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No one expects young men to do anything and they are responding by doing nothing

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Re: No one expects young men to do anything and they are responding by doing nothing

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What are you talking about? Just try and find a plumber, carpenter or contractor that isn’t backlogged for months. There’s a ton of really good blue collar jobs, often where you are your own boss. Unfortunately, society is pushing everyone to college.

It's possible that most people just dont want to be plumbers, right? Maybe they would like a chance to do something they think is more interesting. To suggest people just do the thing that makes them money highlights another problem if you ask me.

The fact that people long for fun and interesting jobs that don't exist, is indeed a sperate problem.

It does not negate the fact that there are high paying jobs available without college degrees.

Re: No one expects young men to do anything and they are responding by doing nothing

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post #189

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Is this a bad thing? The US was founded by immigrants. Immigration, diversity, and the US’ history with these topics (good and bad) is huge part of the national cultural identity. As a US citizen, I think as long as we can maintain the cornerstones of our national heritage (democratic traditions, constitutional freedoms, etc) it should be fine if things change to reflect the demographics of our population.

Immigration has a large history in the US, yes, but historically immigrants were encouraged (through social pressures) to assimilate part of their identity. Is that pressure for partial assimilation still there? Or do we encourage diversity so much now that anything goes?

It is in fashion among certain people to reject assimilation. But if you look around it is definitely not fashionable among recent immigrants.

They pretty much all want their kids to speak English and be American. They know it would be handicapping them if they didn't.

Re: No one expects young men to do anything and they are responding by doing nothing

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I can appreciate this perspective because I used to have it. I even wrote a similar blog post 10 years ago - it was on the top of HN and the comment section was a beautiful shitshow. For me, this perspective was a good story to tell myself - it justified why I was only investing my time in “work”, and validated me for having “come so far”. Over time, I have reflected and shifted this perspective. That reflection cent…

The expectations are coming from our exposure to apps, articles, videos, education and opinions. It's not all in the author's head.

I'm not at all sexually frustrated like most men and yet I still feel all of the same things.

Re: No one expects young men to do anything and they are responding by doing nothing

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The evidence is that married couples are more stable than unmarried couples.

Maybe you could share this evidence instead of sharing an anonymous assertion

i can certainly think of cases where the children and one parent are really much better off without the second

Re: No one expects young men to do anything and they are responding by doing nothing

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I think this is a reasonable course of action, of course, but also respect the DINKs who look at having kids and go “no thanks” and continue jetting off to the Alps, Turks and Caicos, or whatever. Having kids is an opportunity cost, and there’s a lot of life enjoyment to be had if you don’t have them. Kids were previously an asset a century ago, now they’re a luxury good.

Sure r/childfree has lots of this sort. They often seem a bit too into being childfree to me, I probably wouldn't like their shitty kids anyway. There's an opportunity cost for most life decisions. Sometimes they're obscured. It's often not presented this way but for a cohort of women university and work, displaces marriage and children.

College-educated women are more likely to marry. https://www.brookings.edu/blog/social-mobility-memos/2016/08...

Re: No one expects young men to do anything and they are responding by doing nothing

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I agree - and will take it one step further: he misses the root causes of "instability", and I bet it tracks directly with the gutting of the middle class starting in the 70's, and/or the same flat-lining of wages (not keeping up with inflation etc) despite huge increases in productivity in about the same time period. Money is a huge stressor in relationships. Misogyny is still a huge thing (to my utter surprise hone…

How does a “flat lining” of wages of cause family stability to go down ? And how do you explain high levels of family stability in countries that are much poorer?

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Re: No one expects young men to do anything and they are responding by doing nothing

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A counter is that other countries (Japan, Korea, Italy, ...) that enforce traditional values have had a collapse in the birth rate. Having children out of wedlock is a safety valve for broken institutions that keeps the birth rate higher in the US than comparable countries; that plus relatively open integration helps us maintain our economy, welfare state, pensions, etc. If we turned the screws on women and men to di…

> A counter is that other countries (Japan, Korea, Italy, ...) that enforce traditional values have had a collapse in the birth rate. Yes, but the value systems (at least in Asia) are quite different than even conservative ones in the US so I don't think that's a fair comparison. In Asia there is an expectation that relationships will lead to marriage, that you will marry well before thirty, that women will exit the…

> In Asia there is an expectation that relationships will lead to marriage, that you will marry well before thirty, that women will exit the workforce following marriage

I don't know about the rest of Asia, but the parts that were explicitly named (Japan, Korea) absolutely do not have this expectation.

Re: No one expects young men to do anything and they are responding by doing nothing

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A counter is that other countries (Japan, Korea, Italy, ...) that enforce traditional values have had a collapse in the birth rate. Having children out of wedlock is a safety valve for broken institutions that keeps the birth rate higher in the US than comparable countries; that plus relatively open integration helps us maintain our economy, welfare state, pensions, etc. If we turned the screws on women and men to di…

And? Isn't overpopulation a major concern? Why would you want higher birthrates? Already there exist more people than required for jobs in the economy.

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Re: No one expects young men to do anything and they are responding by doing nothing

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> Just look at the lack of non-college work in the US that pays a living wage. A problem that doesn't exist. Plenty of that work out there. Try to get a custom 3-phase power line run in the datacenter. Average age of electricians is about 55 around here. Nobody goes into the trades because the trades will "destroy your body before you're 35" yet all the thin healthy tradesmen around here are mid-50s boomers. Hmm. The…

Or maybe that the majority that possess those traits go into other higher paying jobs that also require those traits. Starting around here for electricians is closer to $25-35. If you are concentrating and studying the NEC, you could alternatively study to be a dev and make more.

Union elections in the bay area rake in about 140k/year after 5 years on the job. Highly competitive, but no college required.

Re: No one expects young men to do anything and they are responding by doing nothing

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post #699

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> The US is likely fine because our southern border is porous and anyone can walk right in Go ahead try it.

Um yes, you can walk in and get flown to a city in the US on the govt's credit card.

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