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Something related; I wish "Let's chat, call me when you are available" button for Whatsapp,Telegram etc. Or even better, ability to suggest a few time slots to the callee. That might help with not being able to write "hey my friend, I miss you. Let's chat sometime" messages and unable to decide on that "sometime".

An app with SMS/phone calls wouldn't work well for me as most of my friends are in another country so it needs to be VoIP.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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This is a cool idea. I constantly come across as a dick because a friend will message me, and I'll think about what to respond with, hesitate because I want to come up with the BEST response, then get distracted by another task, forget to text them back until the next day, etc. There are also people I only see every few months and have a blast with, then completely radio silence them for months until I see them again…

> I constantly come across as a dick because a friend will message me, and I'll think about what to respond with, hesitate because I want to come up with the BEST response, then get distracted by another task, forget to text them back until the next day, etc. There are two paradigms I see people use to solve this: 1. Text back as soon as you see the message and be okay with your response not being optimal. This is wh…

> Don't open the app to read the message until you have time to respond, then commit to responding.

Then you end up with unread messages for weeks at a time.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

#104

Yuck. If interacting with me is such a chore that someone has to automate it, I'd rather not hear from them. People don't want to be your duties. They want to be your pleasures. This changes messages from "I felt like talking to you" to "my scheduled trigger fired; please start a conversation so I can check you off my checklist." If I found out someone were using this to communicate with me, I'd frankly cut them out…

I feel like you're conflating the friction of starting a conversation with the friction of continuing one, which can be very different things.

There's no friction in starting something you love to do.

If you don't love talking to someone that you don't have to talk to, you shouldn't do it. You're putting them in the awkward position of having to converse with someone that they know doesn't want to converse with them. And yes, they'll know. The dryness of the sample messages is tip-off enough.

Personally, I hate hearing from people like this -- not because I dislike them or they bore me, but because I'm not a sadist. I don't like the pain and boredom that I sense they're experiencing in trying to force themselves to talk to me out of duty.

There are other ways to connect with people besides conversation. As the Fred Rogers song goes, "There are many ways to say I love you....There's the singing way....Cleaning up a room can say I love you; hanging up a coat before you're asked to do it; drawing special pictures on the holidays; and making plays." That will look different for an adult than a child, but the principle still applies.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

I feel like you're conflating the friction of starting a conversation with the friction of continuing one, which can be very different things.

There's no friction in starting something you love to do. If you don't love talking to someone that you don't have to talk to, you shouldn't do it. You're putting them in the awkward position of having to converse with someone that they know doesn't want to converse with them. And yes, they'll know. The dryness of the sample messages is tip-off enough. Personally, I hate hearing from people like this -- not because I…

> There's no friction in starting something you love to do.

That may be true for you; it's not true for everyone. Nobody in this thread who thinks this app might be useful has mentioned people they need speak to "out of duty". I feel like you are projecting how you operate on to everyone else and not actually listening to what they are saying.

I'm sorry you have frequently experienced people that are clearly bored when talking to you. This is not something I have experienced much at all. What I have experienced is friends who lead busy lives and just don't get around to it because they have 10 other things on the docket. When eventually we do get around to talking (usually because of some trigger on either end), the conversations are enjoyable and we are glad to have them. But the idea that someone isn't "important" enough just because you're not consciously thinking about them rather than the many other important responsibilities in your life is one I find silly. We are busy people with a lot of things on our mind. At the same time, some people (clearly) would like a slightly more consistent system that causes them to talk to their friends than a random trigger on social media or what have you.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Hello hackers. I wrote the app and I hope it can help others like me. I’m not very good at keeping in touch with friend and family. Also, my girlfriend likes little text messages here and there, and I’m not good at sending them. So “there’s an app for that,” right? No, there actually wasn’t. So I made one. I define the app as a smart device automation tool for text messages, calls and email that’ll help you stay in t…

Thank you so much for this. I've been noodling building something like this for a while but never had the time. Already installed and set up my mom. One question: for the days of the week icons, you have U - M - T - W - R - F - S

What are U and R?

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

#110

Disclaimer: I haven't installed the app. Reading the description and seeing the screendumps I get the impression that the app actually does the messaging for you. For me it would be much more valuable to get a reminder to contact people I love and care about. Time runs so fast, I forget it's been a week or two since I last said hello to that person. With a reminder I would be able to keep in touch with people, yet be…

There's a toggle that stops it from sending messages.
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