mean, you were taking care of your children, weren't you? If you do it right (imho, if you even just try to do it right), it's the biggest accomplishment one can do. I understand how frustrating it must be to stay professionally flat compared to your peers. We absolutely should celebrate people taking their time off to literally raise the next humans, instead we…

Parenthood is by far the most subsidized personal choice in the universe. Let's not pretend it's not. Some countries give more than a year paid parental leave, in what can only be described as vote purchasing. Parenthood is compensated.

Parenthood is vital to society and it's very much in the interest of countries with declining birthrates to promote it. It is currently subsidized but not nearly enough to make it a rational choice for individuals from a purely economic perspective. If we want to stabilize declining birthrates, we will need to increase subsidies by a lot.

Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

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post #14

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Parenthood is by far the most subsidized personal choice in the universe. Let's not pretend it's not. Some countries give more than a year paid parental leave, in what can only be described as vote purchasing. Parenthood is compensated.

Not in the US

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Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

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post #20
post #14

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Parenthood is by far the most subsidized personal choice in the universe. Let's not pretend it's not. Some countries give more than a year paid parental leave, in what can only be described as vote purchasing. Parenthood is compensated.

It's hardly personal, society kinda collapse if people stop having kids. And it's also not personal in the sense that the government often takes an active role in raising and educating kids (wether you like it or not).

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Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

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Mothers returning to work should get the same ‘service’ considerations that military veterans get

What kind of things do military veterans get? I'm dimly aware something exists in the US, but I'm not from the US so not sure what that is exactly.

Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

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I strongly disagree with "I remained flat" statement. I mean, you were taking care of your children, weren't you? If you do it right (imho, if you even just try to do it right), it's the biggest accomplishment one can do. I understand how frustrating it must be to stay professionally flat compared to your peers. We absolutely should celebrate people taking their time off to literally raise the next humans, instead we…

One of capitalism’s exploited externalities (no economic value placed on the labor of raising children)

Yet society pours HUGE amounts of money on it, because obviously it has huge value and the government pays boatloads for it.

Do you really mean "no value"?

Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

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I strongly disagree with "I remained flat" statement. I mean, you were taking care of your children, weren't you? If you do it right (imho, if you even just try to do it right), it's the biggest accomplishment one can do. I understand how frustrating it must be to stay professionally flat compared to your peers. We absolutely should celebrate people taking their time off to literally raise the next humans, instead we…

One of capitalism’s exploited externalities (no economic value placed on the labor of raising children)

I know. Why should anyone have kids!

The ROI of children is vastly lower than most other endeavors in life. Start a company, not a family.

Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

#28
Getting rejections is not a slap to the face. In many areas it's a normal expectation to be rejected a lot.

If you are only getting rejections, you may try either lowering your expectations or getting some relevant skills to beef up your offering on the market.

Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

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post #14

I strongly disagree with "I remained flat" statement. I mean, you were taking care of your children, weren't you? If you do it right (imho, if you even just try to do it right), it's the biggest accomplishment one can do. I understand how frustrating it must be to stay professionally flat compared to your peers. We absolutely should celebrate people taking their time off to literally raise the next humans, instead we…

Parenthood is by far the most subsidized personal choice in the universe. Let's not pretend it's not. Some countries give more than a year paid parental leave, in what can only be described as vote purchasing. Parenthood is compensated.

That's 1 year of compensation for 18+ years of part-time labor, in countries with the most parental leave
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