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I was in similar spot with around 30. My advice: 1.) Start dating. It might be a drag and maybe embarrassing at times, but obviously not being a loser having saved up half a mil in 10 years, you will probably find someone. Don't buy into that Hollywood "soulmate" crap. More likely than not there is already someone you know or at max someone one graph edge away which will be a perfectly fine partner for the rest of yo…
what does one graph edge away mean?
This is almost exactly my life, shifted by a decade. The problem is that by 35 you can't get by on novelty anymore because you've seen some version of everything there is to see. The worst thing you can do is pine for the good old days. They aren't coming back. And they weren't that good anyway. Your best times are ahead if you can successfully adjust. What worked for me was putting down roots. I resisted it mightily…
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You don’t feel the amount of new things you see slows down considerably as you grow older? It’s not that you can’t find novel things any more if you go looking for them, but most everyday things hold no more (or less) excitement. I notice this especially much with my 3 year old son, for whom everything is fascinating. He’ll find out that sticking a bowl upside down in the water and turning it face up will make a lot…
> You don’t feel the amount of new things you see slows down considerably as you grow older? At 44 I have the opposite problem. The more I learn, the more I realize I don't know. When I was younger I had the ego of a young person and thought I was always on the cusp of knowing it all. As I got older I realized I was simply unaware. It's a bit cliché, but I started approaching everything, even things I 'knew' with a b…
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I'm 64 and retired last year. I spent 4 decades programming, and everything changes all the time, and I always learned new things. I am still learning new things, and still writing code to support my generative art. Admittedly I was finally burned out of the grind of working as a programmer, but it took a whole lifetime. But to truly approach new things you have to be willing to let go of the old, even programming if…
I'm just over 50 and I'm finding it harder to stay in programming. Most companies want to push me upward into management (which I don't want to do) - and I feel like I'm aging out of eligibility for most development jobs. How did you manage to stick with it? I still love it.
Learn, learn, learn. Find the new hotness (at least one that has staying power).
For me, kubernetes is the latest 'big hill'. It seems to have legs for years ahead, and plenty of technical details that prevent anyone from completely mastering it.
I don't know...
> I am turning 35 years soon
...kiddo, but I do know one thing: You're jumping the gun by decades here.
Mourning the loss of one’s youth is pretty typical. You lose a step. You didn’t do what you hoped you would do. You wasted your time. So forth and so on. Don’t worry. It gets better. This is all part of the process of life. My recommendation is that you read Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. “He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” I’m 52 here. I was a prolific programmer in my 20s. A go-go ma…
Having a child, especially one with disabilities that require extra daily attention, provided/provides a “why” and inspired me to come up with some others. How whys of you :)
I’m in my late 40s. Just gone through 15 years of absolute shit with an ex partner and financial chaos. Decided I’d fix it in 2019. Three important things to concentrate on: 1. Health. If that’s off, fix it first. Everything depends on health. Sort out your diet, physical fitness and health and mental health follows. I’m fitter than all my peers and both fitter and healthier than I was in my 20s. Can run a half marat…
100% on 1&2 but would qualify, ime, travel is a cheap thrill if you overdo it. It's great to shake things up once in awhile, but not something the average person wants to sustain on a regular basis. Personal projects, hobbies, and sociable fun become the long-invested experiences
So, a week later I told my boss i would be leaving for 7 months and that i would not take no for an answer. I took all that money, and spent it in a backpacking-trip in latin-america by my self. At 35 years of age. Totally out of my comfort zone.
- It was one of the best decisions of my life.
I made so many new friends around the world, tasted food that I didn't know exists, climbed mountains, dived with hammer sharks in Galapagos. Hiked in landscapes of indescribable beauty. Had a joint under an amazing sky of stars in atacama.. Met beautiful women of totally different cultures. And finally met the girl of my life.
To say the least, it changed my life. I am a much more open-minded person. I look forward to go to places I haven't been in and interact with nature in a much deeper level. I appreciate the differences in all of us much more now than before. The world is a beautiful place, and you should experience it to the fullest.
Say yes to life! Always!
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I'm just over 50 and I'm finding it harder to stay in programming. Most companies want to push me upward into management (which I don't want to do) - and I feel like I'm aging out of eligibility for most development jobs. How did you manage to stick with it? I still love it.
56 and still technical here. Learn, learn, learn. Find the new hotness (at least one that has staying power). For me, kubernetes is the latest 'big hill'. It seems to have legs for years ahead, and plenty of technical details that prevent anyone from completely mastering it.
58 in a few weeks, and seriously considering going the other way: To jump off the treadmill of new fads and concentrate on / return to basics.
"Big Data!" "Data Lake!" Data Vault!" "Apache Spark!" "Kafka!" "Cloud this!" "Cloud that!" "Cloud the other!""Snowflake!" "R!" "Python!" "Pandas!" "This new ETL tool!" "That new ETL process!" "This other new ETL tool!" "That other new ETL process!"...
Sigh.
SQL and bash ain't going anywhere, and they're all you really need for ETL.
I'm thinking of really learning the old cool in stead.
I'm in the same boat. I'm procrastinating more and more and I sleep less and less. I've lost interest in doing new things so much that I don't even feel like watching a new show anymore. End up watching Seinfeld again and again. I'm a pink Floyd fan but just few weeks back this finally hit me like it had never before. "And you run, and you run to catch up with the sun but it's sinking Racing around to come up behind…