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Restarting my career after motherhood

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Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

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My friend just made this same journey, returning to the workforce after being a SAHM for a bunch of years.

One thing she did which probably helped was publish YouTube videos about tech topics. She'd just pick a topic, research it, and make a training video on it. She also started using twitter a lot and having conversations with prolific tweeters in her area of expertise.

Basically she upped her public profile and got noticed.

Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

#12
> However, being a stay-at-home mum came at the cost of my career

I wish anyone in this position nothing but the best, but this should come as no surprise.

It reminds me of a comedy bit where a guy asks "so when you were in school, you studied, hung out with friends, got a girlfriend, and so on -- yeah? -- if you'd been on the computer every waking hour like i was then you wouldn't be standing here today like an idiot".

It's a joke, but the truth is that there are only 24h in the day, and nobody can "have it all". There's always a road less traveled, even if you traveled the best road for you.

Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

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I strongly disagree with "I remained flat" statement. I mean, you were taking care of your children, weren't you? If you do it right (imho, if you even just try to do it right), it's the biggest accomplishment one can do. I understand how frustrating it must be to stay professionally flat compared to your peers. We absolutely should celebrate people taking their time off to literally raise the next humans, instead we…

Parenthood is by far the most subsidized personal choice in the universe.

Let's not pretend it's not.

Some countries give more than a year paid parental leave, in what can only be described as vote purchasing.

Parenthood is compensated.

Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

#15

I strongly disagree with "I remained flat" statement. I mean, you were taking care of your children, weren't you? If you do it right (imho, if you even just try to do it right), it's the biggest accomplishment one can do. I understand how frustrating it must be to stay professionally flat compared to your peers. We absolutely should celebrate people taking their time off to literally raise the next humans, instead we…

One of capitalism’s exploited externalities (no economic value placed on the labor of raising children)

Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

#16
post #14

I strongly disagree with "I remained flat" statement. I mean, you were taking care of your children, weren't you? If you do it right (imho, if you even just try to do it right), it's the biggest accomplishment one can do. I understand how frustrating it must be to stay professionally flat compared to your peers. We absolutely should celebrate people taking their time off to literally raise the next humans, instead we…

Parenthood is by far the most subsidized personal choice in the universe. Let's not pretend it's not. Some countries give more than a year paid parental leave, in what can only be described as vote purchasing. Parenthood is compensated.

Not in the US

Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

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post #14

I strongly disagree with "I remained flat" statement. I mean, you were taking care of your children, weren't you? If you do it right (imho, if you even just try to do it right), it's the biggest accomplishment one can do. I understand how frustrating it must be to stay professionally flat compared to your peers. We absolutely should celebrate people taking their time off to literally raise the next humans, instead we…

Parenthood is by far the most subsidized personal choice in the universe. Let's not pretend it's not. Some countries give more than a year paid parental leave, in what can only be described as vote purchasing. Parenthood is compensated.

It is really not compensated if you look at the financial side. The cost of raising a child plus the lost income because of parenting plus the fact that 'you remain flat' is way higher than months or even a year extra pay.

It is worth it though for most people (because of the extra happiness) so I'm not saying that we should necessarily compensate it further, just that financially it's not compensated for.

Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

#19
One thing to remember is that while you might not feel as qualified for as many positions as you wish, in the end you only need one. And since you have a demonstrated willingness and ability to forgo maximum income in pursuit of higher ideals, I suspect many mission oriented organizations would be thrilled to have you for roles they might not even have bothered to post on the assumption they couldn’t compete for talent given their budget

Re: Restarting my career after motherhood

#20
post #14

I strongly disagree with "I remained flat" statement. I mean, you were taking care of your children, weren't you? If you do it right (imho, if you even just try to do it right), it's the biggest accomplishment one can do. I understand how frustrating it must be to stay professionally flat compared to your peers. We absolutely should celebrate people taking their time off to literally raise the next humans, instead we…

Parenthood is by far the most subsidized personal choice in the universe. Let's not pretend it's not. Some countries give more than a year paid parental leave, in what can only be described as vote purchasing. Parenthood is compensated.

It's hardly personal, society kinda collapse if people stop having kids.

And it's also not personal in the sense that the government often takes an active role in raising and educating kids (wether you like it or not).

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