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How to work with me

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Re: How to work with me

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Post by kkjjkgjjgg »

spacemanmatt wrote: post #200
kkjjkgjjgg wrote: post #98

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You can ask and it is polite to adhere to the wish, but you can not demand it. Ultimately you have no right to intrude on my brain, sorry. "Would you be ‘abused’ if I mentioned my same-sex spouse and it violated your assumed reality?" Probably not because I could see that your spouse has the same sex as you, so it wouldn't violate my perception? I don't get the point of your example. The point of the "publicly state…

> it wouldn't violate my perceptions what right do you actually claim to protect your perceptions? lordy, what a mess.

Lol wtf - you don't think people have a right to their own thoughts and perceptions? I have no words. A mess indeed - but not on my side. Enjoy your next brainwashing session, as that seems to be your thing.

Re: How to work with me

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Post by kkjjkgjjgg »

spacemanmatt wrote: post #198
kkjjkgjjgg wrote: post #99

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I feel sorry for you, too. But have fun memorizing those hundreds of instruction manuals.

Have fun believing that knowing people individually as a burden akin to reading instruction manuals. Why would you choose that?

I choose to know some people better than others. Nobody has the right to demand my time and waste it with being forced to "know about" their fake persona they want to present.

You are also clearly imagining things, I never said I would be against getting to know people or colleagues. I am against enforced individual rulebooks.

Re: How to work with me

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Post by kkjjkgjjgg »

spacemanmatt wrote: post #199
kkjjkgjjgg wrote: post #28

Cool, and then let's make it harassment to ignore the instructions in somebodies user manual (not just ignoring their pronoun preference), so everybody has to learn the user manual of all their colleagues by heart.

you, sir, are a fire. in dumpster. omg.

You are just completely clueless, I don't think you even understand what I am talking about.

Re: How to work with me

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Post by gls2ro »

davidbauer wrote: post #31
andersco wrote: post #21

My boss at my previous company created one of these with the intention of being “helpful”. It basically stated you should address me in this manner, use this form of communication etc. I asked him if he would be ok with me also creating a similar user manual telling him how I should be communicated with. He said it would be ok, as long as it did not contradict his user manual. IMO, these seem to me to be a friendly w…

Tongue-in-cheek title aside, I really do believe that it's helpful if a lot of people do write down some sort of user manual for themselves. These can be a great starting point for having conversations on how to best work together and spot potential areas of conflict in advance. In no way should these be seen as dictating the rules.

Regarding this, here is another perspective:

If you would be my manager or a person highly skilled in one area, I will probably try to not talk with you at all as much as possible.

Just as an example:

> Ask for help: I love giving input, but only if I know it can still make a difference.

So let's say I have an idea and I need some help. Do you I know that if I ask for your help you will make a difference. Maybe you will agree with me so there is no difference there to be made. Also further down you want me to find the proper time to ask for feedback: not too early and too late. Suddenly I need to be aware of you and the time when I should talk or not with you.

What do you think about this?

Re: How to work with me

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Post by xtiansimon »

Wow. I’m in a new relationship and this felt like a contract for marriage. Haha! All kidding aside, I’ve heard business partnership described as marriage, and even read a book about it. This reads like the crib notes for such a book. I liked the bold typography—the explanations were useful, but not required.

After those initial ideas, I started to get bored. I wanted more humor or a story.

Re: How to work with me

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Post by telomero22 »

Why is HN interpreting all the worst possible character traits for someone who explains how they like to work?

Is it because of the word manual? It sounds like a very emotional interpretation of the piece without trying to understand its goal at all.

Re: How to work with me

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Post by dang »

kkjjkgjjgg wrote: post #28

Cool, and then let's make it harassment to ignore the instructions in somebodies user manual (not just ignoring their pronoun preference), so everybody has to learn the user manual of all their colleagues by heart.

Please don't take HN threads into flamewar hell. It's not what this site is for, and it destroys what it is for.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

Edit: since you have a long history of doing this and are continuing to break the site guidelines, I've banned the account.

Re: How to work with me

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Post by dang »

kkjjkgjjgg wrote: post #203
spacemanmatt wrote: post #199

Earlier quoted context omitted.

you, sir, are a fire. in dumpster. omg.

You are just completely clueless, I don't think you even understand what I am talking about.

We've banned this account for repeatedly breaking the site guidelines and ignoring our requests to stop. Please don't create accounts to do that with.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

Re: How to work with me

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Post by dang »

spacemanmatt wrote: post #199
kkjjkgjjgg wrote: post #28

Cool, and then let's make it harassment to ignore the instructions in somebodies user manual (not just ignoring their pronoun preference), so everybody has to learn the user manual of all their colleagues by heart.

you, sir, are a fire. in dumpster. omg.

We ban accounts that post like this, regardless of how bad another comment is or you feel it is, so please don't post like this.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

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