Hello! Russian SW developer from Moscow is here.
First, it's been a shock for all the society.
No one would imagine in a worst dream that this attack would happen.
Even when Putin made his speech about acceptance of LNR/DNR we were like "phew, another shitty fake politics, nothing really changes".
But then the war started.
And no one expected that! I think, even military or economic ministers didn't expect that. People are in the shock.
First, it's been incredibly painful to watch our beloved friends in Ukraine are suffering, fleeing the country and turning to be our enemies forever.
Almost every Russian have some relative or friend in Ukraine, and now these bonds are broken forever. It's very very painful!
The fact that the source of suffering is your country doubles the weight.
Second, there is an information attack "Every Russian is to shame", which targets even those who fleed the country seeking the asylum from Putin. It feels very dehumanizing and racist actually. When I opened facebook there was some ads with corpses of Russian soldiers, and FB moderation was okay with it. Now Facebook is blocked(which is actually good thing, it doesn't help, only melt people's minds).
Most people in Russia are very poor, and don't read facebook/watch youtube. They see the beautiful TV picture of brave Russian forces fighting Ukrainian nazis, without resistance from ordinary people. So this facebook war is only doing harm to educated class which doesn't have political power anyway.
The news about oligarchs who lost their yachts can only give Putin additional support.
Third, of course, it's very scary. We may die from nuclear war. We can end up in some North Korea/Iran scenario and never see Europe again. Businesses are falling, Europe connections are cut one by one. Russian people are used to some bad times, but I've never seen events unfolding so fast and so tragic and unpredictable.
There is a lot of propaganda from both of sides, lot of fakes, and infowar is melting our brains. Some people are panicking and try to move to Georgia/Armenia. Some are just preparing for bad days trying to hold on and help their families. Some people are happy with their TV picture.
Most of people are just trying to hold as much as they can - work, prepare for growing season, save their businesses. We don't have illusions that life
will just go on after the war is over.
The future is very unclear, but everyone I know just want this war to be over as soon as possible and with as low casualties as still possible and then work hard to deal with consequences.