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Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Post by binkHN »

kaioelfke wrote: post #55
ogwh wrote: post #42

This doesn't help you maintain connections with people, it's emotional forgery and anyone caught using something like this will find their "connections" evaporate instantly. If you want to maintain connections with people put the effort in, that's the substance of the connection in the first place. If you don't, then don't. People want to feel like they matter to you, so you contacting them shows that you care about…

Is the effort knowing, when to reach out yourself instead of a tool reminding you? Or is the effort about spending time with a person? I use a running tracker, but I still have to run myself. And how often do people reach out on their own? Often it’s seeing a post in a feed or some other trigger. Is that more authentic? The willingness to add a reminder and spend time shows that you care about a person.

I agree, and many others have seen it this way as well.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Post by tgdn »

binkHN wrote: post #44
gtirloni wrote: post #9

The link is not working.

I'm sorry, but the app is currently in beta and limited to 88 countries/regions to better support this. Please let me know what country you are in so that I may rectify this.

France

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Post by snet0 »

grayfaced wrote: post #57
snet0 wrote: post #53

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I came to this thread earlier and thought I'd taken crazy pills, so I'd check back later. Not a single non-positive comment. People who use this or think this is a good thing have fundamentally misunderstood social interaction. Your girlfriend doesn't want the signal that you care, she wants you to actually care, and keeping in contact is an expression of caring. If you need to forge something this foundational, I'm…

I mostly agree. When I'm focused on something, I tend to isolate myself. I forget to contact people. I care but I'm just distracted. I would prefer reminders of "You haven't called your Mom in X days". Set configurable threshholds of how often you want to contact different people but still require you to actually do it.

This is a symptom of caring too much about what you're focused on, though. While I appreciate that sometimes it's easy to forget important things, I think if you need inorganic means to remember to call your mother, you need to take a moment to actually consider that, rather than looking for the nearest software "solution".

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Post by kaioelfke »

dennisy wrote: post #22

I am sorry but I really think this is a place where we just don’t need “an app for that”. This of course if just my view, but if someone uses this to call me the value of that will be super low.

Many people have an entry in their calendar to call their parents and grandparents. It’s also about making time for people you care about instead of work and other things taking over.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Post by kseistrup »

binkHN wrote: post #30
kseistrup wrote: post #19

Disclaimer: I haven't installed the app. Reading the description and seeing the screendumps I get the impression that the app actually does the messaging for you. For me it would be much more valuable to get a reminder to contact people I love and care about. Time runs so fast, I forget it's been a week or two since I last said hello to that person. With a reminder I would be able to keep in touch with people, yet be…

By default, the app will not take any action and largely act as a helpful reminder, and I highly recommend this type of use.

Thanks!

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Post by binkHN »

grayfaced wrote: post #57
snet0 wrote: post #53

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I came to this thread earlier and thought I'd taken crazy pills, so I'd check back later. Not a single non-positive comment. People who use this or think this is a good thing have fundamentally misunderstood social interaction. Your girlfriend doesn't want the signal that you care, she wants you to actually care, and keeping in contact is an expression of caring. If you need to forge something this foundational, I'm…

I mostly agree. When I'm focused on something, I tend to isolate myself. I forget to contact people. I care but I'm just distracted. I would prefer reminders of "You haven't called your Mom in X days". Set configurable threshholds of how often you want to contact different people but still require you to actually do it.

For what it’s worth, the app, by default, will not take any action and largely act as a helpful reminder, and I highly recommend this type of use.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Post by binkHN »

tgdn wrote: post #62
binkHN wrote: post #44

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I'm sorry, but the app is currently in beta and limited to 88 countries/regions to better support this. Please let me know what country you are in so that I may rectify this.

France

Thank you. I made the change, but, unfortunately, it might take a few hours to be effective.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Post by brushfoot »

Yuck. If interacting with me is such a chore that someone has to automate it, I'd rather not hear from them.

People don't want to be your duties. They want to be your pleasures.

This changes messages from "I felt like talking to you" to "my scheduled trigger fired; please start a conversation so I can check you off my checklist."

If I found out someone were using this to communicate with me, I'd frankly cut them out of my life -- not out of hatred, but because I'm not a sadist. If it's tedious for you to talk to me, I don't want to cause you that pain.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Post by kakawait »

binkHN wrote: post #52
kakawait wrote: post #47

I'm not able to access (play tells me it does not found)? Is country limited app or something?

Yes. I'm sorry. The app is currently in beta and limited to 88 countries/regions to better support this. Please let me know what country you are in so that I may rectify this.

I'm come from France

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Post by [deleted] »

kaioelfke wrote: post #59
Dave_TRS wrote: post #10

Earlier quoted context omitted.

+1 I would love this app if it did birthdays. I like sending texts, not FB messages, but it's a pain to check Facebook to see who's birthday it is and then find them in my address book. I'd love to sit down once and manually create a list of everyone I want to send a birthday text do, and then have this app either auto-send or notify me with a button to launch a blank text I can type to the person

I use my app for birthdays like that. There’s a button that opens the conversation in whatever app I use for this person (WhatsApp, Telegram, Email, …). It’s definitely good to maintain your own contact data somewhere. People delete FB accounts and FB changes all the time. They used to have APIs for birthdays, but they’re gone. So there’s no control unless you own the data.

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