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I just don’t want to be busy anymore

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Re: I just don’t want to be busy anymore

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Post by baremetal »

tenaciousDaniel wrote: post #9
gregd wrote: post #2

As a 54 year old Software Engineer, who has had a nice IT career for over 26 years, I'm spent. This is coming from someone who has always had a growth mindset and had a really hard time sitting still. I used to loathe naps and felt like I was missing out if I took one. Now, I take a one hour nap almost daily and I'm finding that after 1pm I'm basically fried (I start working around 7AM). I'm not sure what to do about…

I feel that way now but I'm only 37. I knew it was a bit soon so I went to a doctor, and turns out my testosterone is at 250 (whereas at my age it should be over 1,000). No idea if that's something you've already explored, but felt it couldn't hurt to share.

exercise daily, especially strength training. get some traditionally manly hobbies like building stuff. it worked for me.

Re: I just don’t want to be busy anymore

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Post by dnndev »

gregd wrote: post #11
mettamage wrote: post #8

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Typed on my phone. Six hours of work? Lie the other 2 and call it a day. Or, renegotiate a contract for 6 hours per day. Given how much productivity I presume you bring, I’d lie. I don’t feel bad about it since companies care too little (in general). If they care, then I would care. E.g. a 10x more productive engineer doesn’t get 10x the pay. I met one of these people, they lied. They worked 2 hours, shipped one hour…

Part of the problem is that I'm a Software Engineer as well as a Business Analyst and Project Manager. I'm also managing a dev team, so it's really difficult to only work 6 hours a day. Hell, I can't even do all my work in a 40 hour work week. Yes, I realize this isn't a me issue and I'm looking for other work. The problem is that I'm encountering a lot of ageism in this field too.

Sounds like there is no good answer but a start maybe simplify your lifestyle and talk to your current employer about working 32 hours per week. Most likely they will say no and you will need to jump ship.

This is a great time to find freelance work. Your soon to be former employer maybe your first client.

Re: I just don’t want to be busy anymore

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Post by dnndev »

abledon wrote: post #40
gregd wrote: post #11

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Part of the problem is that I'm a Software Engineer as well as a Business Analyst and Project Manager. I'm also managing a dev team, so it's really difficult to only work 6 hours a day. Hell, I can't even do all my work in a 40 hour work week. Yes, I realize this isn't a me issue and I'm looking for other work. The problem is that I'm encountering a lot of ageism in this field too.

have you thought about joining Government? pretty laid back there. Less pay, but if you are okay with that, its worth it if you value time > money

I have wondered about that. Some jobs I think make you die from within even if they are only 9to5. One buddy of mine had a govt job and complained about it everyday… it made him toxic. He eventually left but took waaaay to long.

Re: I just don’t want to be busy anymore

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Post by eyeball »

fxtentacle wrote: post #31

"To keep reading this story, get the free app or log in." Apparently, what you have to say isn't important. Or else you would have chosen a blogging platform that isn't hostile to readers.

"we want to know who you are before we let you read"

so f'ing annoying. god I miss the early internet.

Re: I just don’t want to be busy anymore

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Post by mberning »

jwond wrote: post #33

> “No way I’m burned out. Look at all the women that are actually suffering. Who am I but a privileged white chic taking up space.” It’s sad that so many white people have been conditioned to think this way.

It’s a mental illness. Imagine somebody saying “I’m just a lowly brown person” or whatever. It’s crazy to think about.

Re: I just don’t want to be busy anymore

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Post by hannyaharamita »

fxtentacle wrote: post #31

"To keep reading this story, get the free app or log in." Apparently, what you have to say isn't important. Or else you would have chosen a blogging platform that isn't hostile to readers.

YMMV, but on Android in Chrome app, long press and "open in incognito tab" made it readable for me. Also, seems poster is not OP. In a side note, I would love it if HN links were color-coded or otherwise marked as free, closed-garden, soft paywall, or paywall.

Re: I just don’t want to be busy anymore

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Post by bumby »

tenaciousDaniel wrote: post #27
hammock wrote: post #15

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>whereas at my age it should be over 1,000 Where did you get that reference range for a 37 year old? I'm not sure that was even true 30 years ago.

That's what my doctor told me. I'm sure there are differing opinions but meh whatever, I know it could be higher so that's good enough.

I just looked this up last week and I believe the reference said >950 or so put you in the 97.5 percentile of men 18-39.

Found it: it’s actually 916 ng/dL https://www.healio.com/news/endocrinology/20170223/researche...

Re: I just don’t want to be busy anymore

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Post by CapmCrackaWaka »

jwond wrote: post #33

> “No way I’m burned out. Look at all the women that are actually suffering. Who am I but a privileged white chic taking up space.” It’s sad that so many white people have been conditioned to think this way.

I feel that throwing in little quipits like that are an easy way to keep the discussion about your article as non-political as possible. It seems counter-intuitive, but if someone comes along and actually brings up the race issue, and it isn’t mentioned in the article, it’ll start a spiral of political/racial arguments that distract from the original article. These little remarks deflect most of it.

Re: I just don’t want to be busy anymore

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Post by abledon »

dnndev wrote: post #44
abledon wrote: post #40

Earlier quoted context omitted.

have you thought about joining Government? pretty laid back there. Less pay, but if you are okay with that, its worth it if you value time > money

I have wondered about that. Some jobs I think make you die from within even if they are only 9to5. One buddy of mine had a govt job and complained about it everyday… it made him toxic. He eventually left but took waaaay to long.

trick is to bounce around departments until you get into a good group of non-toxic folks, and your skill level is above everyone. 2 hours of work is the equivalent of 2-5 days of another programmers work, and everyone loves your output.

If you're working from home, its really not that bad, since the other 6 hours of teh day you can learn anything you want. Just have to be near computer incase something happens etc...

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