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Re: Which jobs most often pair together among married couples

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Post by idk1 »

StillBored wrote: post #179

Ok, I can see the lopsided lawyers marrying lawyers, but how is it that software developers are so lopsidedly marrying other software developers when something like 90% of them are male? I guess pretty much every female software developer marries a male software developer which works out to the 12% number? Makes me sorta want to see a breakdown by sex. aka "male software developer has a 6% chance of marrying a softwa…

I'm a male software engineer and I'm marrying a male software engineer, that may account for some the data too.

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Post by mettamage »

I'm most likely going to marry a psychologist.

I've studied CS and psychology.

Whenever I meet a woman that has studied psychology it is, on average, easier to connect with them as I can relate with how they experienced their studies.

But they can't always relate with me when I'm stuck on a bug :'(

Anyway! :D

My point is: some of us have done more degrees, and can therefore pick and choose from multiple categories since a shared study experience does carry over into an easier dating process (my experience at least).

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Post by qaq »

In Ukraine there are for some reason way more females on QA and Front End side of things and also in recruiting. So totally anecdotal but know a good number of couples BE+FE :) Having after tax family income at 8K+ USD in a country with median family income under 500 makes for a very comfortable lifestyle.

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Post by emerongi »

throwaway2037 wrote: post #294
stevekemp wrote: post #240

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I'm a sysadmin (though these days I get called a "cloud engineer", or "devops". ugh) married to a doctor. That said I'm a university dropout, and she did a degree in computer science, before switching to become a physician. I know a lot of CS people locally who are married to dentists and doctors. There are a lot of encounters between doctors, but my personal experience is that doctors marrying doctors (or other medi…

Why do you think they get divorced frequently? Could the significant factor be the irregular or long working hours for people in medicine?

Could just be that since you see a lot of physicians marrying physicians, you also see a lot of physicians divorcing physicians. Without actual data, it's probably very hard to quantify the real divorce rate.

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Post by gnicholas »

onion2k wrote: post #285

Careers that limit your ability to socialize outside of work, due to location (eg military) or hours (eg lawyers, teachers), lead to people marrying within their industry. This shouldn't be a big surprise.

How do the hours worked by teachers prevent them from socializing outside of work? I understand how lawyers are limited in this regard, as I've known many lawyers who regularly pulled 80 hour weeks. But I've never known a teacher who worked nearly this many hours.

I used to be a lawyer and now work in edtech, so I've known plenty of folks in both professions. What am I missing?

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Post by JZumun »

danilor wrote: post #281
thaumasiotes wrote: post #272

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> Makes me sorta want to see a breakdown by sex. aka "male software developer has a 6% chance of marrying a software developer But this data is specifically "among married couples". The male software developer's chances of marrying a software developer are much, much higher if we just assume he's married in the first place.

I don't get it. Wouldn't anyone's chances of marrying any group be higher if we assume they are married at all? Because "being married" is a super set of "being married to a person from X group"?

I think an extreme example might help: if there are 100 software developers but 98 are single, and 2 are married to each other, then 100% of software developers(that are married couples) have married software developers, even if only 2% of all software developers are married at all.

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Post by sofixa »

idk1 wrote: post #301
StillBored wrote: post #179

Ok, I can see the lopsided lawyers marrying lawyers, but how is it that software developers are so lopsidedly marrying other software developers when something like 90% of them are male? I guess pretty much every female software developer marries a male software developer which works out to the 12% number? Makes me sorta want to see a breakdown by sex. aka "male software developer has a 6% chance of marrying a softwa…

I'm a male software engineer and I'm marrying a male software engineer, that may account for some the data too.

Congrats!

That's what i thought as well, from anecdata it seems to me the overwhelming majority of females and gay males in software development or IT live with males or females from the same industry.

I wonder if one day the industry is more evenly distributed if we'd see a similar percentage as for lawyers.

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Post by ungamedplayer »

monksy wrote: post #256
StillBored wrote: post #179

Ok, I can see the lopsided lawyers marrying lawyers, but how is it that software developers are so lopsidedly marrying other software developers when something like 90% of them are male? I guess pretty much every female software developer marries a male software developer which works out to the 12% number? Makes me sorta want to see a breakdown by sex. aka "male software developer has a 6% chance of marrying a softwa…

I can only speak from experience, but I've been on dates with women who openly admit that they've had bad experiences with IT people.

I can only speak from experience, but I've been on dates with women who openly admit they have had bad experiences with scientists.

Re: Which jobs most often pair together among married couples

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Post by godmode2019 »

Cool data, here is a theory.

Two factors education and passion

Eduction: The longer you spend in education the more people you are going to know within that discipline.

Passion: The more likely you would do your job for free the more likely you would date other people who can keep up in conversation with that job.

Hunters marrying other hunters would be passion

Doctor, doctor would be education.

Psychologist being the outlier.

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