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Re: How to work with me

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post #8

To me, it seems a little condescending to be told how to act toward someone. On some level it is helpful to know your teammates, but on the other hand it can come across as self centered, like you think you're special and require special instructions for interacting with. I'm sure you have good intentions in creating this, but if someone gave this to me I would instantly thing "oh man this person is going to be high…

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Re: How to work with me

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post #8

To me, it seems a little condescending to be told how to act toward someone. On some level it is helpful to know your teammates, but on the other hand it can come across as self centered, like you think you're special and require special instructions for interacting with. I'm sure you have good intentions in creating this, but if someone gave this to me I would instantly thing "oh man this person is going to be high…

Yeah, I got the same feeling - 4/5 of the text is worded as global imperatives, and almost nothing puts his own weaknesses and peculiarities into context.

It seems like a contract required before interaction rather than a helpful guide to understanding him.

That's one of the reasons I liked "Working with Claire" [1]: It is full of open subjectivity ("I hope", "I believe"), is very clear yet polite ("please ...").

[1]: http://growth.eladgil.com/book/the-role-of-the-ceo/insights-...

Re: How to work with me

#13
post #8

To me, it seems a little condescending to be told how to act toward someone. On some level it is helpful to know your teammates, but on the other hand it can come across as self centered, like you think you're special and require special instructions for interacting with. I'm sure you have good intentions in creating this, but if someone gave this to me I would instantly thing "oh man this person is going to be high…

Agreed - this is the most egocentric approach I've come across for dealing with colleagues. I'd love to know what his co-workers think of him.

Re: How to work with me

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These are becoming a trend and I think they can be useful if they are sincere like the one here. Especially as a way to onboard to new projects or teams in a remote/hybrid world. The challenge I've seen regarding user manuals however is that people immediately discount them. They aren't willing to sit down and think about how they want to operate as an individual. So they poorly write one instead of giving it effort.…

nobody who's employed has time to sit down and write a page like that

it just screams desperation

Re: How to work with me

#15
post #3

Making these became trendy at my last company for a few months. I didn't get it then, and I don't get it now. I guess I just don't see who has time for this kind of thing -- literally. I doubt very seriously anyone ever actually read these things.

Seriously. These things always give me the same vibe as RMS' speaking rider: "LOL. Whatever, dude. Not going to ever be a concern for me."

Re: How to work with me

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post #8

To me, it seems a little condescending to be told how to act toward someone. On some level it is helpful to know your teammates, but on the other hand it can come across as self centered, like you think you're special and require special instructions for interacting with. I'm sure you have good intentions in creating this, but if someone gave this to me I would instantly thing "oh man this person is going to be high…

The corporate language is a turn off. If we are dealing with human problems, the sterile corporate speak isn't going to get us to a solution.

Re: How to work with me

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These are becoming a trend and I think they can be useful if they are sincere like the one here. Especially as a way to onboard to new projects or teams in a remote/hybrid world. The challenge I've seen regarding user manuals however is that people immediately discount them. They aren't willing to sit down and think about how they want to operate as an individual. So they poorly write one instead of giving it effort.…

I can see them being useful, but honestly, this manual is too long. Give me the quick start guide

I don't want to learn 35 rules and their context. Give me the five most important points that make you tick.

Re: How to work with me

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I was hoping this would be more like a car or airplane manual. “Failure to maintain adequate vitamin C levels may cause scurvy. Go to service center if this happens. Maintain blood pressure within limits (see specifications).” Etc.

Re: How to work with me

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post #8

To me, it seems a little condescending to be told how to act toward someone. On some level it is helpful to know your teammates, but on the other hand it can come across as self centered, like you think you're special and require special instructions for interacting with. I'm sure you have good intentions in creating this, but if someone gave this to me I would instantly thing "oh man this person is going to be high…

Points taken. Will try to work on a second version that will keep in mind how this came across to you (and others in this thread).
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