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Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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mathattack wrote: post #6
binkHN wrote: post #2

Hello hackers. I wrote the app and I hope it can help others like me. I’m not very good at keeping in touch with friend and family. Also, my girlfriend likes little text messages here and there, and I’m not good at sending them. So “there’s an app for that,” right? No, there actually wasn’t. So I made one. I define the app as a smart device automation tool for text messages, calls and email that’ll help you stay in t…

Thank you for sharing! If you don’t mind - has anyone come back to you concerned about automated notes seeming disingenuous? (This could appear like a generic holiday card on what should be a more personal format) From you Medium post it clearly comes from the right place. Also - if your girlfriend is ok with this, and encourages you to finish the project, she’s a keeper.

Yes! There are definitely those that don’t see eye to eye with me on this!

Just told my girlfriend your opinion of her ;) !

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Post by ogwh »

This doesn't help you maintain connections with people, it's emotional forgery and anyone caught using something like this will find their "connections" evaporate instantly.

If you want to maintain connections with people put the effort in, that's the substance of the connection in the first place. If you don't, then don't.

People want to feel like they matter to you, so you contacting them shows that you care about them and fulfills that need. This app is a betrayal of that.

Is this connected to an article from The Onion or something? A joke?

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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bdcp wrote: post #15

Neat. But where in the world do you live that you only need SMS? I'd give it a go if it works with WhatsApp

As a first stab I went with SMS text messages because the functionality is built into the device and the app can easily access the SMS messaging history on the device to make better decisions. I plan to review support for WhatsApp, Facebook Messenger and friends in the future.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Post by azinman2 »

29athrowaway wrote: post #17
officialjunk wrote: post #14

Earlier quoted context omitted.

or give them a link?

That too but the name is an important factor.

The more important factor is the actual execution. And the reality is this is has been done, many, many times. In fact a friend recently wrote a version of this in order to learn Swift.

Ultimately it’s a social problem not a technological problem. I don’t think this is quite hitting the nail on the end. The author said part of the motivation was that his gf wanted periodic reach outs during the day. Automating this isn’t the solution because it’s totally inorganic. They need to figure their communication out themselves — this isn’t the right path that’s sustainable.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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imagine99 wrote: post #40

Is there a function for this to populate the clipboard with the predefined text and maybe open the messaging program (like Signal, Telegram, Wire, WhatsApp)? This way it could also be used relatively easily with these apps which probably can't be automated like SMS...

As an initial start I went with SMS text messages because the functionality is built into the device and the app can easily access the SMS messaging history on the device to make better decisions. I plan to review support for WhatsApp, Facebook Messenger and friends in the future.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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riedel wrote: post #38
MiguelHudnandez wrote: post #26

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It is rational to devalue automatic communication. The birthday card you get from your dentist is not valued. That said I have lost touch with a lot of friends I care about. The best friends are those you can pick back up without maintenance I think.

I second that, but follow up reminders and warnings if you are to eager are really helpful, so reframing this app as helper and let people manually edit the messages is much better. I think particularly sentiment analysis on incoming and outgoing messages would be really helpful for many people not so good at casual communication. Maybe the app should start sending automatically if you really cannot decide for an opt…

Please know, by default, the app will not take any action and largely act as a helpful reminder, and I highly recommend this type of use.

Re: Show HN: I’m an introvert – made an app to help maintain connections with people

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Post by mathattack »

binkHN wrote: post #41
mathattack wrote: post #6

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Thank you for sharing! If you don’t mind - has anyone come back to you concerned about automated notes seeming disingenuous? (This could appear like a generic holiday card on what should be a more personal format) From you Medium post it clearly comes from the right place. Also - if your girlfriend is ok with this, and encourages you to finish the project, she’s a keeper.

Yes! There are definitely those that don’t see eye to eye with me on this! Just told my girlfriend your opinion of her ;) !

From personal experience, it will come off better if you ask her rather than wait for the other way around. Even though you’re an introvert!
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