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Re: But life had other plans

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Post by gitfan86 »

sizzle wrote: post #136
KyeRussell wrote: post #134

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I’m…not sure I follow. Are you implying that her contraceptive pill was somehow less effective against the sperm of someone else?

That there are situations where women have affairs and get pregnant in very narrow timelines then have their partner think it’s their child. Putting the morality of this aside and speaking practically, unsuspecting men should have a DNA test if the timeline of conception feels off or extraordinary.

I would say it is more likely that consciously or unconsciously the woman started missing pills the month before. The couple was already considering it so it wasn't a big deal if she missed some pills. My wife and I were very fertile, we got pregnant on the first try every time we tried. I suspect that the birth control was barely working.

Re: But life had other plans

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Post by burrows »

royjacobs wrote: post #111
gonzo41 wrote: post #62

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I'm really happy you saved a ton of money and got what you wanted. IVF is not only mega costly, it's also a brutal roller coaster of emotions for all involved.

Unless you live in a country like The Netherlands, where the first three IVF procedures are, in fact, free. I won't disagree with you on the roller coaster of emotions, though.

What does the word “free” mean here?

I assume the clinical professionals are paid and the researchers were paid and the pharma venders are paid, so that money is coming from somewhere. Is it that someone other than you pays for it?

Re: But life had other plans

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Post by agent008t »

samhw wrote: post #138
sizzle wrote: post #136

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That there are situations where women have affairs and get pregnant in very narrow timelines then have their partner think it’s their child. Putting the morality of this aside and speaking practically, unsuspecting men should have a DNA test if the timeline of conception feels off or extraordinary.

Does it really matter whose child it is? You seem to be writing this as if she might give birth to a goblin or something like that. I can't see what's "speaking practically" and "putting the morality aside" here, because there's not really any practical difference.

It's a question of trust, for starters?

Re: But life had other plans

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Post by AndrewVos »

This is really nice to read. My wife and I went through a similar thing. Her mom found BRCA recently so my wife got tested.

Luckily she didn't have the mutation, but it was a very scary time because we have a young daughter who might have also had it.

Re: But life had other plans

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Post by boomskats »

exhilaration wrote: post #38
vincentmarle wrote: post #21

> But the most incredible thing: when have you seen the public health service being earlier than planned? What would have changed about the pregnancy if it wasn't earlier than planned?

It's a joke - the public health services in places like Canada and the UK have a (mostly unfair) reputation for never getting anything done in a timely manner.

It's almost as if there are entire lobbies that pour tons of money into PR efforts to promote those falsehoods and tarnish the reputations of those public services in order to shift public sentiment towards their privatisation!

Re: But life had other plans

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Post by ycombinete »

samhw wrote: post #138
sizzle wrote: post #136

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That there are situations where women have affairs and get pregnant in very narrow timelines then have their partner think it’s their child. Putting the morality of this aside and speaking practically, unsuspecting men should have a DNA test if the timeline of conception feels off or extraordinary.

Does it really matter whose child it is? You seem to be writing this as if she might give birth to a goblin or something like that. I can't see what's "speaking practically" and "putting the morality aside" here, because there's not really any practical difference.

> Does it really matter whose child it is?

I'm not sure I understand. Are you asking why it matters for a man to unknowingly raise another man's child, which his wife conceived while being unfaithful to him?

Re: But life had other plans

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Post by dash2 »

burrows wrote: post #140
sizzle wrote: post #136

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That there are situations where women have affairs and get pregnant in very narrow timelines then have their partner think it’s their child. Putting the morality of this aside and speaking practically, unsuspecting men should have a DNA test if the timeline of conception feels off or extraordinary.

What are the compelling reasons not to get a DNA test as a man (when a woman is claiming, “You are the biological father of this baby.”)? Is it expensive or illegal or will your friends shame you or the woman will be angry?

In this case, it would show that he doesn't trust his wife.

Re: But life had other plans

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Post by dash2 »

boomskats wrote: post #146
exhilaration wrote: post #38

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It's a joke - the public health services in places like Canada and the UK have a (mostly unfair) reputation for never getting anything done in a timely manner.

It's almost as if there are entire lobbies that pour tons of money into PR efforts to promote those falsehoods and tarnish the reputations of those public services in order to shift public sentiment towards their privatisation!

It's almost as if people in those countries have experience of how they actually work!

Re: But life had other plans

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Post by [deleted] »

samhw wrote: post #138
sizzle wrote: post #136

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That there are situations where women have affairs and get pregnant in very narrow timelines then have their partner think it’s their child. Putting the morality of this aside and speaking practically, unsuspecting men should have a DNA test if the timeline of conception feels off or extraordinary.

Does it really matter whose child it is? You seem to be writing this as if she might give birth to a goblin or something like that. I can't see what's "speaking practically" and "putting the morality aside" here, because there's not really any practical difference.

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