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> It gives me quite a lot of catharsis to call an idiot, an idiot. I don't think Hacker News is meant to be a place where people find catharsis by calling other people idiots. Then again it's not my site; perhaps dang will indeed allow it.
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Conservative women are more likely to value traditional family structures and gender roles, and thus place a higher priority on getting married and having kids. Even controlling for age, etc., conservatives are 25% more likely to be married than liberals.
Yeah but then you have to live with a conservative.
[1] Of course the opposite is true--but liberally minded people who can't wait to leave Iowa is a well-known trope. We don't talk so much about the folks who went to the big city for education or career opportunities, but would actually be happier in Iowa.
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How do you feel about a white guy who doesn't feel attracted to black women? Is he part of the marginalization of black women by choosing not to date them?
Yeah it think it has it's roots in prejudice. I don't think society is at the point where i can say otherwise. Black women constantly get the short end of the stick on all dating apps across racial groups. On top of that because a large percentage of black mothers end up single mothers. There is also the part of how the black males behave towards them. But that is a different story all together. I am not getting into…
It's crazy to me to see 5'7" being listed as basically undateable. I'm 5'7" and I'd say a quarter of my male coworkers are shorter than me. Some of them are hispanic or asian, most of them aren't. They don't seem to have any more trouble with relationships than the coworkers that are taller than me. Then again, the happily married man under 35 is not strongly represented in any height range here.
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> I wondered how someone so hostile could survive moderation here Not related to GP, but check out any front page political thread to see how hostility and toxicity evade moderation. There are tricks you can use to effectively ad-hominem someone without making it explicit and instantly flagged to the ground. This for example, was a pretty popular method on some of the recent Elon Musk threads: https://www.ultius.com/…
I mean... in my case, there wasn't really much of an argument. I guess it was "rich people are better than poor people," which, I do want to discredit, but also don't want to legitimize.
*You [do/don’t] like Elon Musk. Perhaps that is because [you’re as bad as him/you are jealous of him]
Obviously use your vocabulary and sentence structure to fluff it up and make it a little less blunt.
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> It gives me quite a lot of catharsis to call an idiot, an idiot. I don't think Hacker News is meant to be a place where people find catharsis by calling other people idiots. Then again it's not my site; perhaps dang will indeed allow it.
To be sure, I don't go looking for it. But I don't feel bad in making a bigot feel unwelcome.
This is a bad case of body dysmorphia. The amount of variance in mating success attributed to a 3 inch difference in height is far less than improvements in personality/fitness/success can account for. Not condoning by any means women crapping on short guys, but empirically women readily change their stated height preferences in the face of other outlying factors. In contrast, it's much harder for women to change the…
You are saying it's easier for short men to grow several inches than for a woman to change her desirability?
Lookism is much worse than racism or sexism but nobody ever wants to talk about it.
it depends on what you mean by 'worse' though. People choose mates based on perceived genetic fitness using proxy metrics, such as symmetry, height, skin color and other traits (which may or may not be genetic, but is assumed to be, like intelligence). the fact that today, women have become more selective of these traits than the past, due to their new found economic opportunities and freedoms, means that some subset…
I’m not here to deny that short men face challenges, the same way that anyone with any characteristic deemed negative by the prevailing dating culture faces challenges (plenty of examples to choose from - age, weight, ethnicity, wealth, disability, education, class, caste, language). I am here, though, to throw cold water on the ridiculous borderline-incel hot takes from men here who have drawn a blank on dating site…
Sounds not very politically correct? It’s just how it is and this is how most people see these things and desire. Yes, most. And it goes both ways.
So, it’s really ingenuous to label all those comments with that incel-something buzzword. Something of a “not all women” comment?
This is real. How it ought to be or not is an entirely different story.
I’m not here to deny that short men face challenges, the same way that anyone with any characteristic deemed negative by the prevailing dating culture faces challenges (plenty of examples to choose from - age, weight, ethnicity, wealth, disability, education, class, caste, language). I am here, though, to throw cold water on the ridiculous borderline-incel hot takes from men here who have drawn a blank on dating site…
> As if women are a monolithic bloc conspiring against your genes. As if women are spherical horses acting out the simple laws of your evolutionary psychology This is a borderline strawman. Such conclusions are based on population level trends. And yes, just like any other sexually dimorphic species, there quite literally is a "conspiracy" against undesirable genes, though it isn't necessarily conscious or absolute.…
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A lot of men who say they don't like makeup actually do like it without knowing. They just know so little about the makeup world that they don't recognize the "natural" look (while still preferring it). So I would take statements like "I don't like makeup" with a grain of salt, and parse them as "I like the natural look but don't like strong makeup" (what you said basically). Which isn't an uncommon preference at all…
It's pretty sly when you think about it, because these men are being lied to about what "no makeup" looks like. Who could tell what the real preferences are for someone lied to in such a way? The social experiments we are running on each other are utterly corrupted.
Similarly, I think women don't do it in order to mislead men but because men just prefer it that way.
I wouldn't call it a lie if it's clearly visible to other people who invested the time to figure it out, like most women and some men.