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Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by stickfigure »

meowface wrote: post #201
pram wrote: post #76

Earlier quoted context omitted.

They’re burying the lede on this story. This guy runs an OnlyFans where he gets paid to dominate other men. He psychologically wants to be taller because he doesn’t feel like his (completely unremarkable) height is appropriately dominating.

You're reversing cause and effect: >Scott first heard about the procedure when he was in high school. He watched a few YouTube clips about it but dismissed it at the time. “I was like, ‘That’s sick, I would never do that.” But he kept researching, and about three years ago, he became convinced it was the solution he was looking for. “I felt miserable,” he said. “There were things throughout my day, every day, that wo…

I don't think we can fully trust the narrative. It seems unlikely that his niche is a coincidence, and it's fair to read personality characteristics into it.

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Post by rayiner »

withinboredom wrote: post #309
FooBarWidget wrote: post #173

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Well ok but all the relationship skills in the world can't help you if you can't get past that initial filter.

Confidence gets you past any initial filter (not to be confused with arrogance or assertiveness — be respectful). Once you get serious, it’s the bigger filters you need to worry about IME. My then new girlfriend’s friend asked me out of nowhere: “what’s a derivative?” And my answer was “investing or calculus?” Apparently that was a filter for my wife when she dated. She wanted smart men who weren’t just faking it, wo…

> Apparently that was a filter for my wife when she dated.

What a keeper! My wife randomly invoked Coase theorem the other day while we were chatting on our commute home. Coming up on ten years now. :)

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Post by sgtnoodle »

rootusrootus wrote: post #56

This is the kind of surgery I might expect someone who is closer to 5 feet might use to get nearer to normal range. I'm pretty much average myself (71 inches) and I wouldn't look at a 67 inch tall guy and think "wow he's short." He's still taller than the vast majority of women. I think the money would be better spent on therapy if it really is that depressing to be 5'7". Also, anybody making short jokes is a jerk an…

I'm 5'7" and don't recall ever being teased about my height specifically. Some of the bullies I grew up with were shorter than me. I certainly had a miserable time with online dating, and assumed height was a big factor, but it didn't make me feel short. My wife used to complain that she couldn't wear high heels while we were dating. We met on Tinder.

I was insecure about balding in my 20's, but buzz cutting my hair solved that. I got teased about the buzz cut at work for a few days, but it was simply well intended humor due to folk noticing the change.

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Post by nosianu »

reverend_gonzo wrote: post #327
aortega wrote: post #159

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>Sounds like a forever aloner. This social disqualification is the reason the truth remains hidden. I'm only 5'9 and have a family, but this was way before social networks and online dating. The world is different now. >I know Yes I know many data points that fall outside the curve too. But I'm talking about the curve.

I’m 5’8”, Asian, married to an American, and have a family, and I got all this after social networks and tinder, et al came along.

Funny. After the parent commenter says

> Yes I know many data points that fall outside the curve too. But I'm talking about the curve.

you respond with a data sample of 1.

I have no idea who is right - assuming country=US in any case, since most of the data and experiences are from there - but come on.

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Post by stickfigure »

chrisseaton wrote: post #323
stickfigure wrote: post #305

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Courage makes you taller.

But that's still a fucked-up thing to say - as if being taller is some kind of better thing and his courage makes him taller?

Would it be better if I said: Courage makes you bigger

(admittedly it's phrased better that way because it's more indirect, but now we're analyzing glib four-word jokes)

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Post by Xeronate »

LAC-Tech wrote: post #210

Was the stigma against short men a thing before online dating where everyone had to post their heights publicly? I remember in my teens/early 20s - before dating apps were a thing - having several much shorter friends than me that were much more popular with the ladies.

There are still plenty of short men doing perfectly fine and plenty of tall guys doing terribly. I think many men have a very poor understanding of what the women they want want out of their relationships.

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Post by chrisseaton »

stickfigure wrote: post #375
chrisseaton wrote: post #323

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But that's still a fucked-up thing to say - as if being taller is some kind of better thing and his courage makes him taller?

Would it be better if I said: Courage makes you bigger (admittedly it's phrased better that way because it's more indirect, but now we're analyzing glib four-word jokes)

That's just referring to another physical property that people can't control and may be sensitive about. How about just don't comment on anyone's physical appearance, and stick to their actions and personality?

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Post by to1y »

lupire wrote: post #225
aortega wrote: post #156

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>Pretty sure the woman usually doesn't have the pool boy's children You'd be surprised.

Pool boys barely even exist in real life.

In this context it's: Any attractive available man she spends enough time alone with.

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Post by Crabber »

astrange wrote: post #297
Crabber wrote: post #117

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>We've beaten evolution No we haven't, and that's a good thing because a society made up of completely dysgenic people who need countless supplements and medical products just to stay alive would not be the utopia you're trying to paint it as.

That’s not dysgenic. If you’re in an environment and supplements are available and you function best with them, that’s just a food source you’re adapted to. I don’t go around calling people poorly adapted for needing oxygen and vitamin C.

Becoming reliant on additional external resources to survive is objectively backwards evolution.

You brought up oxygen reliance as a silly point but you're actually right. Humans relying on oxygen actually isn't that great, we can't go into space or underwater (without external support) and we get out of breath when exercising. A group of humans that evolved to not need oxygen at all would be a great genetic improvement.

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Post by eightails »

xvector wrote: post #221
omginternets wrote: post #191

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I believe I am being civil. I also think bad faith can be demonstrated, and that it has been. >As such, treating Black individuals differently is not more or less wrong than treating short individuals differently. Again, as I have mentioned repeatedly, we agree on this point. Where we disagree is in the assertion that there is "no difference" in effect, precisely because of the historical context.

Historical context does not influence whether an action is right or wrong in itself. You should not need atrocities to be recorded in history to tell you if you are doing the right thing.

Deja vu, I have been in this place before.

It's amazing how circular the responses in this comment thread are getting. There appears to be disagreement on the surface, but in reality almost everyone is presenting a view which is at least compatible with each other's -- if not in direct agreement.

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