I need to stop being boring

Post by pm90 » Thu, Apr 07, 2022, 1:31 AM UTC

jcpst wrote: post #198

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Same struggle. Except my elder daughter isn't "screaming and raging about the tiniest things" (yet). She's just... a total mess at a few things (self-motivation, self-awareness, responsibility, tact), constantly getting chastized by my wife. I don't have fun with my kids. I have no more friend in real life (even before the pandemic). I can't even play computer games when I want to because my kids take too darn long t…

I’ll try not to do the quote/respond thing too much, but a few things about this post concern me. > I don't have fun with my kids. I think that’s a serious problem. Personally, I would prioritize that over all the studying and activities. They are kids. Fun is their job. > I can't even play computer games when I want to because my kids take too darn long to finish their homework Let them do their homework on their ow…

Post by pm90 » Thu, Apr 07, 2022, 1:52 AM UTC

long_time_gone wrote: post #216

verisimi wrote: post #147

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> But, it was also true that both parents had WFH jobs (this was over a decade ago), extremely flexible schedules, and were very well off Well, exactly. Its easier to be creative if you don't have financial or time constraints.

With all of the tools we've built to optimize our time, you'd think we would be more creative.

Post by notch656a » Thu, Apr 07, 2022, 3:22 AM UTC

m4x wrote: post #229

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Before I had kids I used to travel and voluntarily fight in foreign warzones, go into dangerous ghettos in countries like Paraguay, and go deep into forest for weeks in freezing weather that either a young child can't reliably survive or that the mother would never allow. Any of these things would most definitely get child services called were I to actually share I brought I child in that activity. Those are the thin…

I don't think volunteering to fight in warzones is compatible with being a parent, but it's also not something relevant to the experience of almost any person here :) The number of people who choose to do things like that is small. Most hobbies and goals are compatible with being a parent. Yours are not. If anybody else here reads this from a warzone they've entered voluntarily, don't take my comments above as releva…

Post by lloydatkinson » Thu, Apr 07, 2022, 6:10 AM UTC

65 wrote: post #105

lloydatkinson wrote: post #35

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2022 and developers still use Wordpress for what could be a static blog site

And pay for Wordpress sites too! I have a static Next.js site hosted on S3 and I don't pay anything to host it.

Post by gitrog » Thu, Apr 07, 2022, 3:43 PM UTC

verisimi wrote: post #147

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I think folks' mileage vary significantly on this, and partly due to a distinction I'd make between being bored and not having energy. I used to know a family that was as creative as folks would come (immediate family had renowned authors, world class academics, illustrator, etc.), and it was clear that the children played such a central role in continuing to foster a culture that was very creative and "alive." But,…

> But, it was also true that both parents had WFH jobs (this was over a decade ago), extremely flexible schedules, and were very well off Well, exactly. Its easier to be creative if you don't have financial or time constraints.