Spend lots of time looking after others without seeking reward for yourself. Then there will be love in your life, and happiness will inevitably follow. Happy people are beautiful and easily loved, so you'll be doing yourself the most wonderful service by giving yourself to others.
Ask HN: How can I stop worrying and start living?
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Re: Ask HN: How can I stop worrying and start living?
#72This is a silly little mindgame but it really does help with worry and stress. You basically flip all worst-case scenarios on their head to see the advantages of whatever situation you're in. Good Game: Good! Now I can .... Eg. My husband is divorcing me. Good! Now I can find someone who loves me deeply and doesn't leave ice cream containers composting on his desk. My upstairs neighbors are hella loud and annoying. G…
Exactly this. When I caught covid, I used that opportunity to catch-up on tv series I have been wanting to watch :D #Expanse
Re: Ask HN: How can I stop worrying and start living?
#73Religion helps to trust and have faith and live a meaningful live.
Re: Ask HN: How can I stop worrying and start living?
#74This is a silly little mindgame but it really does help with worry and stress. You basically flip all worst-case scenarios on their head to see the advantages of whatever situation you're in. Good Game: Good! Now I can .... Eg. My husband is divorcing me. Good! Now I can find someone who loves me deeply and doesn't leave ice cream containers composting on his desk. My upstairs neighbors are hella loud and annoying. G…
5'10 balding male with a micropenis. Good!
Now you'll finally put that mouth to work and actually get someone to orgasm.
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#75See a therapist. (you might need to shop around, finding the right fit can be hard)
Get offline. No news, no social media.
Read old books. The older the better.
Exercise strenuously and regularly. Sweat. The best exercize is the one you do regularly.
Re: Ask HN: How can I stop worrying and start living?
#76Exercise. You are missing out on things, bad things will happen, and one day it will all come to an end. Now that we got that out of the way, recognize your body is a machine and you have at least some control over it. Get some exercise, change your location, give some attention to what you eat, connect with some people live. Make your body do something other than what it is doing.
> exercise The exercise answer is really tiring. It became a universal remedy If we analyze what OP is saying we can rapidly see what he wants. Essentially he wants a long life where he gets to delay death as much as possible, live to 100 as a very rich person so he'd avoid missing out on things , stress free, and with the minimum amount of personal tragedies. All the amount of exercise in the world won't magically s…
> It became a universal remedy
Since we're all humans with human bodies there are universal ways to better our emotional and mental lives. There's a reason there's no obese 80 year old people.
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#77Earlier quoted context omitted.
> exercise The exercise answer is really tiring. It became a universal remedy If we analyze what OP is saying we can rapidly see what he wants. Essentially he wants a long life where he gets to delay death as much as possible, live to 100 as a very rich person so he'd avoid missing out on things , stress free, and with the minimum amount of personal tragedies. All the amount of exercise in the world won't magically s…
> It became a universal remedy Since we're all humans with human bodies there are universal ways to better our emotional and mental lives. There's a reason there's no obese 80 year old people.
OP is not 80.
OP has been very clear in expressing what he wants.
How do you think exercise will enable him to do so? As you can see from his requests he's looking for some serious luck in 3 distinctive and uncorrelated domain (longevity, wealth and family life) not to lose weight.
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#78Earlier quoted context omitted.
My depression is cured
It seems from the comments on the video that your joke has actually been the case for a few people. Sometimes what's needed is a new perspective and a "worthless platitude".
No, they just think that temporarily while they're excited. It's like faith healing.
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#79The go-to book for this problem is "The Worry Cure" by Robert Leahy. The book starts out by explaining why many popular methods for fighting worry are actually ineffective or counterproductive - for example, trying to assure yourself that the thing you worry about will most likely not happen. There's a better way, and it is explained through a series of simple exercises in the style of CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy).
I first read it ten years ago, and I still use the tools on a weekly basis. Changed my life, and the lifes of two other people I gifted the book to.
You can get a gist of his method in this podcast: https://www.listennotes.com/da/podcasts/the-aict-cognitive/d...
Re: Ask HN: How can I stop worrying and start living?
#80This is a silly little mindgame but it really does help with worry and stress. You basically flip all worst-case scenarios on their head to see the advantages of whatever situation you're in. Good Game: Good! Now I can .... Eg. My husband is divorcing me. Good! Now I can find someone who loves me deeply and doesn't leave ice cream containers composting on his desk. My upstairs neighbors are hella loud and annoying. G…
I failed everything in my life.
Good! Now I can kill myself.
This kind of reframing have never succeeded with me, they only make me want to jump faster because of everything that I will never be.