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Re: Ask HN: If you used to be socially awkward and shy, how did you improve?

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No. Ecstasy is not a meth. Ecstasy is different substance with different effects. Ecstasy/MDMA: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/MDMA Meth: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Methamphetamine Ecstasy(MDMA) was like magic for the first time. It certainly should be taken only on special occasions but having molly with your loved one is beautiful experience.

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Re: Ask HN: If you used to be socially awkward and shy, how did you improve?

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post #349

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No. Ecstasy is not a meth. Ecstasy is different substance with different effects. Ecstasy/MDMA: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/MDMA Meth: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Methamphetamine Ecstasy(MDMA) was like magic for the first time. It certainly should be taken only on special occasions but having molly with your loved one is beautiful experience.

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> Do you think MDMA just breaks down completely devoid of methamphetamine as a metabolite?

AFAICT, that is correct; why do you think it doesn't? Name-based intuition?

Every reference, paper, etc., I can find of MDMA metabolites does not identify N-methylamphetamine (“methamphetamine”) as a metabolite of MDMA, and every identified metabolite retains the two oxygens of the methylenedioxy unit (whether it retains the whole unit or not) that distinguishes MDMA from methamphetamine.

Re: Ask HN: If you used to be socially awkward and shy, how did you improve?

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post #349

Earlier quoted context omitted.

No. Ecstasy is not a meth. Ecstasy is different substance with different effects. Ecstasy/MDMA: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/MDMA Meth: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Methamphetamine Ecstasy(MDMA) was like magic for the first time. It certainly should be taken only on special occasions but having molly with your loved one is beautiful experience.

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Yes, MDMA doesn't break down into methamphetamine. They are different drugs with different metabolites and metabolic pathways.

MDMA breaks down into MDA, HMMA, HMA, DHA, MDP2P, MDOH.

Not sure why you have to insult someone in this discussion?

Re: Ask HN: If you used to be socially awkward and shy, how did you improve?

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One thing that helps me is this: whenever I'm in a situation that makes me nervous, I think about even more stressful situations in the past that I went through unscathed. For example, if I get nervous before speaking to a group of 10 people, I would recall events where I managed to present to a larger group of people. I was nervous then, but I "survived" it, no reason to think I wouldn't survive this one either.

Re: Ask HN: If you used to be socially awkward and shy, how did you improve?

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Realized I was better than most people at a few important things, and that everyone is ultimately BSing their way through life whether they know it or not. So I'll be me and see where that gets me. Took until my mid-20s to achieve a real level of confidence.

Re: Ask HN: If you used to be socially awkward and shy, how did you improve?

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One thing that helps me is this: whenever I'm in a situation that makes me nervous, I think about even more stressful situations in the past that I went through unscathed. For example, if I get nervous before speaking to a group of 10 people, I would recall events where I managed to present to a larger group of people. I was nervous then, but I "survived" it, no reason to think I wouldn't survive this one either.

It is like this. And I correlate it to tooth pain when biting into sweet candy with a cavity. It hurts like hell but by the time you notice, it’s gone and you’ve survived. Rejection is very painful but it’s important to remember to have a successful life that rejection is a fleeting moment and it can eventually become a passive experience that you can choose to notice and learn from or not and importantly move on from. This should give you the confidence to be “yourself” in any situation. (As you can tell I’ve been to a few classes)

Re: Ask HN: If you used to be socially awkward and shy, how did you improve?

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Two basic things:

1) show a genuine interest in other people and ask them questions to learn more about them

2) stop caring how other people perceive you

2) may seem a bit hand wavey here, but it's absolutely crucial that you don't present as desperate to be liked or respected.

At first, you must drop all pretense and learn to listen and ask questions. Answer questions when asked, but be careful not to ramble, and look for segues to get other people talking about the topic.

Once you get more comfortable around other people, you will have a better sense of how to impress them and how to make your own anecdotes more compelling. Humor is a good focus here. But only do this after you are comfortable being a good active listener, since listening is much more important.

Re: Ask HN: If you used to be socially awkward and shy, how did you improve?

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Just basic personal, intellectual, spiritual, career, biological, financial, social growth will do the thing for you.

As it did for me in similar situation and many of my friends who didn’t stuck with some guru shmucks trying to sell them instant macho bullshit.

Unless it’s a medical diagnosis there’s nothing specific to do about except just fully and responsibly live your life.

I emphasize this again - DONT “PRACTICE”. There is nothing to practice.

Re: Ask HN: If you used to be socially awkward and shy, how did you improve?

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I can't tell if this is sarcastic. Marijuana is both a "schedule 1 controlled substance" (which is a federal classification) and fully legal in 18 states. The term "schedule 1" doesn't say much about danger, which is not to say that there aren't dangerous drugs on the schedule 1 list.

Why are you bringing marijuana into an argument with about meth? What do you think the MA in MDMA stands for

Sorry, no. MDMA is not the same as meth. The molecules are similar, sure, but they are different substances with different effects. Trying to equate the two is pretty disingenuous.
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