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How to work with me

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Re: How to work with me

#51

Cool, and then let's make it harassment to ignore the instructions in somebodies user manual (not just ignoring their pronoun preference), so everybody has to learn the user manual of all their colleagues by heart.

Seems like you were trying to be sarcastic but you did just derive basic respect toward other people.

Re: How to work with me

#52

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The corporate language is a turn off. If we are dealing with human problems, the sterile corporate speak isn't going to get us to a solution.

Can you point to specific examples? This is very much a living document, always looking for ways to improve it.

change the whole thing to be about you, almost a trouble shooting manual, not some idealised world of of your interpersonal interactions. Pretty much tell people what your personality is like, what you are trying to improve, and possible problems people might have with you

Re: How to work with me

#54

Title editorialized. Original title is "How to work with me". To quote dang from 12 hours ago: > It's against the HN guidelines to editorialize titles like this. Please see https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html : "Please use the original title, unless it is misleading or linkbait; don't editorialize."

OP is the author. When an author submits the item to HN it is common to do like here, writing a HN specific title for the submission that is different from the title on the page itself.

Re: How to work with me

#57
It's missing the most important section: "Known Bugs".

I don't think the average person knows themselves well enough to write a user manual, myself included. This is an idealized version of how he thinks about himself. Reality could be very different.

I'd be much more interested in a guide written by his wife or parents.

Re: How to work with me

#58
post #8

To me, it seems a little condescending to be told how to act toward someone. On some level it is helpful to know your teammates, but on the other hand it can come across as self centered, like you think you're special and require special instructions for interacting with. I'm sure you have good intentions in creating this, but if someone gave this to me I would instantly thing "oh man this person is going to be high…

To play devil's advocate, the concept is only as condescending as a resumé or nutrition label is. To an extent, this is already done when introducing oneself and (at least in my collegiate experience) one's pronouns and triggers. Perhaps your feelings reflect your personal criteria for unnecessary information rather than anything objectively condescending?

Now speaking for myself, I'm conflicted. On the one hand, I would certainly like an efficient and upfront method to assess a person's capabilities and mental state without having to waste time with pleasantries or wade through a social mine field. The more information the better.

On the other hand, it's likely that this personal resumé of sorts will be another layer of buzzwords and prattle to muck through as composing one evolves from a discovery process to a status competition.

Let's stick to business cards, shall we?

Re: How to work with me

#59
I was thinking of doing something like that, but not in a professional context. Just a post somewhere, a way to talk about my personal quirks in a comedic self-deprecating manner. To be quite frank, the way you did it, and in the professioal context in which this is framed, no amount of revisions will make you not sound like a jerk. This might function in a non-work environment.

I just don't think that's a very good idea. Not because I think you wrote anything wrong (you didn't), but that's just not how interpersonal relationships work.

Sorry, dude.

Re: How to work with me

#60

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The corporate language is a turn off. If we are dealing with human problems, the sterile corporate speak isn't going to get us to a solution.

Can you point to specific examples? This is very much a living document, always looking for ways to improve it.

It's impersonal, sterile, generic (what does a corporate word like "excellence" actually mean in practice?), and simultaneously intrusive and lacking in empathy for readers.

What you have written is actually a list of demands.

Not likes. Not tendencies. Not polite requests. Not values you hope to share with others by meeting them half way, possibly clumsily but with good faith.

Demands.

There is no social context in which a document like this is appropriate.

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