How to work with me

I remember the face my boss made when I told him I would make one for me too when he was showcasing his manual. He didn't expect that and said it wasn't necessary.

Probably because he just wanted to tell you how to act, not be told how he should act toward you.

Sounds great for people on the spectrum. However, neurotypicals either don't care about you at all, or care enough to converse with you until we learn your unspoken manual.

To me, it seems a little condescending to be told how to act toward someone.

On some level it is helpful to know your teammates, but on the other hand it can come across as self centered, like you think you're special and require special instructions for interacting with.

I'm sure you have good intentions in creating this, but if someone gave this to me I would instantly thing "oh man this person is going to be high maintenance"

These are becoming a trend and I think they can be useful if they are sincere like the one here. Especially as a way to onboard to new projects or teams in a remote/hybrid world.

The challenge I've seen regarding user manuals however is that people immediately discount them. They aren't willing to sit down and think about how they want to operate as an individual. So they poorly write one instead of giving it effort. Managers think it's burdensome and don't take the time to even read them. Lastly, those who write down how they want to operate sometimes do not operate in their integrity. They ultimately have to live with it, but it does create confusion when you give someone feedback based on their user manual and it's not well received.

As a career-long remote employee. I think it's a beautiful initiative if given the time and thought.

This specific user manual screams product manager having issues with engineering manager counterpart.