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Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by tptacek »

rayiner wrote: post #372
withinboredom wrote: post #309

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Confidence gets you past any initial filter (not to be confused with arrogance or assertiveness — be respectful). Once you get serious, it’s the bigger filters you need to worry about IME. My then new girlfriend’s friend asked me out of nowhere: “what’s a derivative?” And my answer was “investing or calculus?” Apparently that was a filter for my wife when she dated. She wanted smart men who weren’t just faking it, wo…

> Apparently that was a filter for my wife when she dated. What a keeper! My wife randomly invoked Coase theorem the other day while we were chatting on our commute home. Coming up on ten years now. :)

Congrats!

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Post by Gatsky »

throwaway7266 wrote: post #338

I'm a guy of median height and great fitness, and I had a partner recommend limb lengthening in passing to me once. At the time, I had no idea what it even was but became disgusted as I learned the details. When I asked her why she would ever recommend such a thing, she said it was a joke. However, she had also purchased some pairs of 3 inch elevator shoes for me (also had no idea these were a thing) and insisted I w…

A breakup is always tough but consider yourself lucky it became obvious she was the wrong person before the sunk costs got too high. Often this is not the case.

Speaking from personal experience relationships cause a kind of brain damage where it is hard to notice both the stop signs and the green lights.

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Post by chrisseaton »

stickfigure wrote: post #406
chrisseaton wrote: post #377

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That's just referring to another physical property that people can't control and may be sensitive about. How about just don't comment on anyone's physical appearance, and stick to their actions and personality?

To be honest... no, we can't. You're asking too much. I mean if we're going to take this to its logical extreme, why should personality be fair judgement? Some people have grating personalities and are annoying to be around, maybe they were born that way. Actions? Maybe Putin genuinely believes that Nazis are oppressing Russians in Ukraine. If he did, would that make it excusable? How about we just be nice to each ot…

> To be honest... no, we can't. You're asking too much.

I don't think so. Just don't mock someone's height, sexual-orientation, size-of-hands, etc. That's completely achievable.

> I mean if we're going to take this to its logical extreme

Well then don't take it to an extreme - do the easy bit and just stop yourself each time you're criticising someone for something that they very clearly can't control at all without resorting to surgery.

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Post by l33t2328 »

aortega wrote: post #126
chrischen wrote: post #116

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Lucky for short people, height is a lot less of a factor in modern society. Wealth is a much bigger factor. And what's the best path to wealth? Software . Even more lucky for them, software and internet doesn't care about height.

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You’re implying chronic cheating is biologically ingrained in women?

Jesus christ this place gets weird sometimes...

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Post by chroma »

chrischen wrote: post #116
aortega wrote: post #99

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>there aren't really downsides to short stature in modern life It even have several health benefits. Except that in dating, women overwhelmingly prefer men over 6', and very small differences like 5'7 vs 5'9 double or triple the matches in online dating sites. If we are talking about 5'6 vs 6'0 the difference is ridiculous, like over 200X more matches. Women even divorce short men at double the rate of tall men. Thos…

Lucky for short people, height is a lot less of a factor in modern society. Wealth is a much bigger factor. And what's the best path to wealth? Software . Even more lucky for them, software and internet doesn't care about height.

I'm a multimillionaire and every single woman I've dated has said, "I'm glad I took a chance on you even though you're so short." I'm 5'6".

Women filter on height the same way that men filter on weight & age. If you don't pass that first filter, it doesn't matter what your advantages are.

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Post by bryanrasmussen »

skeptikal wrote: post #393
darkmarmot wrote: post #355

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So awkward. I'm just over 6'2" -- and at a recent family reunion had to deal with everyone saying I must be at _least_ 6'4". Because I was much taller than the other 6' guys there... and if I dispute it too vociferously, it's almost an attack on all the guys around me who are lying about their height. It seems there's a 2 or 3 inch bump across the board.

Ya, that happened to me once (Im almost 6’2’’). A guy who couldn't have been 5 10 was insisting he was 6 and that I was taller than stated. What was weird was that we were alone. He was only lying to himself. And you know what, he was a bit weird looking. He had bad posture. But he was a good guy. A smart, hard working guy with a big heart. This height thing is annoying. Id gladly trade inches of height in exchange f…

one thing that people don't realize is that they shrink as they age past a certain point (common to lose an inch), and I believe that bad posture can increase this. When I was 18 I was 6'4 but I'm pretty sure I must be around 6'2 - 6'3 by now. So maybe he got measured one time, without taking shoes off, and stood up really straight and he got told 6 when he was 5'11.6, and it's been like that in his head ever since.

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Post by rectang »

daenz wrote: post #399
rectang wrote: post #390

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We'd be in a better place if we started from the assumption that everybody is prejudiced, it takes work for any of us to overcome it, and the work is never complete. I've seen hypocrisy and cruelty from people of all backgrounds. But anecdotally, among the "socially conscious women" I've spent time around, this, which is one of three top comments on the article, is a common sentiment: > This is a reminder that the pa…

Why is women demeaning men for being short a symptom of the patriarchy?

It's an example of the harms that emerge from hidebound gender roles, preconceptions about the desirability of male dominance and female submission, and stultified ideals of attractiveness.

Just as women benefit when society learns to accept and appreciate a wider variety of body types, so do men.

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Post by johnny22 »

aortega wrote: post #402
Darmody wrote: post #341

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The average here is 1,75 so my friend is shorter. My point is, it doesn't matter that much. It matters, sadly, but not to the point where you can't find women that are attracted to you.

Women don't go for average, they go for 20% top percentile or higher. That's the Pareto principle and most mammals follow the same rule.

so you're saying you've never had a date. I'm like 5'8 maybe 5'9 depending on when you measure me. it's not that hard to get a date. I even have computer nerd chub.

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Post by johnny22 »

rayiner wrote: post #367
handmodel wrote: post #199

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I am a 5'6 man. I still think a city is much better as I assume the 5'6 man has standards, too. It's not like finding a partner who is willing to settle with you is difficult at all - it is finding one that you feel meets your level of fitness, intelligence, and social status which is considered high (other than your height). In a rural setting you are going to be very limited but a city definitely has options. I wou…

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you wouldn't believe how hard they have it when trying to find men who know things about things. It's not very difficult if you actually treat folks with respect except in perhaps the most conservative of places.

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Post by gregsher88 »

I’m 5’7” and have had no problems meeting women. There is a lot that goes into this, but I found that the single biggest factor in attracting the opposite sex was appropriating a violent, devil-may-care attitude. When it comes to the primal question of “Will this guy be capable of defending me / my offspring” taller guys are given the benefit of the doubt whereas I literally have something to prove.
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