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In your 30s, if you are waiting to have kids for various reasons, you really need to stop delaying. Your probability of successfully having kids goes down every year, and by your early 40s your options for medical help if you have infertility stop being available because even those interventions lose effectiveness. If you want kids, just have the kids. You're not going to care that you were being responsible and wait…
Get married, have children, buy assets. There's this idea that men don't need to settle down because they can have children at any age, which I guess is technically true but it presupposes that a 30 y/o woman will want to have children with you when you're 45, but they are more inclined to go +5 years, not +15. Also take prescription labels more seriously, like don't take Advil all the time, because you will get an u…
> alcohol and aspirin I think you mean tylenol / acetaminophen (maybe aspirin is bad too?) Even if you can find a younger mate, you'll want to participate in your kid's lives and that's much harder as an old man. If your kids are teenagers and you're in your sixties, I imagine it can be tough; and if they make the same choices as you, living to see grandchildren is unlikely
I joined the Orthodox Church in my 40s. I wish I would have known about it when I was younger, especially in my 30s, with my young family. The benefits that come from daily spiritual devotion both individually and a family, as well as the benefits that come from being part of a faithful community are impossible to list. Is it all easy and is it all benefits? Of course not. But centering my life around God through dai…
I could see the benefits of having a spiritual community around you, but, like, how do you convince yourself that supernatural things like gods exist? There's just very little tangible or logical there. Or would it be worth it to participate without really believing? Or you just somehow start believing? Frankly, for me doing that would probably be comparable to asking you to convert to Hinduism or something similar.…
I don't know what actionable advice is really there, but I ignored a lot that I didn't have to and acted invincible when I wasn't. I'm a very athletic person, played sports my whole life, joined the Army. There are a lot of things I could have stopped doing, risks I didn't need to take. I'm lucky as hell that years of surgery and physical therapy and finally listening to doctors eventually brought me much of the way back, but 30s are, or at least should be, peak years. Losing them like that really leaves a hole.
In your 30s, if you are waiting to have kids for various reasons, you really need to stop delaying. Your probability of successfully having kids goes down every year, and by your early 40s your options for medical help if you have infertility stop being available because even those interventions lose effectiveness. If you want kids, just have the kids. You're not going to care that you were being responsible and wait…
Yes, I had no idea "advanced maternal age" was only 35
I mentioned it off-hand to an ex-girlfriend and was called a sexist (not in an angry/confrontational way, but pretty much dismissed equally off-hand).
In your 30s, if you are waiting to have kids for various reasons, you really need to stop delaying. Your probability of successfully having kids goes down every year, and by your early 40s your options for medical help if you have infertility stop being available because even those interventions lose effectiveness. If you want kids, just have the kids. You're not going to care that you were being responsible and wait…
I joined the Orthodox Church in my 40s. I wish I would have known about it when I was younger, especially in my 30s, with my young family. The benefits that come from daily spiritual devotion both individually and a family, as well as the benefits that come from being part of a faithful community are impossible to list. Is it all easy and is it all benefits? Of course not. But centering my life around God through dai…
Were you religious before you joined the Orthodox Church? What inspired you to join it?
Success will come if you're a decent human being (and most of us truly are). It just may come when it's least expected, and from a completely different direction.
Oh, and 401k compounding works like a champ.
Of course, I had no money after that trip -- so we lived with my in-laws for six months to save for a house down payment. I would not recommend this!
But what I would recommend is living under your income in your thirties. It would be best if you did that forever, BTW.
And have kids. They take a lot of energy, time, and love.
Finally, invest in your career. Take new roles, try some things. Don't sweat not being the next Zuckerberg. You have three or four more decades to start a company, write your novel, or create the wondrous thing.
Load your backpack full of responsibilities in your thirties -- you are stronger than you think.
I joined the Orthodox Church in my 40s. I wish I would have known about it when I was younger, especially in my 30s, with my young family. The benefits that come from daily spiritual devotion both individually and a family, as well as the benefits that come from being part of a faithful community are impossible to list. Is it all easy and is it all benefits? Of course not. But centering my life around God through dai…
I really want to become an Orthodox Christian but feel like I would struggle with the whole "believing in God" thing. Should I still try it? Is there any way that I could "come to believe in God" in time?