Although the intention is great, I wonder if the act of creating such a document ironically constructs a barrier of expectations on the 'right' way of interacting with the said individual
How to work with me
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#62Cool, and then let's make it harassment to ignore the instructions in somebodies user manual (not just ignoring their pronoun preference), so everybody has to learn the user manual of all their colleagues by heart.
Seems like you were trying to be sarcastic but you did just derive basic respect toward other people.
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#63It's missing the most important section: "Known Bugs". I don't think the average person knows themselves well enough to write a user manual, myself included. This is an idealized version of how he thinks about himself. Reality could be very different. I'd be much more interested in a guide written by his wife or parents.
Like the idea :-)
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#64Interaction is a two way activity. Different team members at my workplace interact differently with me than to other people, and I with them. That's just down to months of important, casual, subtle interaction and boundary setting.
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#65Interaction is a two way activity. Different team members at my workplace interact differently with me than to other people, and I with them. That's just down to months of important, casual, subtle interaction and boundary setting.
Although I can see this as a way for a remote manager to break the ice with a team
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#66I am often out of my depth so please be kind to me. I will try to be kind to you.
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#67I was thinking of doing something like that, but not in a professional context. Just a post somewhere, a way to talk about my personal quirks in a comedic self-deprecating manner. To be quite frank, the way you did it, and in the professioal context in which this is framed, no amount of revisions will make you not sound like a jerk. This might function in a non-work environment. I just don't think that's a very good…
Fair. Interesting that you think something like this could work in a non-work context, but not in a work-context. Curious: Do you have the same reaction to the one by Rands that inspired me to write mine? https://randsinrepose.com/archives/how-to-rands/
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#68Worth linking to Richard Stallman's rider: https://gizmodo.com/please-do-not-buy-richard-stallman-a-par...
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#69To me, it seems a little condescending to be told how to act toward someone. On some level it is helpful to know your teammates, but on the other hand it can come across as self centered, like you think you're special and require special instructions for interacting with. I'm sure you have good intentions in creating this, but if someone gave this to me I would instantly thing "oh man this person is going to be high…
Points taken. Will try to work on a second version that will keep in mind how this came across to you (and others in this thread).
I've skimmed your post, and I honestly feel like the content is not the main issue here, but the fact that it was written and published. You could share how you prefer to interact with people if the need arises, preferably by addressing them directly about the points that are relevant for your interactions, and without giving them the impression that you've handed in a list of preferences.
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#70Earlier quoted context omitted.
Points taken. Will try to work on a second version that will keep in mind how this came across to you (and others in this thread).
I've skimmed your post, and I honestly feel like the content is not the main issue here, but the fact that it was written and published. You could share how you prefer to interact with people if the need arises , preferably by addressing them directly about the points that are relevant for your interactions, and without giving them the impression that you've handed in a list of preferences.
That's a good point, yes. I didn't intend to publish it first, but put it out there to learn from the feedback I'm getting. It's interesting how differently people who don't know me (see this entire discussion here) react compared to people who know me or have worked with me before. That's super helpful since future co-workers will most likely fall in the first group.